What can I do if my 3yr old is being bullied at nursery school?

Answer 1

At 3 years old, the problem is not bullying. It is inappropriate social interaction. This is the age when children learn to interact with other children. They often don't have the verbal skills to expresses themselves. It could be the first time they have been away from home and perhaps they are not used to being around other children, or sharing. I think it is important to realize that the 'bully' is just a child, who is also trying to learn how to fit in, etc. By taking your child out of the school, you are teaching your child that he or she is not strong enough to deal with problems. You are teaching them to run away, potentially setting the child up to see himself as a victim. You need to help your child express himself. Teach your child to say NO! STOP! loudly and forcefully. Practice it will your child. Build your child's confidence.

I will agree that no one wants to see their child hurt! By all mean let the teacher know what is going on! Ask wha they do to prevent this. What are their rules? How is the other child disciplined?

But please, keep in mind the other child is still only a child,, who also needs guidance and help.

Answer 2

If he/she is being bullied by the other kids, then tell the teachers so they resolve it and punish the bullying kids. If the teachers don't care or are the bullying ones, then tell your kid to make a hard time. Tell him/her to fight and scream so that the teachers have a headache. Make sure that before he/she gets a spanking, you withdraw him/her from the school. Put him/her in a different nursery. Then, perhaps plan some sort of further revenge on those teachers. Consider starting your own nursery and putting them out of business. Or talk to your local government representative about the ineptitude of such nursery people so that maybe more government regulations on nurseries exist. Then, perhaps that nursery will fail an inspection and go out of business. Then, try to lobby to stop unemployed people from getting welfare money. That way, those nursery teachers who lost their jobs in the closing of the nursery would perhaps starve to death without money for food, and you will have your revenge. Your kid's honor will be in tact. But maybe don't go to so extreme measures. I hope I helped.

Answer 3

The teacher is the one in charge of the classroom so I would talk to her and state your expectations of how your child is to be treated. You could also volunteer in the classroom a few hours a week (or whatever you can do) so that you can be present and get a better idea of how you and the teacher can collaborate to fix the problem. Also, there is a great program to help children deal with problems they face in the classroom called "Kelso's Choices". It has nine solutions a child can use to solve problems (as long as they are not in imminent danger). My favorite, and the first they learn, is "Tell them to STOP!" (In a forceful tone). If two of the solutions don't work, then the children are instructed to find an adult to help them.

One of the things I did when a child bullied another child is to say "I'm sorry but you are going to have to play by yourself because you are hitting (or whatever they are doing) my friend. If someone hit you, then I would do the same thing and take care of you." Ignore them regardless of what they say or do and soon they will learn that they will not be part of the group if they bully.

Answer 4

Definitely tell the staff. They should notice anything like this going on when it is with such young children - if they haven't noticed anything then I would consider moving nursery if you can - they don't sound too observant. Once they are across the situation it is mostly up to them to stop the behaviour - you cannot reason with 3 yr olds like you can with older children. Also, they need to keep an eye that it is just that your child that is being picked on, and whether he/she is also doing some bullying (sorry, but it can be the case). With children this young it is probably just a phase and wont last.

Answer 5

1. Go to the school and talk to the teacher.
2. Go to the school and talk with the school administrator.
3. Do not try to go directly to the bullies parents that will only cause further conflict.
4. Do not kick the kids butt or instruct your child to do so except in defense. Schools these days take a black and white approch to violents whoever hits first will most likely be thrown out. Never be the one hitting first.
5. If it is truly that bad then yes look for another school but talk to any new school to make sure you understand their polocies on handling bullies and make sure you agree with it.
6. And if all else fails talk to a lawer and sue the parents.

Answer 6

I would call a meeting with the principal,the teacher, the counselor and if you know the kid that's bullying your child, I would have the parents there too. It is our duty as parents to make sure our children are in safe hands through the course of the day. Some parents are too shy to call a meeting. KNOW this is OUR right as a parent and ALL involved need to be on the same level. It is up to the bully's parents to punish him/her,the way they see fit,we can not force parents to PARENT, and it's unfortunate. However,in the school ( just like anywhere else) there are RULES to keep order. If one violates those rules, one should remember that there WILL be a consequence and it will not be in their favor. Hope I've helped.

Answer 7

I'm afraid not much. Kids will be kids. Ask the teachers to keep thier eyes on them and speak to the parents. If all else fails, move your child to a different nursery. But don't worry, it often looks worse than it really is to parents. My son was bullied at primary school but has grown to be a very confident teenager.

Answer 8

While the child is in scholl , it is the resposibility of the school and the teachers/ head teachers to sort this kind of problem out and stamp out bullying. Good that you have mentioned it now while your child is still 3 . Nip this problem in the bud before it starts to escalate . You could get your child into somekind of defence classes maybe a bit later on . But make sure it is a dojo that teaches the value of dealing with agression without conflict and to be responsible with the skills taught. ( Reason to leave it for a couple of years when the child is a bit more grown up maybe )
Till then , keep trying to give your child confidence and lean on the school to sort it out while the child is there

Answer 9

tell the teachers and demand that they do something. Then find out who the bully is? If your kid is being bullied, my guess is that others are also being bullied by the same kid. Once you have all the facts, confront the kids parents (a 3yr old does not mind his mom protecting him, in fact i think he/she would welcome it). I think you should get the advice of a child psychologist or child professional, they know more about the cause and effect of childhood bullying.

PS: on the sly teach your little one how to give a mean punch.. right on the nose! just kidding

Answer 10

Speak to the staff, I have worked in a nursery- and although you try your utmost you can't pick up on everything that happens. The staff there wil always be willing to solve the problem with you- they are there to work with you not against you.
Try and keep a cool head, explain what is going on to the staff and find out what you can do together to solve it. Speak to your child and make sure they will always tell an adult if something happens to them.
All the best