How do I explain this loss to a six year old?

Question

My six year old has had to deal with death and loss before. She understands that everything that lives also dies. She actually grasps that concept more than most six year olds that I know. However in the past we have always had warning and it has always been in a situation where she knows the person. If you saw my other post you will know that I just found out today about a death that happened in October. I do not know how to explain to my daughter that this person I have told her so much about and that I know would have loved her never got the chance to know her. That her grandmother that she has heard stories about and has looked forward to getting to know is gone and she will never have that chance. I know I have to tell her. I just do not know how to explain this one to her. Its not a matter of explaining death...I have done that before. Its the situation it is in...and so many months later...

Answer 1

Just be honest and explain you just found out yourself. She may be a little upset, but most 6 year olds will cope pretty quickly. What upsets them more is when they are not told the truth.

Answer 2

well you could say things really nicely and break it to her by saying sweety um... well your grandmother has well past away to a better place in the world and i know that you didn't get to know her very well but as you know we all die some day and you know that you will die some day to so when you get to heaven you will get to know her a lot better and be with her for over 1,000,000,000 and beyond so you will get to to know her a wwwaaayyy lot better. OK [ after a while get ice cream or be very nice to her]

P.S. i am very sorry for your mother or your husbands mother dieing

PSS answer any qestions she might have I know this is hard i uderstand belive me!!! i hope you do what i say because i have had to do the same thing.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Difficult to make the child understand. You have to know that grandparents & grandchildren are more attached then the paternts & children
u can try by giving live example about other people whom both of you know, or
an imaginery example with your problem. All the best

Answer 5

I have two small children myself and my youngest has Autism so he is not aware of death yet but my oldest is. My ex took his life a month ago and I have yet to bring myself to tell them they loved him like a dad. I tell them he moved away which in truth he did but when they're older I will explain where he moved to right now they're too young.
Death is invincible and yet it is neither good nor bad it just is. Your child is young and perhaps it is best to wait until she's older to explain what happened until then remind her what a person brought in their time here...love, respect and memories.

)o( Goddess Bless )o(

Answer 6

Be confident & positive as you explain the death of someone you loved, reassuring her that YOU KNOW "we'll see her in due time"

If you're NOT sure, brush up on the resurrection hope Jesus made possible. He said "Do not MARVEL at this..." -John 5:28

Answer 7

~~first off, very sorry to hear of your loss, My sister's first husband died and the children were 3, 3, 6, and 8 years old. one of the 3 year olds kept thinking her daddy would come home from the hospital all better, and the other one the night before he died told me that her daddy was going to die. the next day when he had died the first thing she said when she woke up with tears in her eyes was my daddy die. later that day I talked to her and asked her how she knew that her daddy was going to die and she pointed to a picture of Jesus and said "my daddy die" and this was a child that never said yes...she would say "k", or sometimes "yea", but mostly "k" I asked her if she spoke to Jesus and she looked me in the eyes and said "yes" and I asked her if Jesus told her that her daddy was going to die, and again she looked me in the eyes and said "yes" and I asked her if Jesus told her that her daddy wasn't coming back here to live and again she looked me in the eyes and said "yes" and I asked her if her daddy went to heaven to live with Jesus and she looked me in the eyes and said "Yes my daddy die" I held her while she cried. I tell you this because, Dana's faith that her daddy was in heaven was what helped the other 3 children get through the loss of their daddy. Explaining to a child that some day they will see this person again, helps to comfort them. it has been several years since their dad died, Dana and Bethany are 8 now, and they still have memories of their dad. it helps talking to them and reminding them of things they did with their dad, and reminding them that their dad loved them very much. My sister is re-married, and they have a new dad, (they call him daddy) but that don't mean that they have forgotten their biological dad... they say things like "my first daddy...." you can still assure your child that someday in heaven they will meet, and in the mean time, her grandmother is up in heaven watching over her... play the song holes in the floor of heaven, and talk to her about her grandmother... it will help both of you.~~

Answer 8

i am very sorry for your loss.
this is a hard situation, i understand.
just tell her. fear should never stop anyone to do anything.
their is no an obstacle that is too big for someone.
you should tell her now or she might get angry that you kept this a secret from her. comfert her as much as possible. tell her everyone will die some day, and maby she will see her grandma in her dreams....mabye....

Answer 9

Just sit down with your child and explain it the best you can and I am sorry about your loss.

Answer 10

Maybe you could tell her that>>> sometimes, we don't get to do the things we plan to do because sometimes, the Lord has different plans for us... & He already had a plan for her grandmother... to go ahead & take her to heaven, sooner than was expected.
He gathers His beautiful flowers... & she was one of them... it was her time to go & be with Him.
She can go be with & meet her grandmother when God picks her (another one of His flowers), when it's her time to go.

Answer 11

Hi. Try telling your daughter this story a friend forwarded to me via e-mail. I hope this helps. God bless.


Sally jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She said: "How is my little boy? Is he going to be all right? When can I see him?"

The surgeon said, "I'm sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn't make it."

Sally said, "Why do little children get cancer? Doesn't God care any more? Where were you, God, when my son needed you?"


The surgeon asked, "Would you like some time alone with your son? One of the nurses will be out in a few minutes, before he's transported to the university."

Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good-bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair.

"Would you like a lock of his hair?" the nurse asked.

Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy's hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally. The mother said, "It was Jimmy's idea to donate his body to the university for study. He said it might help somebody else. "I said no at first, but Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after I die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his Mom." She went on, "My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of someone else. Always wanting to help others if he could."

Sally walked out of Children's mercy Hospital for the last time, after spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's belongings on the seat beside her in the car. The drive home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy's belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son's room. She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.

It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Laying beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The letter said:

"Dear Mom, I know you're going to miss me; but don't think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just 'cause I'm not around to say I LOVE YOU. I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won't be so lonely, that's okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn't like the same things us boys do. You'll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know. Don't be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn't look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD! And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on God's knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That's when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good-bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn't allowed. Well, you know what Mom? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him 'Where was He when I needed him?' "God said He was in the same place with me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children.

Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I've written except you. To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool? I have to give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I'm, sure the food will be great.

Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt anymore. The cancer is all gone. I'm glad because I couldn't stand that pain anymore and God couldn't stand to see me hurt so much, either. That's when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?
Signed with Love from: God, Jesus &Me.