Help the oldest!?

Question

im the oldest of 7 kids and im always getting blamed for things i didnt do! my 4 lil sisters torture my things and my 2 lil brothers go thru my things! any advice is greatly appreciated!! im 13 and the youngest is 4 HELP!

ok, everyone, the locked door is a great idea, but i share a room w/ two of my lil sisters!!! (they arent the problem tho, its the lil 2 girls, and the 2 boys)

Yes, they tell me my sisters coping is the best form of respect. and they look up to me and i need to be a good big sis and be a role model!

Yes, they tell me my sisters coping is the best form of respect. and they look up to me and i need to be a good big sis and be a role model!

i love the answers, but i couldnt hurt them. they dont hurt me, just bug me so dont tell me to hurt them plz. i love em, jsut need advice on how to help the bugging!

Answer 1

I am sorry but there is not a lot you can do. The best thing I can offer to you is to try to get your parents alone or at least your mom and tell her your feelings. Try to get grandma or one of mom's friends to help by coming over to watch the children, and ask your mom if just you and her can go out so you two can talk privately. Explain your feelings and how you feel that you are blamed unfairly. Remind her that you love your sibblings but you also need your own space. Mom and dad are probably overwhelmed trying to keep everything running and lash out at the largest target available. Not fair but common. Maybe you can suggest helping with the kids a short time each day so mom can take a bath or whatever. Take the kids outside and keep them busy with a ball or swings or tag just something to keep them moving so they'll stary out of trouble. This very act of a mature person will show your parents how much you are maturing. Remind them you need some alone time and if you take on a leader type roll with your sibblings some of the problems with them will stop because they will begin to look up to you as if you are an adult. It is hard being the oldest because so much more is expected of you and that is a shame but that is your roll in life, remember it also has it's advantages, you get to do everything first, drive, high school, college all first. Dating, sleep overs everything you get to experience first and help the others along the way. I know you can't appreciate it now but as you grow up you will be a better man, husband and father because of it. Now go out and be a leader and good luck.

Answer 2

Hey, I no what ya mean. I'm always the one who got blamed for everything. Got a video camera?Tell your family whats going on at a family meeting confront your problems head on. Don't sit there and take it. Just because your the oldest doesn't mean you have to be the most responsible? As you are only 13 your parents need to remember that !!!you still are a kid and growing into a young adult. Yet your parents need to trust you and let you grow up. They also should be giving you the proper amount of responsibility's that is age appropriate for you to handle; witch means not taking care of all of the kids all of the time. You still need to be a kid as well.Tell them you need some freedom from your siblings alone time. Even if you can go into your room for an hour with no interruptions. Make sure that you let them no that you are responsible, and that you need a chance to be both a young adult and sometimes still a kid. These are hard times you will be facing trying to grow up and all . Trust me your relationship will get better with your parents as well as your siblings, hope this helps. Otherwise you can end up bitter and having unnecessary resentment toward the rest of the family.Good luck been there.:)

Answer 3

Get a box for all ur stuff. Even ur clothes...lock 'em up, and then ur siblings won't be able to get to it w/o mommy and daddy. Locks are the key to ur happiness at this time. i'm the oldest of two. Getting blamed for everything and consequently not being liked because u go through life first just comes with the territory. Ur the lab rat, they'll try stuff on u, and whatever works will be passed on down the line, whatever doesn't work will be tossed out. U'll always be the lab rat. In most families, the older a person is in the family, the worse they have it. That's why so many older kids are driven and successful when they grow up, because all they were trying to do, was get out of the house, and stay out for good.

Answer 4

She is right siblings whether they are younger or older may annoy you. My sister is five years older than me and she used to steal my clothes all the time so my parents put a lock on my door, it still didn't help because she knew how to get in with it being locked with a credit card but luckily for you your brothers and sisters probably won't figure out how to open it with a credit card.

Answer 5

HAHAHAHA been there done that. I am the oldest of four and I always got blamed for everything. I sat down with my parents and told them the truth about what I did and didn't do. Once you give your parents the trust they deserve they will start listening to you. Example.......... I always got blamed for smoking in my grand mothers bathroom and I was told over and over again to stop hiding my cigarettes there. I kept saying i don't know what you are talking about. Finally one day ( age 15) I said listen yeah I smoke but i don't smoke in the house and I have no idea where I am suppose to be hiding my smokes. a few weeks went by my mom and i talked about me smoking and i said i am glad you know but I don't know why you think i am going to burn down the house I don't smoke at home. it turned out my younger sisters use to smoke half a cigarette and hide the other half in a match box under the towels. gain their trust!!!

Answer 6

Can you put a lock on your door ? If not try to put things under lock and key .. Tell them that , they wouldn't like it if you got into their things , so stay out of yours. Maybe have a family meeting and talk about what is happening and how everyone can help it to stop .

Answer 7

I totally understand I am the oldest of 5 as well but 15. Its OK. Take things one at a time tell your parents what you did and what they do . Tell them you are not their responsibility.

Answer 8

do you have a video camera? or a tape recorder? set those up secretly in your room and record what happens. show it to your parents after about 2 weeks of footage. also when my little sister is being a brat i just start counting down from 3 and i have never told her what happens when i get to 1, i guess she doesnt want to know because she quits whatever she is doing as soon as i start counting.

Answer 9

hey well i was the second to youngest but what i did waz i got a video recorder and recored them being bad and 4 revenge i would threten to tell our parents!!! it might work just make sure u dont get ur self in trouble for (i shouldnt b u in the frame)=) chelsea

Answer 10

have you tried talking to your parents? get a locked box from home depot and put all the things you dont want broke into it.. that can fit....then put it up high... for the time being.. you can put all of the important stuff up on a high shelf in the closet or whatever until u can get a box.