I'm in love with this girl but ca't get to be with her because she is a million miles away and i cant see her yet. Recently she told me something that broke my heart. Nevertheless I will always love her. If I talk to her I feel miserable not being with her and if i dont talk to her I'm still miserable. I'm sad and she can make me happy but is the one that cause the saddness in the first place because we cant be together. We are best friends and since I started to felt sad I haven't spoken to her in about 10 days and miss her like hell- what is the best thing for me to do????
2006-07-02 16:47:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you truely love her and she is happy with whatever guy she's with now, you should be happy for her. True love means only wanting the best for the one you love, even if it tears you apart.
2006-07-02 16:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Paige 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is when people tell you stuff you really don't want to hear. Like...time will heal some of the pain. Right now you are focusing on her only. You have to get out of the house and be around people. It will still hurt and first, but will get better with time.
This must be your first love. They are the worst, and I think you fall the hardest the first time. You will guard your heart a little more next time.
So my diagnosis is: Do not contact her anymore.....get lots of sunshine, meet other people, do not stay by yourself anymore than you have to. Try not to talk about her, just makes it worse. Keep a diary of this painful experience and as time goes by you will be able to see in your writings that the pain has eased.
2006-07-02 17:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your age. 12-16 go to hi 5 and find another girl 17-21 stop looking for girlfriends on the computer; while groundhog pulling works with the internet dating dosent. 22-29 shes doing more nailing than your local carpenter and your hampster wants some time in a hole and not laying on a keyboard. 30-45 she already has a list of about ten guys she would like to get hitched to before her well drys and far away is not a logical choice. And of all things next time find a date on this earth. while traveling is cool a million miles is way to freaking far for any date.
2006-07-02 17:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by myamoreterno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is always let the other person know how you feel. 1. communication is one of the cornerstones of all relationships that even have a chance of working. no talk, no relationship. this is true for relationships that started yesterday or 30 years ago. when you stop communicating things will always start to deteriorate. some faster than others. at least if you tell her how you feel you can at least get to know how she feels about the situation. but remember you can't make someone love you so take whatever answer she gives and deal with it accordingly.
2006-07-02 16:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you had of said you age, since you did not I am going to assume you are a teenager. When we are young we have intense feelings about someone we like, it's like a fire burning within us. I suggest you start a journal of your feelings just to help you have a release so it is not bottled up inside of you. When someone we love moves away it is very difficult to get over but you have to. I know right now it feels like that is impossible but trust me it is not. You owe it to her and to yourself to let her go so that each of you can get on with living. I have always felt if something is meant to be then it will be.
I have a nephew who was totally inlove with a girl named Andrea he loved her more than anything, after a few years her family moved away and it broke his heart. It took time but his heart healed and he began dating again. He was in college with some friends and a girl friend at a football game and the person in the seat right beside him was Andrea. They could not believe it they started talking and before you knew it they were dating. I attended their wedding last fall and it was beautiful. I guess what I am trying to say is set her free, set yourself free and live life to the fullest, have fun and if you two are meant to be together then when you least expect it, you know the rest.
As for me if I had of stayed in a depression after my high school sweet heart moved away I would have never met the love of my life, my husband whom I love dearly, so see life works in mysterious ways. Good Luck
2006-07-02 17:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by joejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice boy, if you really love her then keep talking to her and when you get older. Or earn enough cash then you can go out and see her, because if you don't keep talking to her and you meet another girl... you'll always wonder for the rest of your life "What if I would have stuck with my best friend and we were married?", but if she doens't like you then move on and take a relaxing activity that you'll forget about her like yoga or something.
2006-07-02 16:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Summerbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a lot of interesting things and people to fill up your time. Stay busy and involved. Pretty soon she will be a fond memory and you will have done something more productive with your life and probably found someone new. If it is meant to be- than it will happen eventually!!
2006-07-02 16:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Soonergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts but the reality is that you guys probably will never meet each other live. stay true friends to each other and you need to find someone closer to you so you wont feel miserable any longer. Everything heels with time. God has a plan for you. be patient!!!
2006-07-02 16:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy, listen to a different kind of music, anything to help get her off your mind. It sounds like she has moved on and you need to do the same. I'm sorry it hurts so much, but it will get better. I promise. Besides there are going to be so many more girls in your future you won't be able to keep count of them.....:)
2006-07-02 16:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by BlueAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are best friends and are willing to overlook this heartbreaking news... get together.
I've been married to my best friend for going on 7 years, and dated for 6 before that. I couldn't imagine someone better to spend the rest of my life with - especially how deep our connection is.
So - call her up and make it happen. If you're old enough, and it's worth it to you... move to her. (Just make sure that's what she wants too).
2006-07-02 16:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Madame Gato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋