should i mind my own or tell the secret i know about my brother`s wife?

Question

my broyher and his wife been married for 18 years. they split up for 6 months about 7 yrs.ago because she was having an affair with another man. he hasn`t really trusted her fully since then,he works very hard,he has 2 jobs and works 14 hrs/day to take care of his family, they have two teenage kids too. she recently went back to school and works too,well they have been fighting alot lately about finances, etc.. she made a remark to me one day that if he keeps bein controlling and bein an a** hole its only pushing her away, and also she said she`d be done if the crap continues, she said the reason she went back to school was to get away from him and the kids`s fighting and overall everything i guess.she has also told me she has had offers but hasn`t done anything. keep in mind tho i just met my brother over xmas this last year. we were seperated, i was adopted. but i really care about my brother the lil time i have known him we`ve gotten closer.last thing i want is to cause problems.

i don`t want them to think i am tryin to start problems because i haven`t been in their life all too long.

Answer 1

I would suggest to see what your brother thinks about his current family situation. don't tell him anything about what his wife told you; talk to him, just see how he is doing and handling the situation; what his opinion about it is; what he might consider doing...etc. you might imply some things about what you know from his wife without telling him you know it from her, just say you think she might not like the situation at the moment; ask him if he likes her working and being back in school...
even though you just came into his life, if you already feel close to him and bonded with him then you should just try to support him in whatever he wants to do, without bringing her into the conversations.

I think it's nice you care about him even though you just got to know him =)
good luck with it!

Answer 2

If she hasn't done anything, there isn't anything to tell. However, you could always encourage your brother to spend some "quality" time with the wifey...like volunteer to babysit one night so they can go out on a date. That will give them the opportunity to talk for themselves, and you won't have to interfere.

Answer 3

That's a tough one. I'm close to my brothers too and they would want to know what was going on. If he brings it up and asks you about it don't hide the truth. But otherwise, you may just want to stay out of it until he come to you.

Answer 4

Tell ur sister in law not to tell u things like that because she puts u in a bad spot.

Answer 5

Don't get involved in it. It's better to let your brother and his wife live their own lives. If you get involved you could end up being the "bad guy".

Answer 6

she was just venting even tho it was to the wrong person. There is really nothing to tell your brother that he probably doesn't already know. Leave it alone.

Answer 7

I think that you should wait to see what happens before you mention anything. I also think that you should have some kind of proof before you take it to him because he likely won't believe what you tell him anyways.

Answer 8

Well if she keeps saying stuff then yea i would tell him. But honestly if she was mad the she could of just said it ya knoe? Cuz people say stupid stuff when they r really mad.

Answer 9

I would stay out of it.. Specially since you just came back into his life..

Answer 10

Plzz mind your own busness

Answer 11

Do whatever your instinct tells you too. :) Everything will trun out fine...eventually.