Everything is fabulous with my boyfriend and I. We have not been dating for very long, about 2 months, but we are falling in love with each other. It is like nothing else I have ever experienced. We are both in our mid 20's. The problem is, despite everything going extremely well, he says he is not "comfortable" or "ready" to make love with me. I am so confused. Has anyone else ever experienced this? This doesn't seem like normal male behavior.
2006-07-02 15:34:25 · 18 answers · asked by Halo729 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well no this has never happened to me. But there's no reason to rush him. Might be a relgious thing or maybe it's just too soon for him to move to that new level of intimacy. Give him time and patience or even ask why. Not all men are willing to jump into the bed so soon.
2006-07-02 15:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a virgin? How much do you know about his prior sexual experiences? Is he bi? Maybe he is one of those rare, ultra caring & sensitive guys who really wants to wait until the time is right for both of you.
The only other thing I can think of is that he has a problem "down there" and it could be a number of things. Impotent, small, who knows? But it sounds like he really loves you so no matter what I'm sure you guys will work through it if there is an issue.
Good luck...
2006-07-02 15:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by mistressmalice23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, done that. Have you asked him why he isn't comfortable? There is another possibility that perhaps isn't being considered - he may be a virgin, or at the very least inexperienced. He may feel that you are experienced and that he will not be able to please you. Or, he may really care about you. Both men and women have a tendancy to wait longer to have sex with someone that they actually care about. Plus, it's only been two months - give it some time before you make a decision you may regret later.
2006-07-02 16:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by Roach25486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not happen to me before. He might just not ready ready. He might think that if making love right away and you two been only dating for 2 months would be too early. He probably afraid that moving too fast in a relationship would be not good. Take it slow and go ahead and asked him what's wrong.
2006-07-02 15:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he really wants to be sure you're the right one. Maybe he has a sexual issue and hasn't been able to open up to you yet. I would wait it out and just be happy with the pleasures of foreplay!! Eventually you will know what is best for you. Don't pressure him to talk about it either if he says he doesn't want to... you know how guys need the time and space to talk when they're ready.
2006-07-02 15:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 01:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and everything else is good with the two of you then just be patient. Maybe he doesn't want to disappoint you or maybe he's waiting for the right time. Give it time and he'll come around.
2006-07-02 15:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by angella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect his decision, plus there are other things to do with each other instead of full on sex.
I don't mean to be rude, but how do you know he's falling in love with you. Only he knows his feelings.
2006-07-02 15:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by TheBigV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it have anything to do with the fact that he wants to make sure you're the one before he commits to sex with you. Its a very personal thing to alot of people, myself included.
2006-07-02 15:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by bakerbride2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either an exteme gentleman as in my case or queer as in the case of a good friend of mine. Sorry, is that a politically correct term?
2006-07-02 15:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by muchacha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋