I'm meeting my guy friend tommorow for lunch, I'm pretty sure we're both interested in being more than friends, but it's not really a "date." The lunch was my idea, but if he offers, should I let him pay? (And if he doesn't offer, is it an insult?)
2006-07-02 18:38:58 · 50 answers · asked by wildflower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, I just mentioned that it'd be nice to have lunch sometime (that's why it's my idea, & I said this about 2 weeks ago) but then recently he said we should eat tomorrow. So really it seems like it was both of our ideas....so I dunno who asked who out.
2006-07-02 19:11:53 · update #1
Come on. On such matters you need not take a decision by thinking 24 hours in advance. Decision on such matters are taken on the spot. But you should go prepared to pay it yourself. If he still insists, you should not prevent him to pay.
2006-07-02 18:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not an insult. You are getting to know him right, not a date. If i am you, i would pay my lunch, unless he insist to offer to pay, than why not? It shows that he is interested with you and some guys, they want to show impression on first date. just let him feel nice. If in the other way, just act normal and pay your lunch.
2006-07-02 18:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by toyat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If lunch was your idea then you should offer to pay since you say you think you're both interested in being more than friends. If he offers to pay then I'd suggest he picks up the tab next time.. giving you the perfect opportunity to go out again.
2006-07-02 18:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by ixiiprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy here.If it isn't a date then bring your own money and go on and pay your own bill.BUT ,If he says he is paying then let him. It is not an insult if he doesn't pay,unless it is a date.I do think it shows interest when I pay for dinner or a night out.It does NOT however,buy me anything more than a meal with a lady and good conversation.If he expects you to pay the bill, pay it and don't call this freeloader again,it's the sure sign of a loser.
2006-07-02 18:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't offer to pay, it is not an insult but a misunderstanding. The lunch was your idea. Maybe he thinks you are treating. If he offers, fine, but be prepared to pay just in case.
2006-07-02 18:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not a date then you each pay for yourselves. For future reference, if you do go out on a date, the person who asked is the person who pays.
If he offers to pay, counter with splitting the bill. If he doesn't offer to at least pay for his part and he's aware of this not being a date, then he's probably cheap.
2006-07-02 18:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he offers you should let him pay, but since the lunch was your idea you should not take it as an insult and you should pay(it was your idea)
2006-07-02 18:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by abflex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were in your position, and seeing as you like the guy. I think it would be good if you paid, it will show you are an indepent woman who enjoys his company. It is not an insult if he doesnt offer to pay. This day and age, most women would rather pay for themselves anyway. If he offers to pay, and you say no, but he insists, offer to pay half.
2006-07-02 18:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Alison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "asked" so you pay! Now if he is gentlemen enough to offer, let him do it...or say..."how about I let you pick up the check next time?". No it would not be an insult if he didn't offer. Like I said...you invited, so you would be obligated to pay. Be a woman and do it.
2006-07-02 18:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you would be going "Dutch" (you each pay your own part) But girl... if he offers to pay by all means let him!!!! And no, it's not an insult if he doesn't offer but keep that in mind if you do go on a real date with him...
2006-07-02 18:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by tied2tots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all filters down to the original offer. In the end, if he offers... let him pay. But if he doesn't, it's not an insult at all... it's your bill. Then again, if you're friends (good ones) it won't matter... it may just be whoever has the cash. ;)
2006-07-02 18:54:22 · answer #11 · answered by Christopher D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋