How do i take control of my anger? I get angry quickly and am like a wild bull set lose when angry.?

Question

Though the anger lasts naximum 5 min but it desroys much. only 2 weeks back i almost killed a man because his phone was not on silent in the movie hall and it was irritating me. He was admitted to the ICU and i was arrested but was released on bail with a warning and this is not the first incident. Please tell me how do i control my anger????

Answer 1

Get a dream, that's how. Redirect your anger into something positive. Let me share something if anyone thinks they won when getting angry at someone, because the damage you do to yourself in big time:

One scientists took the DNA from someone angry and put it in a rat. That rat died fast. That's what's anger doing to you. Killing you slowly and that's what I figured out with myself. So how did I do it?

I read books. I read books on self development because the only reason someone gets angry over someone's comment or mimicking is because they lack knowledge, ignorance, and not real strength inside. Sure, one can be big and strong externally but a man, a real man shows it from not losing his temper.

Some simple steps you can try. If something angers you, first do this:

Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."

Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy. I'm stronger than this." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.

Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination. (this works big time. See something that gets you relaxed, Anything i.e. the ocean, or island, whatever image that reminds you and gets you relaxed.)

When you are at home, read books on self development. Books on Atttitude, Positive Mental Attitude, Habits, the principles of success by Napolean Hill. Grow from inside instead of just outside and trust me, what the big difference it has on you if you give it time.

You get angry because you can't solve a problem, shut someone else up. But really, its that voice inside one needs to shut up, that voice that says, "he made funny of me?! I'm going to deck him one! I'll kill him!"

We need to take responsibility for our actions and not blame it on our anger. We need to change, we need to understand that we need knowledge, to be able to solve problems. The solving of something getting you angry is solved by moving on, by knowing your better, stronger and YOU GOT A DREAM and your PURSUING IT and you don't have time for losers. It ain't a big deal. Let them do whatever.

Angry people tend to jump to—and act on—conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate. The first thing to do if you're in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.

Listen, too, to what is underlying the anger. For instance, you like a certain amount of freedom and personal space, and your "significant other" wants more connection and closeness. If he or she starts complaining about your activities, don't retaliate by painting your partner as a jailer, a warden, or an albatross around your neck.

It's natural to get defensive when you're criticized, but don't fight back. Instead, listen to what's underlying the words: the message that this person might feel neglected and unloved. It may take a lot of patient questioning on your part, and it may require some breathing space, but don't let your anger—or a partner's—let a discussion spin out of control. Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.

Changing Your Environment:-
Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the "trap" you seem to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap.

Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some "personal time" scheduled for times of the day that you know are particularly stressful. One example is the working mother who has a standing rule that when she comes home from work, for the first 15 minutes "nobody talks to Mom unless the house is on fire." After this brief quiet time, she feels better prepared to handle demands from her kids without blowing up at them.


Finally, mate, everyone is human. No one is perfect, even grown ups. You and I, as men, have a responsibility to society, and even if someone does something stupid, we got to rise above. Why?

Because when we hit someone, he could be someones father, someone's son, someone's friend, someone's loved one. Each action effects not just one person but through the line, it effects a whole number of people we don't even know.

You at least, want to change and this takes pure guts. That is character for definite. You took the first step. And a thousand miles is started with the first step. You've took that first step, finish the journey now and get it sorted.

And use your anger to channel in helping yourself to make your dreams happen or someone else's dream happen.

Answer 2

You need to get some professional help right away. I'm surprised that the judge didn't order it although you're not clear about whether you are still out on bail and have a court date; or whether you've had your final court date and were only given a warning.

In any case, with the situation that you describe, you might kill someone and presently are unable to control this.This is way too serious and immediate a problem to think about trying to count to 10 or looking for an anger management class.What if you killed someone tomorrow! Think not only of the person that you would have lilled but also where you would be for the next 15 to 25 years - or longer as I don't know what state you live in.

Medication might help you a lot and you need to get to the bottom of the problems that you are having. You don't give enough info in your question to be more definate about what your problem or problems may be. For an example if you were abused as a child, you probably have a lot of supressed rage in you and an anger management class alone won't do it.

Please see a doctor, preferably a psychiatrist, as soon as possible. Both for your sake and for the people around you.
Also, why not ask God to help you with this in addition to the professional help. He loves you you know, and wants to help you.
You might ask, if He loves me so much, why do I have have to ask? I'm not sure, but it seems to make a big difference. If you don't believe, why not ask Him for help anyway? It can't hurt anything and you can use all the help you can get. He's helped me alot over the years.

Answer 3

There are several ways to help you control your anger.First I would recommend an anger management class.Its amazing what talking to others in the same situation can help. I'm sure you have heard of count to 10 before you say or do anything when you are angry.I suggest counting to 100 instead. And finally,you need to find out what you are really angry about.No one almost kills someone because of a cell phone.Please get some help before you ruin your life-or someone Else's. Also-do you have any close friends you can confide in? Sometimes they know more about you then you realize and may be able to help. Good luck-at least you have recognized you have a problem that's the first step to getting better.

Answer 4

Some may say yoga is best some may say that think of good times bt i will say take it out Anger is nothng much than a opening given by god to forcefully get ride of ur emotions which are trapped inside u. It is just like crying bt when u are angry dnt take it out on others or else after becoming angry u will have to cry or may u wont have anything left. So bring out ur anger and the best way to do so is laugh and tell what ever comes to ur mind bt when u r alone

Answer 5

Try and get into some anger management classes, they done wonders for my mate who had the same problem man, and he's been good for 6 years now, he has done a lot of time before this and wishes he got help before hand, don't be embarrassed about it , you need to be a big man to admit when you need help and even bigger to seek it. Good luck buddy you are half way there by recognising you need help-now go get it and you will respect yourself and others when then respect you too-All the best !!

Answer 6

Ok-you need to get counseling for impulse control, and quickly. This will probably be part of your sentence, anger management.

This anger doesn't just appear, you have thought patterns that keep you agitated. One incident takes you to a primal "survival" mode. That's when you lash out, attempting to regain control.

Anger comes from a feeling of being "out of control" of your life. You compound it with your thought patterns and you are like a thermometer, getting hotter and hotter. You have to remove the heat before you boil over and turn into a caveman, fighting for your "life"

That's what you need to learn, coping skills and techniques to diffuse your anger before you lose control of your behavior. It can be done but you have to really work hard and figure out what;s going on in your head and the way you were "programmed" by your upbringing. "Self-soothing" is what you need to work on in oreder to gain control.

You can do it- I did. Just start NOW and find a counselor...

Answer 7

I hope this will help you.

Anger, like all emotion are not easy to control but it can be, if you really set your mind out to try. I know, cos I am just like that.

Firstly, you must decide to NOT get into RAGE. Big difference between Anger and RAGE.

Secondly, go about, your daily routine and be aware of your own commitment. Its ok to be angry, and when you do, REMEMBER to not allow yourself to get into RAGE stage.

Calm yourself down as soon as you can.

When you are have a quiet time, reflect upon what really trigger your rage, and anger, and finally, try to resolve that feeling.

Hope it help.

Answer 8

I think you need to see a psychiotrist and get on some anxiety relieving medicantion and learn to be able to manage your anger at the same time.
you need to learn that you can't just go and hit somebody because your pissed, you just don't do that.
one day somebody is probably going to put you in the ICU if you don't control your temper and then your going to be realy sorry because some people have guns and they'll shoot you. so try to stay away from trouble otherwise your going to get yourself in a lot of trouble one day, so get some help before that day comes.

Answer 9

the question here is not how you control your anger.It is what triggers your anger.Thy to find what type of events happens right before you have an anger spell and try too avoid them.You don't want to be institutionalized, do you.I don't think so...
Nip it from the bud.What causes your anger?Find it and avoid it.
Get away from the situation while your rational side is in control.
Ignore your instincts.(if they are not beneficial)

Answer 10

well i spose you can admit it and thats a good thing, have you thoght of getting help or just walking away? even counting to a high numer and if you havent settled down than you could do again. what will you do when you come out of your anger mood and realized that you have really hurt someone? they might not get sent to icu and you may never get bail.
good luck

Answer 11

hellow...
wild bull is strong.. it has power.. the greater the power, the greater control it need..
so you have to practice control..
i recommend you try to practice meditation.. observing the mind, the impulses that send reaction to your mind to burst in anger..
by determination in practice, you will gain more awareness and you have 'more time' to decide wether you're going to burst in anger or not.. mostly the problem of quick temperament person, he/she seems to have 'little time' to make decision.. the impulses is so quick that seems like he/she can't control himself/herself..
hope it'll help...
anger is emotional power... just like energy, it can't be destroyed but you can convert it so you can strengthen others rather frightening people..