i've been going out with him for almost 5 months and my friend told me that he told her that he's already had sex....i wasn't that suprised because he's 17(i'm 15)...my friend said he didn't want to tell her but she got it out of him and he doesn't want anyone to know....but i was kind of bothered by it because i found this out like a month ago and i thought we were both on the same level sexually....apparently we're not and i was wondering if i should ask him about it....the last time we hooked up i was sort of uncomfortable because i knew that he was so much more experienced than me even though we were just hooking up...he could tell something was wrong and asked me about it but i told him i was fine...should i ask him about his sexual past and act like my friend didn't tell me or should i tell him i know? i really don't know what to do?? i could really use your help!?!?!
2006-07-02 16:36:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if i decide to ask him about it what should i say to him? i wouldn't really know how to start the conversation and i'm sure it would be really awkward...?
2006-07-02 16:49:10 · update #1
Not only is it ok, but it's a must. If the two of you are mature enough to be sexually active, then you should be mature enough to talk about it. If you're not comfortable talking about it and discussing eachother's sexual history, then Im sorry to say that you're not ready to be sexually active. Knowing eachother's sexual history is very important in order to protect eachother from infectious diseases and broken hearts. Also, honesty and communication is key in any relationship so it's important that the two of you dont keep any secrets. Most imprtantly, if you decide to have sex with this guy, please make sure to use protection.
2006-07-02 16:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by hapi82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could ask, yet you may no longer get the real answer. no longer because she has inevitably been with distinct men, yet truly because she may no longer comprehend for certain the way you'll reply if she is consumer-pleasant with you. i'd not ask for a particular type. per chance you could ask her to grant you an theory, like between 2 to 5 etc. Be prepared to respond to the question your self as i'm certain she will be in a position to be asking you besides. Asking what she has finished sexually with different men, may demonstrate more desirable than you extremely are prepared to take heed to, subsequently, beginning an finished can of worms that could be extra efficient off unopened because understanding all this information about different men won't be able to make you experience good!
2016-11-30 04:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important in this day and age that both partners be upfront and honest in telling their sexual histories. At 15 you shouldn't even HAVE a sexual history....
2006-07-02 16:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋