my bf really loves his religion,he tell me he can lose his family and his relationship just to be a real & true muslim.He ask me if we get married i have to convert in islam if not he's not sure that he will marry me.And i don't want this will happen that he left me coz of religion.it was very hard for me converting my religion but for the sake of my love for him maybe i will do it eventhough i know i will lose everything on me,my family,friends and my country,specially my religion..i will be very far to my family if i decide to marry him and convert coz he will bring me to his own land.My life will be change if i marry him but i don't know why on the side of my mind tells go for it marry him and convert but on my other side of mind tells if i marry him,maybe it will very2 hard for me.I'm crazy inlove with him but why he cannot marry me if i don't convert in islam?i don't know what to do now.pls help me!
2006-07-02 16:14:28 · 18 answers · asked by alison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here it goes, he can marry u without converting into Islam, but it will be good if u just conevrt it for the sake of ur realtionship with him, that is if u dont want to lose him, but by the otherside, a Muslim man can marry a Catholic girl and there is no restrictions about that, am Muslim too i know for sure that a Muslim man can marry a Catholic. Period.
And in Addition what Teen wrote, we believe Jesus as we are Muslims, dont think that we dont, Jesus was a prophet before Prophet Mohamed (SAW) and if u need to know more u can check Islamic websites.
2006-07-02 16:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by mubarakboyhaha 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think that I could ever change my religion and lose my family for any guy. In a relationship there needs to be compromise. This guy doesn't seem to concerned that you have everything to lose he is only worried about what he may lose. All I can say is think really hard about what you want. Do research on the Islam religion and see if it's something you'd be interested in. But again, I wouldn't do it.
2006-07-02 16:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praise be to Allaah.
Yes, it is very necessary for you to enter Islam. This will solve all the problems, from making the marriage valid, through giving a united direction to the future upbringing of the children, to attaining success and happiness in the Hereafter. Your feelings of unease about taking this step may be due to the difficulty of leaving behind what you are used to and the religion that you have grown up in, or reluctance to go against your family and relatives, or fear of hostility and criticism from others, or concern about losing some worldly advantages. But all these issues will be easily overcome when you seek the help of Allaah and are determined to follow the truth. The wise person is prepared to make sacrifices and put up with difficulties for the sake of following the truth, because the truth is worth pursuing. Any difficulties encountered will become easy because the result is happiness in this world and the next, and Paradise the width of heaven and earth. Moreover, your marriage will help you to live in love and harmony with your husband (if he repents to Allaah for the forbidden relationship and becomes a religious person of good morals) and his Muslim family. There will be no dispute as to which religion the children will be raised in, and they will not feel that there is any conflict in the family, so they will be able to grow up free of the psychological complexes that result from the parents’ difference of religion. Other people have felt something similar to the feelings that you are experiencing now, as is reflected in the following story, which happened at the time of the Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Anas reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to a man, “Become Muslim.” He said, “I feel that I don’t want to.” He said, “Become Muslim, even if you feel that you don’t really want to.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 11618; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 974). This is the correct approach which people should have towards the true religion. For more information on the topic of marriage. We wish you every good thing and success. Peace be upon those who follow true guidance.
2014-07-16 13:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ahmad A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must b really upset with ur situation. I cn understand ur feeling. Converting into another religion is a BIG thing. U cant just convert bcoz of a guy. It has 2 b bcoz u bliv in the religion itself. I'm a muslim woman. I noe Islam never force ppl 2 convert into it. And NO. A muslim man CANNOT marry a non-muslim woman. I cn help u more if u want. Just email me-> khad_sushi@hotmail.Com :)
2006-07-05 15:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Munyet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying a foreigner is usually a mistake. I have mostly heard bad things about it and I think this is because they view women so much differently than Americans. They do a great job of wooing you but when you are under their household, the honeymoon is over in a big way.
I too, fell for a few foreigners while working on a cruise ship. Glad I didn't go to the altar with any of them!!!
2006-07-02 16:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you covert to Islam and go to his country, you will lose all rights that you have now. It odes not matter what he tells you that he will do or not do. The fact is plain and simple, Islam women have no rights and are there for the husband to do with as he wishes. You can not drive, go out on your own, or socialize with who you wish. In fact, if he wants you dead, he has that right. I've seen it to many times. For your own sake and that of your families, think hard and long about this. Is your freedom and life worth it. But if you decide to go, I wish you well, you will need it.
2006-07-02 16:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by viper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have a talk with him and ask him why he's pressuring you so much to convert, because if you look at it hard enough, it seems like to me that he just wants you to be a part of his religion and be only his, so a controlling husband. I would say do what your heart is telling you, but dear, you need to look at it from every point of view, and the possible outcomes of the actions that might be taken on both sides.
2006-07-02 16:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by germanchik413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can not accept that you have your religion and he has his. It will never work. You can't convert anyone who does not genuinely wish to change. You can fake it. You can force yourself. But in the end, you'd never believe. I had a friend who took on the Islamic religion. we'd debate long and hard. After some time we came to the conclusion, I was not going to convert him, he was not going to convert me. so we agreed to agreeably disagree on religion. What more can I say?
2006-07-02 21:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry thins is gonna be long, but i'll try to make it as short as possible.
this is all about you, it's your fate at stake here. you should look it up and see which religion you think is true.don't just do it for your lover; do it if you think it's right to do
i'm a muslim and my uncle is married to a german convert for about 38 years now and they lived in germany ..... she kept in touch with her family all along. also my brother is married to an american convert and the have 3 beautiful kids and they live in the united states for about 4 years now. and 2 of my cousins are married to american converts and living in the states.
about your family and friend .......... in islam - and your bf should have told you that - you HAVE to keep in touch with your family, be nice to them and visit them as soon as you can even if they're not muslims.
i've read some of the answers that said something about women having no rights in islam or in muslim countries ......... that's totally wrong i've lived in the states for about 3 years and i'm in Egypt now, women here have the same legal rights.
in the community women are way less abused cause they're hard to get so they gain more respect.
but to be fair; you have to be sure of your man, and don't convert just for him ...... look up islam and find out what it's about and see for your self.
you could find some answers about islam here
http://discover.islamway.com/
please feel free to e-mail me if you have further questions.
thank you for your patience
2006-07-09 01:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very personal decision. You need to decide on what is important to you. You should NEVER have to give up who you are when in a relationship, which it sounds like you may have to. If he truly loves you, then he will understand that you don't want to change. If you change, you'll have issues within your marriage as you'll lose a part of your identity.
you need to do some soul searching!! Good Luck!
2006-07-02 16:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by english_argie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋