me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 years now and we love eachother so much , but he just loooves spending time with his friends, everytime i call him hez with his friends,,, friends friends and FRIENDS! he takes me out but not alot anymore. what can i do to give him hints that i like ROMANCE AND AFFECTION with out actually telling him! i dont want to sound like the WHINY GIRLFRIEND, just wanna give him hints
2006-07-02 14:51:58 · 17 answers · asked by lauren 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try and ask him if he wants to do stuff, you take him out then maybe he'll feel bad.
2006-07-02 14:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is coming from a guy so take it as such--
90% of us guys are dense we usually wont take a hint and are sometimes confused by it. i would suggest that you either simply state that you miss going out as just the 2, you won't sound like a whiny girlfriend as long as you don't drag it out, or if you really don't want to say any thing you could just plan a few outings for just the two of you and see if he catches on who knows he might be part of the 10%. Another idea i would suggest would be for both of you to take the MBTI and then read each others results, its a personality type test that will most likely help you understand each other better and if nothing else will give you something to reflect on and help get to know yourself a bit better. If you are attending college you can probably take it free, or you can find mock-ups of it on-line, there not as good but are fairly accurate.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-02 22:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by DM 9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hints?
You would like to be subtle......
You want him to know that you like romance and affection.....
You don't want to whine.......
Sounds to me like you would like to manipulate the situation in your favor so you can whine about something yet he won't dump you, or at least have a reason to dump you.
Being soo in love with you, I am sure it would take alot more than that, for him to do that right?
If you just tell him, than that way you can talk about it. If you hint.....
If I have to figure out by putting together clues, solving mysteries and listening and paying attention for hints, i would have no time left over to pay attention to you.
If hes like me, he ignores subtlies and hints because I am not good at that game and I am sure not to many guys are either.
So give the man a break and just tell him, dont torture him.
2006-07-02 22:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tyson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a guy, guys cannot be helped or forced into doing something they dont want to do. Maybe hes just going through a phase or is confused about your relationship. He also could be getting bored with you (no offence but it happens) try some new things to make your relationship exciting. Try planning a spontaneous trip or maybe plan a day doing something you know he likes to do like golfing or fishing or some other guy thing that we girls arent all that interested in. If you should more interest in what he enjoys doing he will want to spend more time with you.
2006-07-02 21:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to be up front, ask for what you want. Your bf can't read your mind and you can't be upset with him for not being able to. Tell him that you need more time alone together. Tell him that he needs to make you and your relationship a priority.
I am however wondering if not spending time with you and constantly being with his friends is his way of 'hinting' that he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Or maybe he's just taking you for granted...either way you need to talk to him to find out.
2006-07-02 22:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Linnygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a man he may actually need to hear the words as my wife can hint at me for weeks and I think SHE is acting weird then she tells me and all is well again.
2006-07-02 21:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a long talk with him tell him what you want . Hey I like it when someone will talk to me we will be able to get along better
I hate to say it but if the two of you cant talk you won't last as a couple
2006-07-02 22:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by edward b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds more like a husband than a boyfriend. You mightr as well get used to it if you plan on getting married (to anyone) someday. It's just what happens.
2006-07-02 21:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by bakerbride2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set it up that he'll catch you talking to one of your friends about it. Or just ask him about doing something. It's not being whiny, just don't sound desperate.
2006-07-02 21:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more time with your girlfriends when he is available to do things with you then he will see he needs to make time with you. If he is making time for you, you still need to spend time with your girlfriends so you dont smother him. He is doing nothing wrong if he's with male friends so relax.
2006-07-02 21:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Renee B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋