My bf is 33 he got married to his childhood sweet heart and she left him for another man. We met and hit it off and everything went too quick kids involved and then he wanted us to buy a house together, i stressed and handled it all wrong, im used to the single life and he to the married life, now he's decicded he wants some time so that he can be selfish.. buy a bike do what he wants says he's not gonna go looking for other women but if something happens it happens, he says he still loves me and wants us to be friends, give him 6 months to a year to sort himself out ,and he does not expect me to wait.He says if we are meant to be we will be fine when he's made himself happy,well he's not my bf anymore as of today,HELP. PS :His friend recently left his wife and has moved in with him., he owns a bike. i think he is easliy influenced , also it's strange how he come back from visiting his friends and family and this was his decision.He is niave about many things, his friends say that 2
2006-07-02 15:01:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wats the prob...give him time
2006-07-02 15:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by nano 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you got kids together, who are they living with now. You didn't really say if you got married in the process, but if you did maybe you should get a divorce and try starting over again. 6 months to a year is a long time, you should have that person around. Doesn't make sense that he couldn't be selfish while in the relationship, you know, get a bike and still be with you. Just make sure that you and the kids are ok, and just leave the lines of communication open. You don't have to get back with him, there are plenty of dudes out there that may be a better match for you.
2006-07-02 15:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by gorjatech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and him are over. You need to pick up the pieces and move on. If you wait a year, he's not coming back...we both know that. I know it hurts, but better now, than later. Just be glad you aren't married with kids, because he would do the same thing then. Count your losses, hold your head up high, and move on. You're a good woman, and deserve a good man.....now, go find him! Best of luck to you!
2006-07-02 15:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Easier said than done, but he'll play you like a fish on the line if you let him manipulate you. He's not ready for what you want and you're foolish to wait around. Go meet some new guys and hope for a more mature man who wants you now, not take 6 months to ride his bike and maybe decide he wants you.
2006-07-02 15:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by boogaflickah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And the question was???
Look Darlin, any guy who says he needs time off to go and "find" himself...is not interested in being married and settling down.
Let him go...find a grown up....and set some rules that will let you be you....and then enjoy life!!
Good luck.
2006-07-02 15:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 33, i don't expecta man to be so naive as his friend try to say and you tend to believe.
Move over and find some alternative or else you would also be struggling.
2006-07-03 23:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of having his cake and eating it too?
Sounds like he wants the single life to me and unfortunately you were just a phase. Time to move onto a find a man worthy of your love, kindness and generosity.
2006-07-02 15:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Chalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you did the right thing let him go move on with your life.. I don't want to say bad things about people but he doesn't sound like a keeper .
2006-07-02 15:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Big Buddha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if this sounds to strongly worded, but it sounds like it is time to move on in your life. He did.
Be strong.
The best revenge is success in you own life.
2006-07-02 15:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by csburridge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy just got out of a Long term relationship, and You were the "rebound" girl... i think let him go "find himslef", but dont be upset if he finds it with another gal
Move On
2006-07-02 15:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i answered this question already refer back to my answer before.
2006-07-02 15:04:33 · answer #11 · answered by oaklandkc1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋