I don't have a relationship currently and I want to settle down and have a family. Here is my problem: I want to have the great family life well before I hit 40. That 40 mark is sliding in fast! How do I keep myself focused and not depressed about what may not happen? I do not want to be that age and trying to have kids. I want to be married and be able to well support my children(when I have them). I know allot can happen in 9 yrs but I haven't got a carreer stabled yet(still in college). What now?
2006-07-02 17:55:59 · 17 answers · asked by Jo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
get on with your life. Make yourself successful and have a kid or adopt, regardless of your marital status.
Please don't go on welfare. I can't afford higher taxes to support you.
2006-07-02 17:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Chris C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nobody ever said there was a timetable on life hun! I know a lot of people who are over 40 and just starting careers and families. And life doesnt need to go in any order- heck, you dont even need to be in a relationship before having kids, or have kids after marriage, etc. And by going to college now you are making a great start... Just hang in there and have fun now. Life is way too short for regrets.
2006-07-03 01:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by lolaamor83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 yrs to go to hit 40 - does this mean you're 31?
A lot can happen in your future - and you also have many options.
Sounds like your priority right now is to complete college, then settle on a career - and in the meantime, also develop a personal relationship. All that can happen - and more!
2006-07-03 01:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Silvana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to live in the present; finish college and start your career. After that, if the right guy comes along, everything else will fall into place. You need to make sure, though, that you know that you will be fine if you don't have a family.
2006-07-03 01:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mizbehavin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step One: Be very social. This does not mean go out and look for a "good time" or does not mean to be provacative or anything of that matter. It means be your self, but talk to new people, and be open minded if you can.
Step Two: Don't worry too much. There are A LOT of people in the same exact situation you're in.
Good luck!
2006-07-03 01:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by timaaaaa88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dnt u concentrate 1st on your degree inorder to find a decent job, if u have a nice career u will not worry this kind of problems because along the way u will be meeting single bachelors on your own choosen field ... gud luck
2006-07-03 01:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by SAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start setting some goals as far as your career-finish school as soon as you can and don't let nothing stand in your way, decide what you want in a man and don't be too picky, but don't be too desperate either. Find someone you love and who makes you happy, but don't be in such a rush that you find someone who makes you miserable.
2006-07-03 01:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by countrygrl278 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter nowadays, I am 25 and I am not even close to ready yet, I know I am going to have kids late. Do what you want when you want... thats living, good luck :)
2006-07-03 00:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by BeautyMark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live life to the fullest. I am half way through my life and i stand in your shoes so Just Dont Worry about it
2006-07-03 00:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by rumnyboi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take i one step at a time ull b fine u have 9 YEARS!!! and b4 u kno it ull b married and with kids it just takes a little time 2 get started but once u start ull get there faster than u thought
2006-07-03 00:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by ... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋