HALP..... my son who is 4 won't sleep in his bed.....?

Question

how do i get him to stay out and sleep in his own room?WHEN I LOCK MY DOOR...HE SIMPLY BUNKS OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM DOOR....is that normal?

Answer 1

aww he prob. misses you thats normal

Answer 2

no offense , but you should have tackled this when he was much younger. unfortunately we all have made simular mistakes .
as far as being normal for him to bunk outside your door . i would say yes. he is trying to get as close to you as he possibly can and if right in front of the door is the closest then he will take it .
have you tried to put him in his room with a baby gate infront of the door way ? this may help keep him in . or possibly allowing him to fall asleep in a place he is fine with and moving him .
also you can do a chart with stickers and tell him if he sleeps in his room each night he will get a small prize when he puts a sticker on the chart. [buy a bag of candy and give him one or 2] then if he sleeps in his room a certain ammounts of nights he gets something bigger . if he sleeps in there all week , you will take him out and do something special each week he completes a week .
that is my best suggestion . usually kids like stickers and getting treats for doing things.
good luck .

Answer 3

Do yourself and your kids a favor and teach them good sleep habits...how to sleep in their own bed and how to put themselves back to sleep if they wake up in the night. This empowers them and makes them self assured and independent. A great book I read that helped me with my 3 kids when they were little, the author is Ferber. My friend and I would joke about how I Ferberized my kids. I have 3 kids. They are now 13, 10 and 8. They all sleep well and so do my husband and I !

Answer 4

I co-sleep with all my babies.... when they are old enough to understand.. somwhere between the age of 2 and 3.... I explain to them that they are too big to sleep in mommy and daddy's bed. but that if they feel the need to be secure next to mom and dad, to grab a blanket and a pillow and sleep on the floor.... sometimes they protest, but I remind them that they have a comfy bed in their own room if they want to be comfy.. if they are sleeping in mom and dad's room, its on the floor. This way, if they need comfort from a night mare or whatever, that need is still being met and you still get your bed... This has worked so far for 3 out of 4 of my children. We will soon be starting this with the youngest who is 21 months old. I just weaned him from breastfeeding, so we have to give it time for before we start the new routine.. heck we still have to get his crib out of our room yet.... eventually.. without a fight or crying and a screaming battle, they will stay in their own room on their own... within a couple of months... Hope this helps.

trish

Answer 5

Make a sleep chart - and for each night he sleeps in his own bed give him a sticker - when he gets to say 5 stickers take him somewhere fun (maybe like a park, or a playland)
It works well as kids love to earn stickers, and even more love the reward

Answer 6

each time he comes out of his bed go and put him back. He will soon learn that he needs to sleep in his bed. Most kids I know had problems with sleeping in their own rooms but they get their in the end. Dont give up!

Answer 7

let him have a sleep over in his room when he sees all the other big kids his age go to sleep by themselves he will feel encouraged to do it as well. Also, make him feel like a big kid and give'em a treat ever time he sleeps alone untill he has gotten used to it. he he takes his lunch to school tell him you will put extra cookies in his box or fruit roll up or something. Or give him something like a bear or his favorite toy to sleep with.

I have a 2 year old and the 3 foot Spongebob stuff toy is the best thing her auntie could've bought for her. I make her feel like she is a big girl so she wants to do big girl things and she gets rewards when she does.

Answer 8

Why does everyone act like this is a behavior problem that will harm your child. They are missing you or just want to be with mom and dad cause it feels safe or good to them. Enjoy it and before you know it they will grow out of it and be too cool to kiss you goodbye let alone cuddle with mom and dad! Stop listening to everyone telling you to get a grip on this horrific problem. Letting your kids sleep with you will not turn them into burdens on society, or be bad kids. Deal with more serious problems, and if that's the only problem you have with your child, I'd count my blessings.

Answer 9

It is normal, he just wants to be with mommy. But you just need to talk to him and let him know that he needs to stay IN his bed and sleep in it like a BIG BOY. Also an extreme solution to the problem is put up a baby gate.

Answer 10

wow i need help with this too!!!!!!!i think its normal!!!we put ours in bed and at about 2 am or so everynite she crawls in with us,and we are usually to sound asleep to notice.i think it will stop once they realize from other kids that its not cool to sleep with mommy and daddy!!!when that will happen i have no idea!!but eventually he also might just get tired of sleeping on the floor .some friends of ours still use a baby gate to keep there 5 year old in his room and that seems to work!!!

Answer 11

I have a 5yr old and he still come get in my bed. and its normal. He use to do it every night but now its down to twice a week if even that. But what i use to do is let him fall asleep in my bed and put him in his and that work for awhile then he just start sleeping in his own bed.

hope this helps.