i was walking down the street the other day and man approached me and asked me if i would have lunch with him because he was very lonely and did not want to eat alone. he also said that i could eat whatever i wanted and that i could pick any restaurant to go to and that it would be his treat.
well...... i did have some free time, and i was hungry, and there was this place that i was dyin to go to , only it is out of my budget.....
i accepted his invitation, we had an awesome lunch and then parted ways.
did i take advantage of him?
2006-07-02 16:13:51 · 43 answers · asked by bluepuddle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i had alot of fun. we spoke about nothing personal. just popular chit chat.
he seemed like a nice man, and i would not have thunk he was a loner........
i had some grrrrreeaaaaatttt food!!!
2006-07-02 16:18:05 · update #1
i did not get into a car with him. we walked about 8 blocks to the restaurant. i know that was a risk, but..... we were always surrounded by thousands of people. i am in the big apple.
2006-07-02 16:21:12 · update #2
No you honerd the lonely dudes wishes I don't see how you took advantage of him,and I guess he enjoyed Ur company Right?And I assume lunch was good .Now if u wanted xtra money to eat with him it would have been a different story ...
2006-07-02 16:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Hea Dude ! 6 · 10⤊ 3⤋
It depends. If this place was out of his league, than I'm sorry to say sweetheart, but you did. Same goes if he is how do I put this, truly lonely and just needs companionship (I use the term in the friends sense). It's kinda cruel to take a lonely person's money (even if he has a lot) and give him the facade of friendship.
If on the other hand, he just was feelingly lonely, had some spare cash and felt like talking to someone, what you did was, if not an example of perfect selflessness, acceptable. He did, after all, offer.
I am of the opinion that if more people tried to help those who felt lonely or down on their luck more often, the world might be a more cheerful place. Maybe next time you should consider splitting ice cream in the park or something like that. It'd be really good karma.
2006-07-02 16:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by derkaiser93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but it may not have been the smartest thing to do. I hope you didn't get into his car to go to the restaurant. Even though it worked out ok this time, it's just not smart to do. As for the conversation you had over lunch...is it possible that he found anything out about you that could help him find out where you live or work? I wouldn't advise doing it again!
2006-07-02 16:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by funlady6632@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nop......i guess that was a good way for a guy to ask a nice girl like u out for a lunch date.....no strings attached but he got a chance to get to know u better. But then, u took a very big risk by accepting his offer. I guess u r lucky that he was a good guy n an honest one.Next time make sure that it's safe to accept invitation like this...............Not everyday is a Sunday.....
The next time if you ever see that guy again do tell him that i said.....Thanks for the good tips.
2006-07-02 17:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ynot78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did a good thing, I am one of those people who doesn't like to eat alone... it just doesn't taste good... Think of it as a nice gesture, and you got a nice deal out of it, as well... Who knows probably, the guy just wanted to do a good thing for someone... I have those fantasies sometimes to pay for someone's lunch like a policeman, or a nurse... or such.. people love to do good things... and to enjoy doing that... If it were me, I would have probably offered to pay for my own meal, (cuz I like to be independent) but some guys feel insulted by that so during the lunch time you'd probably found out what your options were... anyway, I think since he took you to that nice place it was probably pocket change for him, so don't worry I think you're ok... enjoy the memory...
2006-07-02 16:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No He set the terms he would pay for the company of a nice person. Beware if he continues to follow you. You did not take advantage of him but you need to be careful . Not everybody out there who does that is just lonely.
2006-07-02 16:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You provided him with companionship, he provided you with the chance to enjoy a restaurant that you otherwise could not afford.
It is sad that he was so desperate for someone to talk to. As long as you treated him with respect, and did not lead him on, you did not take advantage of him. It would have been nicer to actually tried to develop a friendship, but that was your choice!
2006-07-02 16:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by fire4511 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is this guy a right guy ?
if the intensions were honest and to make u his
friend then its ok.
if not then its not ok
and also plz take care of urself while going out
with a person u dont know well.
thank you for asking a nice question.
2006-07-02 16:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by loveice33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you took an advantage of him...he just wanted you to have lunch with him...he was sweet enough to ask. So I say nope you didn't. He just wanted someone to eat with.
2006-07-02 16:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You risked your life for a cheap lunch that is worth more than your life. Fortunately luck is by your side otherwise you will become his dessert!
2006-07-02 16:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sO you Only went for yourself? Hmm. You were hungry and that was it. You didn't even know the guy. So you went cause you were hungry? haha. I dont really know. He might have taken it the wrong way. Did you have fun though?
2006-07-02 16:16:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋