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Question

Friend or more than friend?

I dont know what to do about this girl I work with..
I knew her before she started working with me and we have become good friends and we have gone to a couple of movies (as friends??) and I dont know what she wants....a boyfriend or a good friend

thanks for the quick responses....
by the way if it really helps any....
we kinda did an akward moment thing where we didnt know what to do after we went home from the movies.... hug? kiss??

so she just gave me a hug :D
so if that helps

Answer 1

Yea i don't know either. I figure if a girl wants you more than that, she'd make it clear somehow. But then again, some guys really seem to be dense and can't read the subtle signs at all. Sad, but true. Just be a friend until you're sure she seems to want more.

Answer 2

try not putting too much thought into it and let life happen. Be a friend and relax about the whole situation if romance is meant to happen it will. Nobody every truely knows what they want in a person and it changes daily as we change within. Hey just be yourself without any expectations of her and hope she doesn't have any of you and neither of you will disappoint each other. When we expect things from others we often get let down and it can hurt. Be a loving friend who happens to be a boy. If your feelings are strong for her and you need more then tell her, most chicks dig guys they can talk to easily and who are their friends, relationships can get complicated when we loose sight of the friendship and intimacy (sex) gets in the way of what was already a healthy relationship. Ask yourself what do you want from your friendship with her that you have not already got and try not to read too much into it. Be yourself be loving be honest and in time what will be will be if it's meant too.

Answer 3

If you are really good friends, it shouldn't be a problem for either of you to ask the other person if they are interested in being more than friend. Yes, I know it might sound hard, but at least try. And from what you say, about none of you not knowing what to do, hug?? or kiss??, it's obvious you're not the only one who is confused.

Answer 4

You are a real lallu , fool , allow the life to flow its natural way .She is also flowing with the time in very normal , honest friend's company . Stop , allowing your mind for questions and questions and questions . Think you goth are leading a very normal and joyful life , lf something will happen will be happen , you both can not stop

Answer 5

Before you embarass yourself by asking her what she wants...

...what is it that you want?

Obviously you're having a tough time "reading" her signals...
so identify what you want...and go from there.

if you just want friendship...
then show her the kind of friend you can be...

if you decide you want something more....you'll be sending those signals in no time.

Just be careful...
there's a reason business ethics discourage dating colleagues.

Answer 6

Stick with being a good friend... Don't make any moves, but follow her lead... Show her that a platonic male/female relationship can work... ;)

Answer 7

i guess if u r really good friends, u could ask her out an a date and ask about her real feelings....if u like her, and she likes u too..well...we have a match !!

Answer 8

well this is really simple ask her.....i mean you should feel a certain vibe or something of her wanting to be more than just friends right....

Answer 9

Ask her ... you may be wringing your hands over nothing. My question to you though: What do you want out of this situation?

Answer 10

Honesty is the best policy................

ASK HER what she wants and where she thinks the relationship is going, maybe she wants the same thing that you do.