confidence?

Question

how do u gain self confidence. i have low self esteem and i find it really hard to be happy with myself, i look towards other ppl to compliment me to make me feel good abotu myself. i try but then i evensually just crash and its worse then what it started.

Answer 1

It is the most important aspect of human life. Now that the idea has struck you, you are not an average girl, you are by any standard a highly introspective person. You have to rediscover your abilities and also your deficiencies yourself. Nature has not given everything to one person or denied everything to anyone. You have many potentialities in a particular degree and that is your limitations also. So, you have to see all these without feeling too small or too proud. You have to be yourself and be happy and thank God. It will give you self confidence and also self esteem, both.

Answer 2

Simple answer - STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU!!

A few more things:
1) Start doing things because they're what YOU want or because they're the RIGHT thing to do, not to impress or satisfy somebody else.
2) Do nice things for people without thought of reward. If nobody even notices what you did, so much the better. That means you've started living for yourself, not other people.
3) Do something you thought you couldn't. Run farther than you've ever run before (whether thats 400m or 26 miles). Go rock climbing. Walk up and start a conversation with someone you NEVER would have talked to before (don't have an agenda - just go in wanting to talk for 30-60 seconds and for both of you to have fun during that time, nothing else)

Answer 3

Confidence is not easy to obtain, but it can be done. What you need to do is figure out the things that make you have such low self esteem. Maybe you are overweight or don't feel attractive. If you're overweight start working out and get into shape. Do it for yourself and you're already on your way to confidence. If you're not attractive because you were dealt bad genes, start dressing nicer and wearing makeup that compliments your looks.

Some more steps to gaining confidence include working on your inner self. A lot of people speak negatively about themselves in their heads, or on public forums like you are now. Stop doing that. Instead think of all the reasons why a man would want to be with you, then write them down and read them over and over. When you catch yourself thinking negatively about yourself, turn it around and think positive thoughts instead.

Also, look at what confident people do when it comes to body language. They don't slouch and walk with their hands in their pockets while looking at the floor. Instead, they walk with their backs slightly arched and their chests out, while looking slightly up into the air. How you carry yourself says a lot about who you are.

Another thing confident people do is make a decision, and stick with it. My girlfriend compliments me a lot on my confidence, as she did today just by the wording I use when I communicate. They key is to not come off as arrogant, but confident. Once you nail what I previously suggested you'll naturally speak in a more confident manner. Good luck.

Answer 4

I had the same problem. I worked on it for years before i made the choice to be happy with my self and not care what other people think. When you care what others think and try and change your not being yourself. Find out what you believe is right for you and stick to it no matter what. You will then start building confidence in yourself and everything grows from that. Feel good about yourself always and also compliment yourself also. good luck

Answer 5

Confidence is your key to a successful life. Confidence is not merely a term, but it is a set of beliefs that you have in yourself. It determines how you perceive yourself and what you think you are capable of.

One of the basic reasons why so many people are under-confident is that they have gone through many negative things and disappointments in their life. Therefore, they hardly believe in themselves anymore. Fortunately, the solution to regain confidence is pretty simple, but may be difficult to implement. You just have to replace these negative beliefs with positive affirmations; you have to change your mind-set. This is a sort of reprogramming of your mind at both conscious and subconscious levels.

If done correctly, the method of positive affirmations is one of the most powerful and practical methods ever devised. Believe me; this will do wonders to your self-esteem and your overall confidence. This method is most effective if performed at night just before you hit your bed as it has been proven that our mind is most receptive at these times. All you need to do is repeat positive affirmations for 7 to 10 min every night.

As you keep on doing this for a few days, it will become a habit, and within a short time, you will start noticing positive and better things happening in your life.

Answer 6

You obviously had some experience that makes you feel this way. Know that GOD wants you to feel good about yourself and have a good self image. You don't have to rely on others for your happiness. Try this one time: Just decide you are happy and you don't care what others think, seriously. Its all a state of mind.

Answer 7

i think u should wake up and tell yourself how much u love u!! i know it may be hard but if u really want the truth about ur self then don't wait for other people to compliment u!!! start by complimenting ur self and u will learn that it doesn't really matter what other people say!!

Answer 8

No one else will "make" you happy. It's your responsibility to find happiness on your own. Find out what your interests are and what you're good at. Focus on building your life and when the time's right you'll find a person that you can be happy with, not someone that you expect to make you happy. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

do you don't like how you look in the outside that is low self esteem.Just say what you like about you in a mirror and that will help higher your low self esteem.That work for me.

Answer 10

dont wait on other people to make yourself happy find things that make you happy and feel good and STICK with them