Help!! I can't get my kids to sleep in their own beds.They both still wake in the night too.Help Im loosing it

Answer 1

You don't say how old the kids are....You will have to put them in bed and make them stay there. Remember YOU ARE THE BOSS! They will cry and scream and throw a fit but you will have to hold strong. If they are in their room don't go in. I suggest a view monitor, you can buy them at Walmart for about $100. This way you aren't convincing yourself that "Oh the sound of the cry just changed, they maybe hurt." LOL Yes, I do have experience with this problem. 2nd if they come out of the room, you calmly pick them up, put them back in bed and say "Good nite I'll see you in the morning." You may have to do this over and over. Then once they go to sleep they will probably wake up in the nite and come get in your bed. You have to make yourself get up and put them back in their beds. Repeat steps 1 and 2 (sorry but honestly this will probably happen! sigh...). The key is you have to stay calm, when your dyn' from lack of sleep and their still crying and coming out of the room you can't lose it, they will know theyv'e almost won and press the advantage! You also have to be constitent. Pick a date and once you start you have to stay with it. You can let them know in advance once the date has been set and start talking about it. It will probably take about 5-7 days but once it is done, Its DONE! If at all possible see if a relative or good friend can take them for a couple hrs during the day to give you time to rest and recharge lol. Also during this first week if you don't let them nap that might help! Good luck, let me know how it goes.

Answer 2

This is no easy task however it CAN be done. You did not mention ages, but I assume they are young maybe 2-4yrs old? The first problem is they are waking up during the night. That may be because they are getting more sleep than they need. Although it is awesome when kids take a nap ( me time) some just do not need it. Some kids do great on 8 hrs of sleep others may need 12. If they are sleeping to long at nap time they will be hard to get to sleep and will wake up simply because they are not tired. I would first tackle this issue. It will take some trial and error and time but will help with the next step. Next problem is getting them to sleep in their own beds. Get ready for some REAL fun here. You first need to establish a bedtime ritual. For a lot of kids this means a warm bath followed by some calming activities. Try a foot massage (for them) or coloring, a quick snack ( avoid sugar!) or simply let them tell you about their day. Play some music. Classical played softly works great! Follow this with brushing teeth and hair and a bedtime story. You can also let them make one up to tell you (they LOVE this). Then tuck them in quick kiss, goodnight I love you etc. Tell them you will see them in the morning and walk out. If they get out of bed, pick them up and say: It is time to sleep please stay in your bed,goodnight. When they get back up (and they will) simply pick them up SAY NOTHING and put them back in bed. Do this EVERYTIME they get up, saying nothing put them in the bed and leave the room. Be prepared to do this for a couple hours the first night. The next night will take less time until they figure out that you aren't giving up and they WILL sleep in their own beds ALL night. The important thing to remember is to stay CALM. Kids sense stress and act on it! Try a night light if they are afraid of the dark. And don't forget to reward them when they do stay in bed all night ! Keep in mind this is a phase like the countless other ones you have yet to endure. This is going to take time but once you get it down your reward is a great night of sleep for yourself...AHHHHH.

Answer 3

Getting kids to stay in their beds is difficult. My daughter took the longest time and now i'm dealing with my son. It's natural for them to wake up during the night, I know I do. I have read that if you let them fall asleep with you and then move them you might have more success as long as you do it every night. If they wake up at night instead of letting them hop in your bed lay down next to them or near them in their bed. Sleeping alone can be scary for a younger child. How old are your children?

Answer 4

Well, the easiest way? Hades, there is no dead easy way. Consistent behaviour, on your part is the best way, though it will take time. Do you have a Significant Other? The backing of an SO is very helpful (read: almost absolutely needed).
Assistance by demonstration, such as one of their cousins, who can sleep by their-self, in their own room, can be useful.
Just do not fall into the You know is such a good kid, why can't you be like them, trap.

Answer 5

it is up to you if you want to try this or not. I've had the same problem with my two year old son, i tried everything under the sun to get him to sleep in his own bed. i finally gave in a put the TV from my room into his (got a cheep DVD player and hooked it up) ever since i put that dam* TV in his room he sleeps there all night and doesn't crawl in bed with dad and i till he wakes up in the morning and its time to get up. (and don't worry about the spelling, your probably doing good to remember how to turn on the computer at this point lol)

mommy of 2

Answer 6

Go to your search engine. Type in "Getting Kids To Stay In Bed". Choose the first choice. You should be on SheKnows Network. On that same page they should have some very good tips to getting your kids to bed ON TIME and keep them there over the course of the night. It has been very helpful to me! Hope it works for you too.

Heather

Answer 7

I co-sleep with all my babies.... when they are old enough to understand.. somwhere between the age of 2 and 3.... I explain to them that they are too big to sleep in mommy and daddy's bed. but that if they feel the need to be secure next to mom and dad, to grab a blanket and a pillow and sleep on the floor.... sometimes they protest, but I remind them that they have a comfy bed in their own room if they want to be comfy.. if they are sleeping in mom and dad's room, its on the floor. This way, if they need comfort from a night mare or whatever, that need is still being met and you still get your bed... This has worked so far for 3 out of 4 of my children. We will soon be starting this with the youngest who is 21 months old. I just weaned him from breastfeeding, so we have to give it time for before we start the new routine.. heck we still have to get his crib out of our room yet.... eventually.. without a fight or crying and a screaming battle, they will stay in their own room on their own... within a couple of months... Hope this helps.

trish

Answer 8

honey it is called benadryl.one tablespoon wont hurt them.i have a two year old with a sleeping disorder the docs want him on strong sleeping meds but benadryl really works and there are no side effects.remember one table spoon 1 hour before bed time and they will sleep like babys
good luck

Answer 9

depends on how old your kids are.. what i did was a reward day. each night that she slept in her own big bed she got a sticker then at the end of the week she got a big girl day (went to park, shopping whatever) and yes a small tv and movies are good. she watches one movie and before it's over she's out..and just keep reminding them to sleep in their own beds and not with you..

Answer 10

Well, you should tell them to sleep in their own beds, and if they don't listen, them that you're locking your door so they can't sleep on your bed. Also, tell them that they either sleep in their own beds, or they don't get what they really like for the rest of their lives and they have to sleep outside of the house.