My g/f's father walked out, and left her family w/ all the bills and all that to pay. Everything legal was worked out, and they started getting bakc-on-track. Her mom was digonosed w/ breast cancer last year, and as things were getting better w/ money, she passed. She is an only child, and has no family around here, She has to stay w/ someone for 2 weeks until they finish final paperwork and all that, then she can go to her grandmother in FL, or her aunt in Cali. She chose to stay w/ me. She has been getting sick. Her stomach hurts, back hurts, everything just hurts. She feels pukish and isnt keeping food down. She has been tired and seems to be getting quieter and quieter. I drove her to her doc who ran alot of tests and found nothing. We know somthing is rong, and r going in 1 week for a 2nd round of tests at another doctor. Ok here is the wierd part- pain meds R not working. In between doc appts, how can i A: make the pain lessen? How do i comfort her?9 wanna make her feel betta.
2006-07-02 16:13:54 · 17 answers · asked by Jim 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Also she is 16 (I am 17) and she is NOT preg, she is virgin and we have dine the pregnancy test anyways cuz it seems like morning sickness.
2006-07-02 16:15:15 · update #1
Also: I wanna know how I can provide the emotional support from her loss, as well as the support for her pain, and sickness. (sry to repete), But i wanna know how I can b here for her, and rly help her pull thru all of this.
2006-07-02 16:16:34 · update #2
We stopped trying the pain meds, we knew after 2 weeks they weren't working. (NOT shoving them down her through (re: Christina)
2006-07-02 16:20:24 · update #3
try a psychiatrist. she is suffering from stress.
2006-07-02 16:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by that's funny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have ruled out pregnancy, then you should talk to the right doctor about the effects of stress and loss. Psychologists and psychiatrists are ones that can help with these sorts of trouble. The next most plausible cause of all of this would be stress and loss. Her life is being uprooted and there is the stress of finances etc.
I can identify iwth the need to make things better. Listening to her will be a help and encouraging her to go to the right doctor will be a good start to get her feet back under her.
2006-07-02 23:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her pain stems from her life. She's been through an awful lot for someone so young. The stress she's been under is incredible. Her future probably looks very dim and depressing to her right now. Be the great friend you are being. Keep her mind off it, relive happier times. Give her hope that happier times will come again soon. Devise a method for the two of you to stay together. Right now, you are her only link to the life she once had. Moving away destroys that last link for her. Plan together how to keep that link alive. Best of luck. she's hurting and probably feels all alone.
2006-07-02 23:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression can present with physical symptoms sometimes. This girl's stuck in the middle of a pile of paperwork, she's gonna have to move, her mother is dead, and her father has left her. If pain meds aren't working I would think it could be psychiatric. I'm not saying she's crazy; just that she could be really depresssed. Try a psychiatrist. She may need some anti-depressants to help her get through this stage of her life, if it's hampering her that much. She could also have a virus that the doctors couldn't treat (viruses are tough like that), but I'm guessing it could be depression.
2006-07-02 23:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Nuwanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, You sound like a really nice guy and this is certainly alot for her to have to deal with...especially at 16. Certainly, you should follow the Doctors orders, but I'm wondering if it might all be stress related and perhaps she'd benefit from talking to a counselor or a priest. Just to let it all out. Sometimes it's best to do that with a professional instead of a friend. Good luck and God bless both of you...
2006-07-02 23:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by bllwnkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is stressed, thats why she is so sick. Cancel the next round of tests, and see a someone, (a speaciaist who deals w/ emotional pain) And to comfort her try to have her relax. Give her a massage, rub her shoulders. Pick out a fav movie and pop it in and just snuggle up and watch. u need to just be there for her, tell her u luv her every chance u get. Right now u r all thats left for her. Do anything she ask for, and be supportive. and if her physical pain gets EXTERMELY bad to the point that its unbarable, call your doctor for advice. Good luck, feel better
-casey
2006-07-03 08:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for all she is going through. This may just be symptoms of her emotional pain. Talk with the doctor about that possibility. In the mean time try heat wraps or cold compresses. Warm bubble baths might help.
2006-07-02 23:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by jdc591 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if doctors arent finding anything wrong..Have you thought about different kinds of specialist..Maybe all the emotional stress is taking a toll on her and shes just given up..So maybe its a mental phase rather then a physical one..Also you have to realize some pain meds are addictive so dont shove them down her throat to make her feel better..Perhaps talk with her..take her out to a movie and a dinner..Get her mind off things
2006-07-02 23:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to help her relax. Rub her shoulders, hold her in your arms, hold hands with her, that will let her know you care and support her. She has had a lot of bad stressful things happen to her in a very short time, and that is probably why she is quiet. It might take awhile for her to feel like a human again, and be able to laugh. Constant emotional stress will make you very tired also. Just be there for her......
2006-07-02 23:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i know you feel, she is the closet thing to you so i will try my best. shes pregnant, wants you to feel sorry for you (the least likely including pregnancy)mental illness, the most llikely is probably stress, could be cancer. im not sure im only thirteen, the best thing you can do for her, is find her favorite music, sit down at night and just talk and listen to it, and reassure her that if something happens to her you wont walk away like her father, and if its about dieing, well the best thing for me was becoming a seventh day adventist. if you want to talk for any reason my address is cedriclynn1@yahoo.com, i may be thirteen but im the most mature and smart person out of all my friends (straight from their mouths)
2006-07-02 23:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by cedric l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try bland foods and gingerale. try all the stuff you use when you have a stomach ache, but i think that the only thing you can do now is just keep being there for her. Right now she needs you. So give her that. I am not saying it is easy to stand by and watch, but it is probably the most helpful thing you are doing right now. Good Luck.
2006-07-02 23:20:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋