Is 2 years of dating enough, especially if a good portion of it is long distance? How about living together (we will probably have 3 months of that under our belts before marriage)?
At the time of the wedding, I'll be 23 and he'll be 22...what ya think?
2006-07-02 16:35:54 · 25 answers · asked by chi bebe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should date until you are ready to get married as long as you are old enough (which you both definitely are). When you know the other person very well and want to, get married.
By the way, the belief that cohabitation is a good indicator for marital happiness is a myth. While it makes sense that it would, for some reason, it doesn't, and cohabiting couples actually have a 20% HIGHER divorce rate. "Of those [cohabiting couples who marry], more than half divorce within ten years, compared with 30 percent of married couples who did not live together."
2006-07-02 16:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Most marriages are over before the age of 24, so I suggest you wait until after college and after both of you have established yourselves in the world before attempting to say "I do."
Depending on what the long distance issue is, I also suggest you wait to see where you'll be and he'll be within the next few years.
Plans constantly change and living with a person for 3 months only, isn't the way to go. One of my cousins wished he had lived with his girlfriend for one year before attempting proposal. They now have a kid on the way while they are going through the divorce process. My cousin's wife cheated on him with both his brothers and best friend.
You can't possibly know a person after just two years, I bet he has secrets that he'll never tell you and you probably have enough secrets that would make his head spin.
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2006-07-02 20:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 years of dating? Way too short. I'd say 5-7 years. You should wait a little while longer. Unless you know for a fact that this guy is the one. You should probably see how it is like living together first then decide marriage from there.
2006-07-02 16:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends upon why you are thinking of getting married. If all you want is to have someone of the opposite sex to play with and be around with,..then you can marry after 15 minutes.
If you want to marry to start a family and become a valuable part of a community, then you should date with the person long enough to learn most of his/her characteristics. If you cannot adjust to his/her behavior while you are free to terminate the engagement, how will you be able to put up with him/her after you have contracted to spend a lifetime with him/her. Take you time, stay together long enough to get past the pretending stage. Hoe does he/she act under tough times? Is he/she a good friend?
2006-07-02 16:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Been there 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should date for however long the two of you feel is necessary. It is different for everyone. My husband and I dated for only eight months before we were married, and it was a week before we were living together. My sister and her husband dated for five years and never lived together before they were married. So once again I say it all depends on the people. Good luck and I hope ya'll have a good marriage.
2006-07-02 16:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by DaisyJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate repeating myself. I dated my hubby for 2 months before we moved in together and then 2 more months before we got married. So far we've been married for nearly a year and a half. I think you're good on the time part. You're okay with the age. (I'm 22 now) All you need to worry about is if you love him and you know him as well as you think you do.
2006-07-02 16:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by bakerbride2005 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i think it all depends on how well you know this person. You being such a young age i would seriosly stop and look at what your getting ready to do, at this age you dont know what you want in the long term sence. I am not telling you not to get married but just think about the long term and is this some one who you want for the rest of your life, and is this person going to be good enough for your children
2006-07-02 16:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by rumnyboi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two years, is enough, but sense it's long distance and three months under the belt as you say. No, but do what you think is right.
2006-07-02 16:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by blabalbalus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a time limit....it's about what you feel in your heart and soul.
I've seen marriages do well where the couple only dated a few months. I've seen marriages fail miserably where they've dated for 3 years. I've seen many marriages fail where the couple lived together prior.
No rules. Use your own judgement.
2006-07-02 16:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think there is a set time for knowing eachother and getting married.
Being married is really about committment. If you are ready and willing to make a committment to be married, then go for it. I dont think it is possible to really understand what that committment means until you are acutally married for 3-7 years.
2006-07-02 16:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by sakeslug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋