that u dont want to "DO" it. my man just doesnt understand wen it comes to that. i need help.
2006-07-03 01:35:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same problem a some years ago.. and this guy pressured me so much, that I seriously considered it.. even though I wasn't ready.. After a while he left me for my friend who would.. and well.. I realized that he didn't really love me.. Years later, I met this guy, who never pressured me to do anything I didn't want to, he respected me, and loved me, treated me like a princess.. now we're married, and I am really happy I didn't get pressured into doing something I didn't want to, just because he "needed" it.. He's not for you, you need a guy who will respect you, and everything you stand for..
2006-07-03 02:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by verito 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will it be your first time or......... are you just saying that he had a higher sex drive than you??
If it will be your first time, then your man should understand and respect that fact. Don't be pressured into it by anyone at all. It is up to you when you lose your virginity not anybody else. If you were to have sex with him because you wanted to, he should feel honoured that you like him enough to let him be your first.
If you are saying "He wants it all the time but I don't" then I think that it is a more common problem than you realise. There are times during our lives and relationships when one partner has a higher sex drive than the other and it can be down to a million different reasons. I reckon the best thing to do is to talk about it between yourselves, so that you can reassure him that you still love him and find him attractive but due to current factors, you just aren't feeling in the mood as much. He can always masturbate if he finds himself getting desperate!!
2006-07-03 08:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not ready! And if he can't handle it, then its over. Just be straight! Or ask what else you can do to go around this. My gf is the same, but she realizes that we can do other things like hug/kiss/touch...its still very arousing...and I think if he can do that maybe he'll better understand how to turn you on, well thats my personal opinion.
I guess no is no, if he can't respect that then you shouldn't bother...I mean he can't force you but i'm sure you both can reach an agreement.
2006-07-03 08:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I endorse both alansc2005 & rx77156
1st,why u don't want to DO it?
2nd U don't know male in such case....hormons only work..
if u r ill ,,tell him frankly...
if u need more flirting....to be ready...ask him that ,
or make an agreement....if I put my hand on my head ,then it means need mor pushing...4 xmpl.
if u don't like him,,,,kick him out and lie down on bed..in safe
if he only that who spends his mony (as a wife or as G/F ) then.....
come on.......be more flexible
if u don't like IT,,,,tell him that i love you but without it...DEAL?
if he agree ok ,otherwise..leave him
2006-07-03 08:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by hora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the relationship and the maturity of the man. If you are underage (even though I know it happens) I will have to say hon please wait till you are 18 or older. However, if you are over 18 like I said it would depend on you, him and the status of the relationship. Talk to him that would be the best move. But, if you do proceed to the next "relationship level" please please protect yourself hon. Hope this helps.
2006-07-03 08:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may think he is telling you how attractive you are. Try this "I know you like my body and it turns you on, but don't ask me again until I tell you I might be ready because my answer is "no" right now." If he persists, he is after sex only and I would dump him.
2006-07-03 08:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the better thing is to explain him that you still don't feel to do that, and that he has not to insist with you anymore because when you will feel ready you will tell him
2006-07-03 08:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by dadda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing you need to do is explain what your values are.and dont compromise them.if he doesnt except them he doesnt love you.so just leave him.bye
2006-07-03 08:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by largopirate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he won't wait then he is not the right man for you...you want a man that will love you so much that he would wait until your ready
2006-07-03 08:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by frenchvanilla414@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just keep saying no...eventually it will get into his head that you are REALLY serious and if he doesn't respect you then you will have to think about dumping him because obviously sex is the only thing on his mind with you.
2006-07-03 08:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋