I need advice, i mean i am not brave enought to ask someone out i am too tall, not skinny and i just feel down all the time, i dont have that much self-confidence, i realize i should build it up, but i think haveing a relationship would cheer me up... ughh... so confused plz help
2006-07-02 18:15:14 · 8 answers · asked by rell<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honey thier ARE careing guys out their, their IS hope! you just have to look in the right place....or just keep looking....
2006-07-02 18:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by sexc_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a relationship that would cheer you up. One with Jesus! I spent many years being depressed about my looks and my shape and the fact that not that many guys would be interested in me. When I was 15, I had gained a lot of weight (I weighed 215lbs @ 5'7"), it was terrible. Plus everybody in my family would call me fat. To top that off I had acne for days. If you think that was not enough, my breasts grew in uneven and one was bigger than the other; so I would wear super big t'shirts and baggy pants to go with it. I hated it. I felt like half of what I was supposed to be. Well, years later, I lost some weight, was still different in breast size, but tried to be happier. I started to become very promiscuous and would get with guys to help lift my self-esteem, but they only took advantage of me (mostly older guys). After that didn't make me feel truly beautiful, I started to do drugs so that I could zone out of my real life. Well after abusing myself and my body after 10 years (I'm 26 now), I finally wore myself out enough that only God could fix it. It reminds me of how a child will cry and cry for candy, when the parent already said no. When the child gets done crying, the parent can give them a yummy pear that will be better for them and still taste good. God is our Father in heaven and the bible says that he thought of making us when he first made the world. You are unique and special to God (he even gave you your own set of fingerprints to prove it). He really loves you. He sent Jesus here to die for your sins. All you have to do is ask Him for forgiveness and tell Him that you want a relationship with Him. He will lead you in the right path. It took a lot for me to get to the place where I am. I had to stop smoking weed, doing ecstasy (I could have died), stop drinking, stop having pre-marital sex, and started treating myself like the queen God made me to be. Once you accept Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior, you become part of His royal family. Jesus would then be your big brother. The bible says that we are a royal priesthood, a holy nation. Well, a lot has changed for me, it wasn't completely easy, but this life is much easier than the one where I wasn't happy on the inside. Now, people say that I am glowing. I still have work to do and working out to do, but my breasts aren't that uneven anymore and my acne has dissipated. And if it weren't for me having these things in my life, I never would have seeked God for help. I mean everything has changed. I even have a great job now, I am moving into a new great place! Don't let the devil steal your joy, God came so that you would live an abundant life. Abundance in happiness, money, wholeness, confidence......you'll be helping some other people out in no time. Get God on your side He is able!
2006-07-02 19:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am 16 going on 17 myself. I'm so sorry that you feel this way. I have dated bigger girls and really tall one's to. Don't worry about it. There are guys out there that do like girl like you. Just keep lookin. You can IM me any time.
2006-07-02 18:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by jazjadaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show more confidence! Everyone has beauty, and confidence brings that out in people! Guys love that too.
2006-07-02 18:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is hard.... Lots of thinking and compromising with the other persons feelings.... So at your age.... love yourself before you try loving someone else..
2006-07-02 18:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Man Defined 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just work with what you've got. If someone doesn't like you because of your appearance then they are lost. And learn to love yourself. Once you appreciate yourself, then others will too.
2006-07-02 18:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by TheSilverBeetles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
belive it or not, there are osme guys out there that want a personality over looks, hot girls are fun for a while, but they get old
2006-07-02 18:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by peacebro167 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-07-02 18:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by _ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋