i've been going out with him for almost 5 months and my friend told me that he told her that he's already had sex....i wasn't that suprised because he's 17(i'm 15)..my friend said he didn't want to tell her but she got it out of him and he doesn't want anyone to know...but i was kind of bothered by it because i found this out like a month ago and i thought we were both on the same level sexually...apparently we're not and i was wondering if i should ask him about it...the last time we hooked up i was sort of uncomfortable because i knew that he was so much more experienced than me even though we were just hooking up...he could tell something was wrong and asked me about it but i told him i was fine...should i ask him about his sexual past and act like my friend didn't tell me or should i tell him i know? i really don't know what to do? if i decide to ask him how would i start the conversation? i think it would be a really awkward conversation but i think i have the right to know...
2006-07-03 01:46:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i already know how many people he's slept with but he doesn't know that i know so my question is should i ask him and pretend like i don't know?
2006-07-03 02:03:21 · update #1
i'm not thinking of having sex with him i just think i have the right to know
2006-07-03 02:06:17 · update #2
He may feel like either (1) lying to inflate the amount of his experience - to somehow 'impress' you with his manhood experience, or (2) he may feel like he has to minimize his experience because you will feel like he sleeps around. Personally I would think more about preventing babies and VD. Good luck.
2006-07-03 01:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you have sex with somone you should know their sexual history. If you can't talk about it, you are not mature enough to do it. To start the conversation simply say "Things are moving forward with us, and before we do anything else I need to know if you've been with anyone else, and if you used protection." You don't have the right to know however any of the details of his past sex life, just if he's had sex before, and if he used protection. If he didn't use a condom in the past do not touch him again until he gets tested and you know for sure he is clean. 1 in 4 teenagers have Herpes. Dont let yourself be next.
2006-07-03 01:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong of you to be asking about his past sexual relationships with others...however,do not let it get in to you.Bear in mind that it's in the past...There's always a first time for everyone...Do not feel discouraged or disturbed just because you feel like you're not of the same level...It's simply childish and annoying... Sex is not for immature people...So be wise and grow up young lady...
Ciaoz
2006-07-03 01:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by MIzzMoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you should actually ask him if that is something that bothers you then you definately have each and every proper to carry it up. there is not any reason you should adhere to someone and sense uncomfortable round all of them the time even as all you're able to do is ask..ya comprehend? ok nicely merely tell him that your buddy became searching for you...(she became proper, that's why she advised you)...and advised you about his previous memories and that you've been stricken by utilizing it. undeniable and easily babe, no want to be stressful merely say what's on your ideas! strong success!
2016-10-14 02:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely you have a right to ask him! most people dont know this, but even by making out, you would be able to contract a sexually transmitted disease. if your boy performed any sort of oral sex on a female and she had a soar, either on her genetalia or in her mouth, and if she were to perform oral sex on him, he could be contracted with something. if this relationship is going to last, you have to learn to speak on your problems, not let them build inside and eventually burst out, making you look crazy. luckily, my b/f lost his virginity to me and hasent had sex with anyone else, and he knows about my past encounters. if there is honesty in the relationship, there is longevity
2006-07-03 03:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by MARIA G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no business asking him unless you are going to have sex with him BUT you shouldn't have sex with him because you are only 15 so don't ask.
2006-07-03 01:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they can't tell u then that means there is something they don't want u to know and that makes me wonder what that is if it wasn't bad why not tell
2006-07-03 01:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u want him to give him a chance to f*ck u & leave thn go & ask & even if u dont ask him u r already f*cked by a bloddy f*cker
2006-07-03 01:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 15 years old! you shouldn't be having sex.
2006-07-03 02:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WWWWOOOOOOWWWW!!! NNNNOOOO WAY!! LOL YOU WILL OPEN UP THE GATES OF HELL!!! DONT DO THAT TO YOUR SELF, IF YOU WANT TO BE SURE FOR STD REASON THEN GO GET TESTED THAT WAY,TELL HIM YOU NOT READY UNTIL YOU KNOW FOR SURE
2006-07-03 01:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋