To all women who have ever turned down men?

Question

Why do you torture us with your beauty and then reject us as quickly as throwing garbage away?

I love talking to all women; race, religion, color, shape and sizes. Every time I ask one of you out after becoming a friend that you can rely on; all that are asked just shut me out and never speak to me again because of those simple words, "we should go out on a Real date together."

I've been turned down so many times since I started asking women out on dates that I'm beginning to feel unwanted to the point of stopping all together. Everytime I'm rejected there's a part of me that keeps growing darker and more empty. I feel like it's time to give up and move on.

Don't email me on this question I will not answer you.

I think you misinterpreted what I said. I have been out with lots of women and gotten to know them to the point I become acquainted with their friends... What I don't understand is that I'm not pressuring anyone, I'm simply asking women out >> the women are the ones that turn around and say no and then just leave without so much as a bye or why not.

Yup, Misogyny is the perfect definition of where I'll eventually end up if I don't start turning things around. Thanks for the advice, but I think it's going to be awhile before I attempt being turned down again, for the 9th time this year.

Answer 1

Look in the mirror. It is not the world that needs to change but yourself mate. This is from a guy. You need to first set the pace i.e. live your life anyway and when you are going somewhere, so will the women...right on your door step.

Don't work it as friends, but when time is right, you will know is who. You're trying far too hard. None of this friend talk but get it sorted, if you like a woman, the talk it, forget all this, "I love talking to all women." Say that to women, it puts them off. No woman likes a man who looooooooves talking to all women.

Do something with your life dude and be excellent in your dreams. Many women like being with guys who are going somewhere in life and not some guy who wants to TALK.

They want a guy to LISTEN. Are yoy Listening? Do you see heir posture before asking. Can you read the signals they give? It will tell you if they are layabouts, waste of time, lack accountability or serious. This takes a man to listen, observe, ask right questions instead of desperate ones.

Now, you got a lot to give but don't show you are desperate. Ok. Don't do that. It scares the heck out of women and all this talk, "I love talking to women," don't say that.

Now, get some books on communicate, on how to develope communication skills by giving positive nonverbal communication and detect non verbal communication. We tell a lot about ourselves by nonverbal communication.

Finally, don't ask, "for real date." Relax, and just go with the flow. Have fun. Mate, my wife, I don't ask. I went with the flow, I was spontanous, dangerous, different, nonpredictable. Are you predictable? Don't go with the flow?

Say, "listen, what yah doing tomorrow?" Then if she says, "erm nothing?" Then reply,"Great! There's a new resturant, want to check their food out. What you think, shall we check it out? On me?"

Boom! Done. No mention of date. But hey, it's happening. That's how I got married, by being spontonous, going with the flow!

Answer 2

Okay, I first want to say you are edging VERY close to Misogyny here. There is nothing wrong with the women who rejected you - the problem is YOURS. Luckily it's fixable. Please read with an open mind - I'm not trying to insult you, just give you a wakeup call. I was in the exact same place just 2-3 years ago.

The problem is you are the "Nice Guy." You don't really understand what attracts women, so you try to bribe them into liking you with kindness. This is manipulative, and ultimately a little creepy. You may not realize it, but every interaction you have with a woman has an ulterior motive. You want her to "like" you, and are willing to do anything to accomplish this.

The problem is, people (not just talking about women here) will TOLERATE a "Nice Guy," but will never seek him out because he brings NOTHING to the table. People seek out other people they find INTERESTING. People who are a little different, and a little unpredictable. People who don't care what other people think because they're too busy doing things THEY find interesting, or that THEY know in their hearts is the RIGHT thing to do (not what will please other people).

Try changing your motivation when talking to women as a first step. Don't try to make them like you. Don't care at ALL what they think of you. Go into conversations with the OVERT motive of both you and her having fun with the conversation, nothing more.

Then, LEARN WHAT ATTRACTS WOMEN. Learn from movie characters women love. Observe and learn from your friends that are successful with women instead of being jealous, sulking, and trying to rationalize that women really SHOULD like you better. Read Cosmo for a woman's perspective. Talk to some of your women friends about things their boyfriends do that they love. Etc. Etc.

Answer 3

Hey, Dude...you're trying way to hard. Instead of putting the pressure on the chicks, why don't you get to know them and ask..."where to you like to go for lunch??"....and then ask them to lunch. That way, it's only an hour (and make sure you only stay an hour) and you pick up the tab like a nice guy. You can get to know someone alot better when you're not pressured and having a relaxed lunch. THEN if things work out well, ask for a "real" date. Just take a step back...and relax.

Answer 4

First off I wouldn't ask anyone if they wanted to go on a real date. I would just say "Hey, what are you doing (insert day here)? I was wondering if you would want to have lunch sometime so we can chat a bit." As long as there is no pressure of having to go on a "date" it should be fine. If she enjoyed that then it will be easier to do more things together and eventually it will be mutual that you guys want to date.

Answer 5

when i was in my 20s i have got rejected hundreds of times. now the women 40 years later dont look so good. now im the one thats rejecting them. as for my sex life its non existant. thats the way i want it. something wrong with all women.