i have bad dreams evey night about my ex husband. i would like to understand more about this
2006-07-02 19:02:35 · 15 answers · asked by runoffpitbulls 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dreams are thoughts that you have thought the previous day and didn't finish the thought. so in other words, if you think, "i wish i didn't get a divorce" and don't find a supporting thought, it will stil B in ur mind when u go 2 sleep. then u will dream about it. the kind of dream usually reflects the thought, if it was a happy thought it will B a dream where u prevail, if it was an angry or sad thought, it will usually b a bad dream. good luck with getting over them, i've gone through a stage like that b4, it will end.
2006-07-02 19:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by barneys_assasin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been since you got divorced? It's not unusual to have dreams a long time after a traumatic event, and divorce is certainly a traumatic event, even if you left him. How are you doing during the day when you're awake? Do you feel pretty good or do you feel depressed, sad, or anxious? Did you feel victimized by your husband during your marraige or by the divorce? Usually both parties have these feelings and harbor a lot of repressed anger and/or fear(anxiety). Unless you have worked through these feelings they will stay with you somewhere and can easily show up in our dreams. After my wife left me I went to a separated and divorced support group for 3 years and found that extremely helpful. Also it was sponsered by a church so that it was free, that was a big help too. It's been 4 years now and I stil carry some unresolved feelings in me but it is much better.
The other thing is where is your ex-husband in your life now? If he is still causing problems for you(I'm not taking sides), what he says or does will bring memories from the marriage back to your awareness and the painfull emotions along with the memories. Usually we have to resolve any problems we're having with our "ex" in the present in order to not be reminded of problems of the past.
Are your "bad dreams" ones where you do negative things to him or he does negative things to you? That can be a clue to the unresolved emotions/conflicts that that may be causing these dreams.
How much are these bad dreams bothering you? I'm sure you feel really bad when you're experiencing them. Are you in enough pain to want to see a counselor to get this taken care of as soon as possible? You may want to see a medical doctor to get some help with this from medications. If the problem is less severe, you might want to check out some self help books on dealing with anger, anxiety, or post divorce issues. I found several of these helpful.
Usually, repetitive dreams are caused by intense emotions.
I enlisted in the Air Force after High School for 4 years. Now, I'm glad I served, but during those 4 years I hated being in terribly!
After I finally was discharged and came home, I had terrible nitemares where I dreamed that I had reenlisted and had to wait another 4 years to get out again! I had these nitemares 4 0r 5 nites a week for a year and it took about 4 or 5 years before they didn't happen at all any more. Of course, I never looked for any help with this as I didn't know anything then.
I hope this has helped at least a little. God bless you.
2006-07-03 03:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad dreams usually happen because there is some aspect of your life that you don't feel you have control over. Dreams are a way your mind tries to work feelings or situations out. A lot of times the people in our dreams actually represent part of ourselves, not the actual person in the dream.
2006-07-03 02:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by led girl ; ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say dreams are a release of your subconcious mind...it sounds like you're having anxiety dreams. You may have unresolved issues with the ex that are coming out in your dreams. I don't know what happened between the two of you, but hopefully in time you can get whatever problems you have with him straightened out and the bad dreams will cease.
2006-07-03 02:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Miss U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found that my bad dreams are indicators of deep issues, conflicts, or otherwise "bad" things going on inside me. I pay very careful attention to my nightmares, because they often reveal personality flaws or other issues that my conscious mind keeps suppressed. Start writing a diary of your dreams, and study them to see if you can find any kind of pattern. It would also help to talk to a relative or close friend about your dreams. Hope that helps! =)
2006-07-03 02:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know but its been so long since ive had a good dream. Every single night i dream about something horrible.
2006-07-03 02:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that he had alot of control over you. Or maybe you worry alot about him. My son was in the military and I was so worried and would dream of the world ending.
2006-07-03 02:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by SORAIDA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have sleep apena i had wierd dreams untill i got a breathing machine
2006-07-03 02:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by talonmcl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends a lot on how he treated you. Also you can get help resolving them by seeing a hypnotherapist. Reprogram your mind for happiness and success.
2006-07-04 00:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when he moved out, he took all the marshmallows with him...
I know, it's sad, but without further information, that's the best guess I can make...
2006-07-03 02:09:36 · answer #10 · answered by fitpro11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋