How does a man became a woman? Want to go from cross-dresser to transsexual to woman. How do go about this?

Answer 1

Hello Jen,

I've been somewhere like this ... ignore the inevitable bigots who always answer these sort of questions.

In short you need to make some decisions about what is most important to you. There is a whole spectrum of gender identity disorders which lead people to seek the reassignment surgery.
In the end, the only one who can ever really know your reasons is you and the only one who has to live with it is you so ignore the bigots and go for it girl if this is really right for you.

You will need referral to a specialist gender identity clinic where a psychiatrist will have a chat about what really matters to you in this process and, if they are convinced you will benefit from transition, will usually refer you to a counsellor and request that you live full time as a woman before any irreversible physical steps are taken.

They then prescribe HRT. Do not mess around with black market contraceptives, it is dangerous. Get the prescription sorted formally and the necessary health checks arranged through your gender identity clinic.

They usually require a trial of one or two years minimum before an assessment is made to confirm your eligibility for gender reassignment surgery. Once they have approved your request for surgery they will usually refer you for a second opinion before finally a specialist surgeon will consent to operate on you.

There is a whole wealth of information about this in the web. Try a google search for the Harry Benjamin Gender Dysphoria International guidelines first. These are more or less universally accepted requirements for those seeking the surgical reassignment.

Surgery is ironically the least important part of transition (although it is of course still vitally important to a transsexual). The hardest part is passing as a woman, for which many services can help: clothing, deportment and voice coaching classes, breast augmentation and facial feminisation surgery to name but a few.

Other good sites to check out are Lynn Conways TS Successes web site and Andrea James' TS Roadmap.

Ultimately the SRS involves removal of the male gonads, along with most of the shaft of the penis; but preservation of the skin of the scrotum and penis which are inverted to form the new vagina (there are other methods too but this is generally the commonest technique). The glans penis is preserved along its neurovascular bundle to form the neo-clitoris.

This is major surgery, if you get it wrong it can never be reversed and you have to be prepared for a significant (although by no means inevitable) risk of never being able to orgasm again (although with better surgical technique, many TS women can orgasm after the operation although quite differently to how one would have with a penis). If the sexual sensation of an erection and ejaculation matter to you then SRS is a bad idea. Otherwise it is a great help in coming to terms with being who you are.

You will also have to sit down to pee. That can be surprisingly inconvenient at times but hey, being a woman isn't all roses you know.

Really you need to get yourself under the care of a specialist team, if you're in the UK then via your GP; in the USA I'm not sure how your health service works.

In either case, good luck, and make sure you follow the advice of your therapists; they are there to help you.

Answer 2

You have to find a doctor that will do it. They usually won't do it if they think you are mentally unstable. They'll send you to a shrink first to make sure you aren't just confused about your sexuality. If you convince them that you're sane you start taking hormone pills that will make your breasts develop and change the rest of your body too. After you find out if you can take the hormones without any negative side effects they will schedule you for surgery. Your penis will be cut off and your testicles removed. The skin from your scrotum is then made to resemble a vagina.
It's not reversible if you later decide it was a mistake.

Answer 3

From what I understand its years of hard work, lots of $$, and pain and suffering.
THe first step would be to come out to everyone you know.
Secondly, start dressing full time.
third see a doctor about getting the meds, and other medical testing, including hormones.
fourth get the surgery.

Answer 4

level ur desire 1st...if u really wanted to do it or not... (consult a psychologist).... 1st take some contraceptive pills (this pills contain some formula dat inputs female hormone) if u take this pill everyday for several months ur male homone will be replaced by some female homone . . .soon u will discover the effect changes of that pills

Answer 5

Listen Jim, don't deny yourself the pleasure of letting your balls flop in the wind. Boys who like boys want a dude, not a used to be dude

Answer 6

It's a long process. You need therapy, hormone treatments and surgery. Once you do it, you can't change back.

Answer 7

umm you have a surgery to get your nuts whacked off and then you take hormones to make you a girl

Answer 8

Dont