My brother is a role model for me, yet he thinks that all my friends and I are dumb. How do I get him to respect me?
2006-07-02 20:52:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel your pain. I look up to my brother soooo much and he's the most amazing person I know. Growing up I always felt like he looked at me like i was a dumb kid. My friends were never cool enough to date his friends...yadda yadda yadda. Then toward the end of high school, he dated a girl that was a year younger than him that was in my grade and that wall started to come down. Some of his friends dated some of my friends and the gap grew closer and closer. When he left for college, it was a big changing point in our relationship. I was a piece of home, you lose contact with some of your high school friends and you really start to appreciate you family for who they are. He's done so many great things with his life and I always feel like I'm playing catch up to him because he's a hard act to follow. He has lived in Australia for 2 years now and I miss him a lot. Recently I graduated from college and he wasn't able to be there because of his job in Australia. He woke up at 4am his time so that he could call me during my commencement. He expressed his pride in me and it was a very emotional conversation for the both of us.
I started to realize that he was always the hardest on me because he wanted the best for me and saw a lot of potential in me. It was his way of showing that he cared without being all mushy about it. Boys are sometimes not very good at expressing their emotions either and that will change with age and maturity.
2006-07-02 21:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Renee' 3 · 14⤊ 2⤋
Show him that you can do better than him. Anyways, he doesn't sound like a real role model to me. How can your brother think of you and your friends as dumb? No real concerned brother would ever think that of his sibling. Bright or not, a role model brother would be there, support you, and above all respect you and your friends. So, if I were you, I'd go straight up to him and tell him that - straight to his face.
2006-07-02 20:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your behaviour. Think about how you act when you're alone with him, and then think how you act with your friends. Is it different? Why? Are you pretending to be dumb or silly when your'e with your friends because you think guys like girls who act like Jessica Simpson?
What do you that is mature? What are your interests (and I don't mean music and TV)? How do you find out what is happening in the world around you? Do you understand your place in the global community? Can you take responsibility for yourself and your actions? Do you actively work to make the world a better place?
Can you understand why your brother might think you're a little immature?
2006-07-02 20:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jetgirly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have nothing to prove to anyone but urself, and God above. if your brother can't see past that, then ur old enough to know right from wrong. Let ur actions speak for you and ur friends. matureity comes in many forms..You can also be a role model to him
2006-07-02 20:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by back2skewl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can be right and he can be wrong. Figure that out. But if you think he is wrong don't change, be yourself. He's not perfect either. But it doesn't hurt to find out why he act that towards you and your friends. Don't be stress trying to figure it out - just ask him.
Jetgirly--i respect ur opinion but cut the crap, you way over the board.
2006-07-02 21:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by NikeT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A one-to-one talk is highly recommended... Have an open conversation with him.. Talk your feelings out..
But before you start the conversation, you must make him promise not to critic anything you say... He can provide positive feedbacks and perhaps give comments on what he would do to try making you feel disrespected..
I wish you all the best my fren...
Cheers... (",)
2006-07-02 20:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ellusive Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as an older sibling myself I can understand your brother's position but I can also understand your wanting to be like him (my sister was like that with me). My advice: don't try to hang around with him all the time especially when his friends are around. Try to get him to do something with just you from time to time; something you both like to do. Don't pester him too much and try to focus on your life and your friends. Go ahead and look up to him but live your own life. Who knows? Maybe as you both get older, you will become better friends than you were as kids. My sister and I did.
2006-07-02 20:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by rianon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - you didn't say whether he is older or younger than you... if he's older - don't matter! He's probably right (in a way)
If he's younger - OUCH!
You could probably try doing something that you are good in and excell - not usually academic but whatever - show him you know something as well!
2006-07-02 20:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Chellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some smart friends.
2006-07-02 20:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem but i said screw it its not worth me worring about.now my older brothers look up to me and respect me because i am who i want to be not what everone else wants me to be.good luck hope it helps
2006-07-02 20:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋