She is the most self-serving b**** that I have ever met. She makes an effort to buy herself Acqua di Parma Parfum and anything else she wants before she does anything (if anything) for her kids. My niece and nephew are dirty on the regular. When both of them turned 5, she told them that they had to bath and dress themselves. Sometimes, they go for days at a time without bathing. She told my nephew that his feet stink. So, she bought him a bottle of foot-powder and didn't even take the time to teach him how to use it. BUT...she fussed him out when he emptied the bottle a few days later! She leaves out the house in the morning freshly groomed and freshly coiffed! My brother is in Iraq at the moment and this problem is getting worse by the minute!
I would like to call the OREGON Dept of Families and Children on her triffling-***, but I'm afraid that those officials will excuse her behavior because her husband is at war. Short of ambushing/beating this b**** what do I need to do?
2006-07-02 15:56:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why would they excuse her behavior? Neglect is neglect. No exceptions.
Call for the sake of the children. We don't need the kids to grow up into delinquent teenagers and possibly law-breaking adults.
2006-07-02 16:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by instantly_oatmeal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband was deployed for 15 months, I know how hard it can be to raise kids on your own and always worry about your husbands well being. She is going through more then you might realize. Of course I am not defending her not keeping her children clean but perhaps she is overwhelmed and needs some help. and maybe you are just the person for the job.Maybe try gently telling her that you have noticed that things seem different, that the kids aren't looking as good as they should and that you think she might be a little overwhelmed, could you help her out. You might find that is just what she needs, a gentle kick in the pants..but instead of attacking her personally, maybe talk to her about how hard things must be for her and that you have noticed some 'changes' and not for the better. If the childrens lives are truly in danger, by all means call Child Protective Services. But if you can be the hero of the situation please do so. Chances are your brother would hear about it and be even more stressed. Something he doesn't need in Iraq, they got enough drama going on over there as it is.
Good luck!
2006-07-02 19:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say call the Oregon Department of Families and Children. From the sounds of her I doubt she would listen to you. If you tell her, "You're a terrible mother," even civilly, you may no longer be welcome in her home. Your niece and nephew need you. Let someone else be the "bad guy." If they are as dirty as you say on a regular basis, an unexpected visit from them may do her good. They should start an investigation. Make sure when you call that they understand it is an "anonymous" report. When you make your report, don't sound angry about your sister-in-law or her habits. That makes it sound like you have a personal vendetta against her. Really, it's about the kids. Give as many examples you can of the poor treatment that you've witnessed. Good luck!
2006-07-02 16:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the authorities are able to rat on you if you turn her in. They can not tell her it was you, all it is, is an anonymous tip.. If you have to send pictures of the un-bathed kids by mail. There will be an investigation and your name will not be mentioned unless you rat on yourself. When your brother comes home he will love you for protecting his children. I have the same problem but my brother is not in Iraq. I feel helpless too.
2006-07-02 16:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she will not make mother of the year. Ask her if she cares about the kids at all. Suggest she take a parenting course or some advise from you and others.
2006-07-02 16:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing to do is sit her down and calmly explain your concerns for her childrens health. That's the best advice I can give.
2006-07-02 16:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its tuff but family pressure is the best pressure.If you get your family together and rip her a new asshole things will probably go OK till your brother gets home.
2006-07-02 16:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer to take the kids and care for them for a bit. Show them what they need to do to take care of themselves.
2006-07-02 16:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by warriorwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is that bad, why tell her civally.....call the DHS office on her, and feel good about yourself for putting the children ahead of everything
2006-07-02 16:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by benninb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T062100.asp
Read this, you are a child abuser by reading your advice given previously.
2006-07-03 08:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋