We have known each other for over a year and half. He is from another country and back home to visit his mother and family. I have not told my mother yet about the wedding because she will go off on me and say that he will not be allowed in her house. She did this to my last fiance and was so mean to him that he could not take it and left. My mother has never met my fiance because I did not want to start a family fued. She has not met him but yet she does not like him. The other thing is I am not getting married in the catholic church. I am having my wedding in a non denomination church. My sister was told that when she got married if it was not in a catholic church my mother would not attend. My father is dead, so he wont be there. My mom will do what ever she can to stop this wedding and ruin it for me. What should I do. I love this man. My brother and sister wont be there because they have to do what mommy saids..........
2006-07-02 18:54:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I totally and trully understand what u are going through now. Let me explain to you how I am handling this situation. I too have a very controlling mom who does not approve of my choice. I love him a lot and he is nothing but respectful and nice to my family. Even in my case my parents had not met him and refused to like him.They have insulted him, threatened him, misbehaved with him and its only because of me he keeps his aggression to himself. He has made it clear to my parents that he loves me a lot and there is no way he is going to back off. Unless of course my parents manage to convince me that he is not right for me and I want to break up. But that is never going to happen. I do not deny that because of all this we do not have any pressures between the two of us. Yes we do and we argu also. But the bottom line is we are madly in love with each other and there is no one else in this world who make us feel complete like the way we feel with each other.
That is why, though the pressure is unbearable I have told my parents I wont change my mind and will only get married to him. In this part of the world, India - girls do not get married against their parents wish. Chances are they will be disowned or life threat to both the girl and guy.
Just one thing from my side, if You love him and you are good to each other you don't need anybody else's approval to a happy marriage. Joys and sorrows are a part of life its only the form in which it comes that differs from person to person. For you, your sorrow maybe denial from your mother. But with time when you make her realise what a gem of a guy your fiance is she will finally be happy for you.
All the best. And have a long happy and fruitful married life.
Hope you will pray for me likewise.
2006-07-02 19:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....it sounds like Mommy have to have the rule of the roost! If you really love this man, explain to mom that you want her to meet him. And you're going to get married and the nondenominational church....then after the wedding, ask a priest of HER CHOICE to bless the union, possibly at the reception. Then Mama has some say so in the matter, and the sisters and brothe will be able to come. Good Luck.
2006-07-03 01:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move to another state & marry this guy (if you are that serious on marrying him). Sounds like your mother just doesn't want you to grow up & have a life. Maybe she is just jealous of your happiness & wants to bring you down. In highschool, my mother ated my BF so much, that she even called the cops on him! Now it is 10 years later, I'm still with him & my mother finally agreed he was "ok:" She has never been happy, but accepted tat after a decade, he must be ok.
2006-07-03 02:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Xtal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, don't invite her. don't tell her. and tell everyone not to tell her anything. say that you want to take your bro and sis on a vaca, without your fiance' and then just secretely get married with all your friends and family there except your mother. you will have a perfect weddign if you play your cards right. then a few months after, just tell her that you are married to this man, and that she can do whatever she wants except control your life. if she is being this rude to you, then just do the same. she deserves it.
2006-07-03 02:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzy_keno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and have your wedding. If they don't go, the only people who will regret it is THEM. Your mom sounds like a control freak, and if she was my mom she would be dead to me.
2006-07-03 08:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO BE HONEST AND TELL YOUR MOTHER THE TRUTH IF SHE DOES NOT EXCEPET THE FACT THAT YOU CAN MAKE YOUR OWN DECSIONS THEN THAT IS HER PROBLEM AND SHE HAS TO DEAL WITH IT I AS A MOTHER HAD TO FACE THE SAME SITUATION MY DAUGHTER IDS WITH A GUY I DONT APPROVE OF BUT I HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT I RAISED HER TO BE HER OWN PERSON AND ALTHOUGHT I DONT LIKE IT SHE IA AT LEAST WOMAN ENOUGH TO PUT ME IN MY PLACE SO AT LEAST I DO RESPECT HER FOR THAT
2006-07-03 02:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by jse3_1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know all my damn i have always done what mommy says and if you really love your man it should matter if your mom likes him or not! my mom didnt like my man either but i dont care cuz im an adult and she cant control my feelings for what i have for my man.....but you should listen to youre heart colsely and decide whats best for you.....
2006-07-03 04:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mommy doesn't liv ur life, u do, and hopefully in the future she'll accept that
2006-07-03 01:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by calistyles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pls pray and ask for God guidance becos it is comlicated matter why do you think she does not love your boyfriend and follow your heart
2006-07-03 03:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by godheritage05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isnt marring your mother he is marring you dont worry about this matter you are the one he is marring.my opion?
2006-07-03 01:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋