my brother goes from one person to the next..slowly breaks them down and then moves on to the next. he has started a fight between my friend and i and now between my other brother and me. he feeds on our weaknesses...i know he is a bad person, but is he really as bad as i think?
2006-07-02 16:42:11 · 8 answers · asked by Ash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he's 27! he's the oldest out of four kids
2006-07-02 16:48:07 · update #1
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2006-07-02 16:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by iheartjohnprose 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Read the update, 27, that's too bad. That's about the time there was no denying my brother was a controler and manipulator. The family has broken all ties with him, and he does not care one bit. He has never known love and keeps moving for the thrill of the mind games. Last time I knew, he had one child with one woman and another child with someone else. He never keeps a relationship for more than a year and seems to enjoy, more than anything else, hurting others with manipulation and mind games.
Sorry to confirm your worse thoughts.
Best to you and yours,
Blewz4u (Scott)
An important thing to note that you left out, is his age. If he is a young man, teen, under 23, there could be hope for him. As it will eventually backfire on him and he could find himself in a world of hurt for crossing the wrong person.
However, if he's been doing this for awhile, getting away with it and already in his early to mid twenties, the pattern may be too ingrained. He may have devised ways to get around any possible backfires to his actions and even find any repercussions to his actions as a reinforcement to his behavior.
2006-07-02 16:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by blewz4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has an issue about being dominating/in power. Is he the oldest or youngest in the family? Does he do this with everyone?
If yes, I suggest you get him to see someone before some possibly gets physically hurt. If it's just between family, depending on how bad he breaks you down, it could be simple sibling annoyance to an issue with domination.
2006-07-02 16:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by instantly_oatmeal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically yes. But go easy on him because chances are....he's just lashing out at something else. People who, as you said, feed on weaknesses of others usually have a deep pain inside them that makes them enjoy pain in others. He'll deny that not so much to make you be wrong but maybe he's in deniel or hasn't come to terms yet.
2006-07-02 16:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jorge E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow 27 and acting like hes twelve he may be too far gone or he may not. either way sometimes you have to call people like that out. let him know hes really messing with ya.and if hes not willing to cool it then he may have some serious underlying issues that maybe you should ask yer parents to take care of.most of the time espicially brothers (i know) have to be told straight up how their actions affect people.but again if he still continues to do this to you and others talk with yer parents ask for their help.
2006-07-02 17:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure does sound like he's determined to manipulate (be in control of) everybody's life but his own. He needs to practice self-control... to quit trying to control everybody else's business & improve his own>>> character, behavior, attitude, life.
2006-07-02 21:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well by what you are saying it sounds like he is doing some pretty bad things. you should have a talk with him and your parents so he can possibly change this behavior
2006-07-02 16:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by Due 3/12/10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he don't grow up , isn't grown up man, only a boy .
2006-07-02 16:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋