Hi every one,
i am really upset, and i was wondering does any one no how i can get over someone who i can never have,
please this is serious question.
Thank you
2006-07-02 21:52:13 · 24 answers · asked by supernova 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Avoid them, and stay busy. And, for the record... it was 12 years before my hands didn't shake when I saw her. Now, I can see her anytime, and I'm fine. Your results may vary.
2006-07-02 22:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. In such situations I am very moody and things work differently in the various moods.
Some of the things that work (depending on mood):
Listening to sad songs (makes you feel not alone)
Reading interesting books (makes you forget yourelf and plunge into another person's story, a good distraction)
Doing something fun with your friends (again, a good distraction)
Talking with a good friend - either about how you feel, or about another problem (perhaps his/hers) or just for something totally different. A shared pain is half the pain.
Sitting on my own brooding (no need to deny your feelings, after a while I just get tired of cycling the same old thoughts and get back to cheerier things - don't try this if you are a depressive type)
Get a crash on somebody else. When your heart is full of somebody who cares for your, the pain on somebody who didn't is far less acute.
Things that have not yet worked for me.
"Try not to think about him" - I can't. I can actively take up another activity that will distract me and may help me feel less moody.
"Try not to show that it is a problem, and the pretence will come true" - hell, no. I need to let it out of my system or I go back to that problem for years. It becomes a slow-working poison. So - have a good cry, tell somebody all about your feelings, whatever.
Good luck, and I do simpathyze.
2006-07-02 22:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is at the moment, 2 ways that I have been able to get over someone that I love, besides time is:
Short term - Get your closest girlfriends together and go out on a night out on the town, where there are alot of hot men, and you know it's a sure thing, where your going to get alot of attention, and drink alot of shots.
Long Term - Take yourself off on an extended vacation over the other side of the world, work over there if you need to, and put yourself in a completely different surroundings with no reminders.
Good luck mate, I hope you feel better soon.
2006-07-02 22:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by terrilouise73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice someone gave me was to make sure that when you go out you are seen to be enjoying yourself, smiling and having fun. If you start feeling unhappy go home!
This has helped me get over my ex who i see regularly as we live next door to each other, and i now don't think about him much and am enjoying my life. If you do this (even tho it's hard at first) it really does get better and in the end you don't think about being happy because you are happy.
The other thing is to keep busy so you don't have time to think. I am so much more active than i was and have lost a few pounds in the process.
The most important thing is get out there, don't hide under the duvet, and start living your life.
Good luck, it's hard i know.
x
2006-07-02 23:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with some friends, looking gorgeous get pissed and just have some fun u don't have to go home with anybody but it does help u get over someone! Just try not to spend to much time alone that will just make u feel worse, go out live a little no point dwelling on the past just have fun and live for the moment!
2006-07-02 22:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by blondebirdcrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get your pals together, have a big night out, and try 2 pull. Its a confidence booster. there's no quick fix to this unfortunately, hte more often you go out, thwe more people you will meet, and there will be one or more you really like. just don't talk about this person anymore, the less you can talk about it, the less you will think about it. also write a list of their bad points, and look at it every now and then to remind yourself what you dont have to deal with.
2006-07-02 21:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Layla P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with your close friends, those who really care for your welfare. When you are with them, you'd won't feel alone and unwanted.
Devote your time to bettering yourself. Read books, go to museums or see movies. Those kind of activities will help you not think of the guy you are forgetting.
Learn to accept the situation and just move on. Remember, acceptance is the first step to forgetting about him. :)
2006-07-02 22:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jo Ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will cure a broken heart.Try doing things that you really enjoy and find new things to do to occupy time.Who knows,you may even find someone new in the process or make a bunch of new friends.Through time ,you will eventually get over him and move on to another.Trust me,it is all part of growing up and happens to almost all of us at least once in life but time always helps to heal.
2006-07-02 21:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by jlthomas75844 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem, i was fine for a bit cos i didnt c her 4 a month or more then my mate told me she got a fella and is pregs now i cant get her outta my head. wot im tryin 2 say is if u try 2 erase the person out ur life it mite make u feel better.
2006-07-09 12:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by reaper0159 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy and go out with friends. I know you will still have that person in the back of your mind but you do need to keep busy. Life isn't easy. I'm sort of in that situation too. It does hurt knowing you can't have that person you care for so much. But we have to be strong and have our pride! Hey,and to bad for them It's there loss right?
2006-07-02 22:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋