how do i get my one year to stop crying all the time?

Answer 1

Is she actually crying all the time - or does it just sound like that to you? We (mums) are biologically programmed to find our baby's cries very disturbing and it may feel like they are crying more than they actually are. Don't always feel like you have to run to her straight away but still make sue she is getting loads of cuddles and contact. White western culture (hope this is right - sorry for the assumption if not) has a comparatively low rate of contact between infants and parents.

Answer 2

First, determine why they are crying. All of us as parents have been through this at least once. Are they hungery, wet diaper, sick, or hurt? Those have always seemed to be the major reasons why a child will cry. If you can answer no to all of those, then you may have to see what your pediatrician has to say. Then it may be time to try a case of tough love. Does your baby stop crying when you pick them up?? If you answer yes to that.... well have I got one that some people will raise an eyebrow to.... place them in thier playpen, swing, jumper, etc.... and let them cry it out for a little bit. If the case is that when you pick them up they miraculously stop crying.... this cycle will never end unless you end it. You have to start slowly. Keep watch but from a distance... not where they can actually see you.... give them 5 minutes to cry it out.... then console, pick them up, hold them, etc....
The option is glueing them to you hip or ear plugs.

Answer 3

Patience. take deep breath and count to 20 or 100 whatever works there only1, and distraction always worked for me if they where having a gurney day we would try and do lots of things. don't have 2 b big things give her a, saucepan lid,or a small mirror or your mobile or my kids fave, unopened shiney big crisp bag they love the size noise and shape although you've spent loads a money on toys I'm sure. little kids love housey things to play with coz they think there not allowed them. I feel for you I have 2 kids 12mths apart and there 1and1/2 and 2and1/2. yes being a mum is a hard job, but it is without a doubt the best job in the world,
remember in a bit they'll stop crying and you'll get a smile and your heart will melt. B strong.

Answer 4

Many things can cause a baby to cry. Physical causes such as teething, hungry, tummy ache, nappy rash etc. The best thing to do is go straight to your doctor. He/she will be more than happy to help. A doctor will never say your wasting their time if it involves a baby. It could be something quite simple.

Answer 5

why is your one year old crying , attention ? pain and discomfort ?
this is the 1st thing to look at .
more than likely frustration and attention being 1 is a frustrating time for toddlers they begin wanting to get around and exploring their environments more , they still need lots and lots of praise and encouragement and loads of cuddles and love .
talk to your health visitor so you can get advice and talk to her perhaps on any medical issues that you think your toddler might have . there could be hundreds of reasons for this don't get down its properly temporarily although after a few days i understand you could be pulling your hair out .. good luck .

Answer 6

If the crying stops when you pick the child up, it simply needs your love and attention. If it doesn't, you need to investigate, and perhaps take it to the doctor. Remember babies can't communicate in any other way.

Answer 7

This sounds hard but being a parent is not easy. Take absolutely no notice when they are crying (except if the reason is genuine you know what I mean) A cry is hard to listen to, it is designed to be like that! so you have to resist. Whilst they are crying their lungs are fine!!! Reward and give attention for good times (you know when those are) Its hard but its not cruel, you do not want to bring up a demanding adult. Its hard but you have to do it. At bed time ... food clean water ... clean again then bed ... close the door AND DONT GO BACK IN !!!! NO DONT DO IT!!!

Answer 8

Firstly, note Kids usually cry for a reason so don't despair - this means we can fix it

it's just that it's a detective game - and they usually can't speak at this age so don't give many clues!

1. Physical reasons your OYO might cry are
- discomfort from nappy/diaper does he she have nappy (diaper) rash?
- pain somewhere in their body - could be teething , and or earache - check for redness on side of cheek, or if they put their hand up to that side
- internal pain - stomach ache - head ache - do they have a temperature ? have you tried a kids painkiller - are they lethargic and not their normal self - could be ill try the doctor
- tiredness - is OYO getting enough sleep - they needs LOADS of sleep - if they are over tired they will cry before they sleep and may actually need to be left for 5-10mins in their crib(cot) to settle to sleep


2. Mental reasons
- separation anxiety:
from about 9 months the child becomes aware that their carer (mom/dad etc) is a separate person from them and can leave - this causes panic initially and they will cry alot when you go out of the room even . things that help:
*basically, this stage passes if you consistently return to them after short separations - they will learn to trust that you are coming back but it may take up to a year before they get past the worst of this tricky developmental stage - be patient it's hard work being a parent - it's ok to feel fed up with it sometimes- we all do!! see if you can get your partner if you have one, to take some of the strain so you get a break
*also playing peekabo and "hide the object" games help them understand that objects (and people) are permanent and don't just disappear when you stop seeing them
*giving them a comfort object - toy cuddly animal (plush etc) that they can have to hand whenever they need comfort even when you are not there

- boredom - distraction is good - as someone said - anything that stimulates them - they have very short attention span at that stage so it is constant hard work to keep them interested

i had to string up a toy over the nappy change area else my son would cry because his couldn't play with his toy while his nappy was changed

- frustration - there is so much they want to say, do , understand , but they don't have language for it yet - try to teach them little signs - you can get books for this or make up your own - eg when they are thirsty and want milk they can make a hand to mouth holding bottle sign say, when they want to share with you that they saw something in the sky - a plane say - point with them and say "plane" and make a plane shape with your arms - soon they will learn and it helps to reduce frustration for them if they feel they are getting through to you better even on small things

- frustration at discipline - you say no to them putting their hand in the fire but they want to experiment - they don't understand you are saving them from getting burned - this is more of a 2 year old thing ("the terrible two's") but can happen at one year old also in my experience
*i found best thing for this is to be consistent with discipline and set strict boundaries - don't let them investigate first and then say no, they accept it better if you say no immediately ie *before* they get hooked into being interested in the item (fire/ electrical outlet/fingers in dvd player etc!)
*also explain why you are saying no - they may not understand your words but they will feel a sense that you are trying to communicate with them and help them and that seems to help them
*empathise with their emotions - say things like "you are sad, you are sad because ..., and then explain what they can do" again one is a bit young for them to fully understand but it helps them get how they are feeling and that there are words for it
and later they will be able to use those words to tell you how they feel *before* they blow up :-)

hope this helps

there are other things it could be too
but don't give up being a detective
there is almost always a reason and you don't need to be driven mad by their crying

good luck

parenting is a very hard job and anyone doing it deserves loads of credit

also don't worry - your oyo will be ok

and trust your instincts

Answer 9

Is he crying because of pain, not getting his own way, separation? Because he can't communicate and is frustrated?
Any more information on your child?

Answer 10

don't take a year. get help now. go to your doctor and tell them (don't be embarrassed, a lot of people have the same problem). they can likely help you or refer you to someone who can.

don't waste a year crying, or wait a year to get help. life's too short!