is it wrong to want to meet someone you just met online?

Question

I am 35 he is 38... With all the news and stuff going on, I am a bit leary of meeting him.. I want to, but scared to? We have been talking on the computer for a couple of days now, and he seems really down to earth and I am really interested in meeting him.. I have seen his pics and everything just so scared to.. So, I guess the real question is...........How is the success rate in meeting someone online? and is it safe? What would you do on a first meeting?

Answer 1

I had a friend I talked to online for a couple of years and we finally decided to meet, he came all the way from Canada to Indiana and it ruined our friendship. We never talked again. Isn't that awful? If you're definitely worried about it, I would maybe bring a friend or a couple of friends for your first meeting and see how it goes. Maybe you could meet for lunch. It's normal to be nervous about it, it is a risky thing, just take precautions.

Answer 2

I've met several girls in person who I first met online. I'm now living with my girlfriend who I met on Yahoo personals. You shouldn't let all the negative publicity the internet has recently received due to a bunch of perverts that can't find an original way to select victims.

Make sure you are safe by meeting in a public place. You don't need to have him over to your house the first time you meet. Have dinner or see a movie or something so if he is a weirdo you can get some help. If you don't trust the situation, just leave, and if its obvious that he's trying something he shouldn't use your cellphone and call the cops.

You will find that the majority of people meeting other people on the internet are just the same as most people. If you meet someone in a bar the chance that they are lying to you is just as high as someone you talk to on the internet. The difference is, the internet dude is lying because he has some sense of anonymity while the dude at the bar is probably intoxicated or just lookin for a quick one night stand.

While a lot of people will tell you to resist, and not meet him yet, how much more will you truly know talking on the internet? You could try talking on the phone, that way you can judge voice inflections. If this guy is a psycho killer waiting for you to finally say yes and give him your address or agree to meet him at the corner of x and y streets at 3 am, then he probably won't be cool with having a cup of coffee and a piece of pie at a local diner where you know the waitresses.

If you want to be so bleak as to say, well maybe he will be cool with it and then turn into a spastic grabby pervert after a few weeks...that happens when you meet someone at the library, sometimes anyway...gotta go back to that library :)

Answer 3

Well first of all it isn't that safe, and seeing someone's picture doesn't mean that is the person. If you have only been talking for a few days my advice would be No. I will say though I met the guy I am with 3 years ago online. We talked on the pc for awhile then on the phone and on our cams. We decided to meet in person, I made it on my terms, in my state where people knew what I was doing and in a public place. We have been together for almost 3 years now. But it could have been different, and I will say I will never take a chance like that again, if we were to ever split up, it is all too dangerous these days. Even though your an adult he could be some weirdo and you could end up hurt or dead.

Answer 4

I met my husband online, but in retrospect we were taking a huge risk. We are happy now, and something brought us together, but when we realize the risks we took we wished we would have known eachother longer than a month and then met gradually, in a secure, public place with other people we knew with us. No matter how good intentions are, it takes a year to really know a person, through good times and bad, holidays and birthdays. Relations with family members is important, and anyone can be "trustworthy" for a month, look at Ted Bundy? SO I BEG YOU, be safe, not sorry. Take your time, go meet him with a friend and don't be alone with him for a few weeks until you are sure his story checks out. Always tell your family and friends where you are going when you do go alone, and have a backup plan. Then, have fun without worry!

Answer 5

Well, the first thing you should do is screen this man out, Talk to him over the phone before you meet him. Usually meeting men from dating sites is the best way to go. I'm disabled and I have met a few men online. It's really comes down to having good judgement. Also when you do meet, meet in a public place and tell someone where you're going to meet....

Answer 6

Many people meet online these days. If it were me, I would only agree to meeting in a public place for "coffee" to begin with. That way if you don't hit it off, you don't have to suffer through a long meal or anything. If that goes well, then I would do a lunch or dinner, but still in a public place. Don't be alone until you have met some of his friends, and have him meet some of yours. The opinions of his peers can be very valuable.

Answer 7

Just be careful. Don't give out any personal information about yourself like where you live, who you live with etc. Take things slow. Make sure you're seeing what is and not what you want it to be. If and when you decide to meet, arrange to meet in a very public place. Be sure someone else knows where you are going and what you are doing. Be sure you have transportation, a cell phone, money, etc. Coffee shops are good because you're not stuck there if things aren't going well.

Answer 8

you can meet him but meet him in public places and don go alone. maybe ask any of ur fren to go with u and ask them to sit in a place where they can watch you but don tell that guy that ur frens are there with u. so u don hav to worry since ur fren are there if anything wen wrong. I won say it's 100% safe to meet someone online but i did and i'm engaged now. For the first meeting you choose a place which is suitable for you and always be alert but if you still have the doubt coz u don trust that guy then u don meet him. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Days?????????????????.....No don't...Not unless u no sum1 who nos him well in person and who tells u so..

Even if that was the case tho, I still wouldn't meet the dude. It's definitely not safe...that is unless u like getting hurt by strange, stage people..

But I don't think that's the case, seeing as though u had the sense to doubt ur wanting 2 meet him. :)

Just take my advice and keep it solely e-mails or letters from time 2 time, k? It's safer, plus u wont completely lose the relationship :)

Good luck, and b very careful.

Sailor Star Fighter, out!

Answer 10

I would give it more than a few days to get to know someone. If you do decide to meet him, meet him in a public place with a friend of yours watching your back. Also let your family know where you are going. There too many freaks looking to hurt people, please be careful.