Anger Management problems?

Question

I got a bad anger management problem and it cause a lot of trouble for me any tips on how to help control it counting to 10 dont work for me cuz I blow up before I can even think about it and when I hav been able to count to 10 it still dont work I thought about going to groups but I wanna try other things first

when I get p*ssed I break stuff start fights and sh*t also the deep breaths dont work for me It almost seems to make me feel better to lose my temper when I get mad and dont flip out I dont feel right its almost like a strange physical feeling that I get

Answer 1

i think that first you should know that you control yourself and that nothing else has the power to control you, in this case you control your feelings and your impulses,you have the power to stay calm and to walk away. If counting to ten does not work then deep breaths is not a bad idea, move away from enviroments or places or friends that trigger your anger, don't do things that you know in the end will make you lose control, and take things step by steps, is okay to be angry but taking action is the real problem. I hope this helped.

Answer 2

I used to run a court-ordered anger management group. We used this book, When Chicken Soup Isn't Enough: Managing Your Anger in an Increasingly Angry World as a guide and it worked wonders. It helps you identify your triggers and helps you control your anger by taking your responsibility in it. So many people blame others for their anger. Saying, "He MADE me so mad." The book helps you realize that you are in control of your own anger and emotions.

In our group, we had guys that were chronically angry, hitting people, yelling at their wives, threatening others. They were very resistant about the program at first and didn't think they had a problem or didn't think the group would help. Halfway through the group, they started to see things within themselves and change.

Answer 3

This may sound kinda simple and cheap and lame...but my gal pal that had an anger problem took an empty milk jug (gallon)
and since it had a handle, she'd take it and beat it on something
that it would not damage
til the rage was out of her--and she was spent.
She did not hurt anyone nor did anything get broken--
it was a safe venting. Her therapist thought of it.

You will have a better cardio system at age 50-60 if you get some help for it early, though, for this sort of emotional bondage will take it's toll on your body and your relationships, eventually.
Please be safe.

Answer 4

I have anger management issues with things just like the coffee cup issue. Tailgaters, etc... I am working on it though. It takes a very conscious effort on my behalf. I became tired of wasting my time and energy on such a useless emotion as anger, or frustration. Patience is a virtue.

Answer 5

I would suggest that you find a support group that deals with anger management. That way you can get REAL help from qualified professionals (and a lot of them have been through group as well). If you prefer a more private setting, get a life coach.

Answer 6

Pick up some info on assertive communication and practice. Learn to resolve issues early and don't fear approaching people to work things out. You may need to chop down the cherry tree first to get the control to talk. It works and what is best is you tend to be the winner all around.

Answer 7

MY son just blows up BAM! we bought an hung a punching bag (type pros use in training in the gym) right where it's handy. He gets PISSED blows up, BAM hits that bag! That gets the immediate surge of rage out of his system. The rest is screaming then he leaves the room. Then he doesn't hurt any one (only his hand) then in a few minutes he can talk with more sense.

Answer 8

yep use to be like that i decided not to break things anymore . what made me stop was seeing the hurt in my husbands eye or that he thinks i,m a nut case . well any ways it was getting pretty expensive replacing broken windows and getting stitched up or getting sent to mental ward for doing crazy stuff like breaking things so i quit i just go in my room turn music on and calm down. maybe take a xanax. go enjoy my iguanas .

Answer 9

As soon as you feel yourself getting mad, turn to something else. Don't resort to yelling, just calm yourself. Think of something relaxing and think of serious consequences that could occur if you let your anger get the better of you.

Answer 10

You know that barbed leather belt that Silas wore around his thigh in "The Da Vinci Code"? Use something like that whenever you get angry, and the fury will dissipate.