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I have a big problem, my best friend has this huge crush on this guy for like forever we even think that she is obsessed with him.Well the problem is that he never used to talk to me at all he would sometimes say hi but thats it.Well now he has called me in my cell and started talking as friends.Which I dont know what to do if to tell her or not but I still dont know how he is going to react in front of people.And there is another part to the story he is friends with a guy that I like and he suspects that I like his friend which I dont know If he is going to tell him that we talk on the phone.But....... well I think that he is cute in a way but the thing is that I care most about what my friend is going to say about this when she finds out if she finds out.Please help me I dont know what to do this is very confusing.

2006-07-02 19:58:49 · 19 answers · asked by Shy gurl 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

19 answers

Whatever you do do NOT date him. Don't ruin your trust over a guy, I wouldn't do that over a girl. People seem to have lost a sense of loyalty and the people who do have it are so hard to find that the guy will probably pursue you more. If he keeps it up then tell your friend you think he likes you and see how she reacts. Then again, do you want to be known as the girl that will take your friends prospects like that? I mean she isn't dating him, but you know she likes him, and you taking him over would be a bad move. Good luck sweetie!

2006-07-02 20:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 3 · 0 0

First off...if nothing is going on with you and this guy and you aren't interested in him then don't keep it a big secret that you're talking to him. When your friend finds out (and she will) you'll look very guilty. It's a good thing that he knows you're interested in his friend...let this guy be the link between you and your crush and you can be the link between your friend and her crush. You and your friend could both end up with the guys you like if you're honest about it all. Talk to her and tell her that he called you and that you're friends with him...tell her that you think he might get you closer to your crush. (That should ease her mind that you aren't into "her" man.) Let her know that you'll support her and help plan things to get her and this guy together so they can talk and see where it leads. Good luck!

2006-07-02 20:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by jncsquared 1 · 0 0

Well if you like this guy's friend..start talking to the friend and let this dude know that ur not interested. Dont make the mistake of hooking up with this dude because it will definitely hurt ur friendship. I already had my two best friends go through something like that..and at the end no one got to go out with this fool cuz he would've just caused problems in their friendship. Always remember....CHICKS BEFORE *****! lol.

2006-07-02 20:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Guys have difficulty verbalizing there feelings. Help him by addressing this one on one. He probably never talked to you before because he liked you and was shy and didnt have the courage or didnt want to make a fool of himself. Tell him you think he is cute. Ask him direct is his intent that we be just friends or something more. If he wants to be friends you have nothing to worry about with your girlfrind, If he really likes you and you hime just tell your girlfriend what has happened. If she is a good freind she will understand if she is not and she gets pissed at you to hell with her, she doesnt care about you only herself but you found yourself a good boy to be with and thats worth the sacrifice of a superficial girl aquaintence.

2006-07-02 20:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by latitude58_8 2 · 0 0

I was in a similiar situation. I say forget the guy if your friend means more to you. Cause in the end it'll be the biggest betrayal to her. I was not obsessed with the guy but I liked someone and she did everything in her power to get with him. I lost trust in her and felt like I didn't need her as my friend. So needless to say after that I never spoke to her again. I can't be around 'Friends' who would do things like that knowning it would hurt me. Leave him alone if your friendship means more to you. There are many guys out there.

2006-07-02 20:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is very simple to me...if you have a best friend and you know and have known that she likes him etc...you need to tell him point blank to stop calling you and cut him off ....fast. A true I mean a TRUE FRIEND are few and very hard to find.

2006-07-02 20:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

friends are more important so dont risk that, tell her and ask her if she minds and if she does then dont talk to him.. this sorta happened to me my best friend like this guy but he never really liked her and one time he started talking to me in front of her , when he left i just said he must think im you(we looked alot alike)anyway she said no he knows its you but she didnt care and we ended up dating for years even living together

2006-07-02 20:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0 0

i know it might be hard but make it clear to him that u aren't interested and maybe tell him good things about ur friend to kind of get her name in there and maybe he will talk to her. that would be the loyal thing to do for ur friend! i mean would u like it if u really liked someone and she just stole him from u..i bet u would be pretty bummed huh!

2016-03-27 02:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Set up your friend and this guy and ask him if he will intoduce you to the guy you like and doule date with them boyfriends come and go but female friends if good friends stay together for long time

2006-07-02 20:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Leveler 6 · 0 0

Well, if she's truly your friend tell her.. if you like his friend tell him to hook you two up. Then you will hook him up with your friend.. it all works...

If she is really a friend, you have nothing to hide, right..?
Let her know soon.. if you like his friend.. well then air the whole story.. people get damaged over lack of communication.

Best to be honest, always. All we really have is our reputations, integrity and respect. You'll get what you give...later

2006-07-02 20:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ten B 1 · 0 0

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