Will I ever be the same person I was before this happened to me???

Question

My junior year of college I had a complete mental breakdown. Prior to my breakdown I had a 4.0GPA, a good relationship and was pretty much the most social person you could meet. Through out the year I broke down lost my love, lost most of my friends and almost dropped out of school. Ive been to so many doctors and one is kind of helping me now. ,,,but Im not the same anymore. I had the perfect life, wealthy family and the best friends ever and now I dont enjoy any of it. Im on zoloft now and doing a little better but im wondering if one day it will not be my first and last thought...please give advice!!! and no stupid comments about how depression and stuff isnt real...save that for tom cruise

Answer 1

No, you will never be the same as you were before. But from the sound of it, why would you want to be? It was stressing you out to the max and causing you to be mentally unhealthy in the first place. I am not saying it was bad, but 4.0 and social activities, keeping up with the Jones' all has its price. There is no reason why you can't get a few things back, but maybe now is the time to re-group, and figure out what it is that you do want and won't make you unhappy or stressed.

All of life, even the good parts we enjoy, comes with some negative. We as human beings have to figure out how to take the good with the bad. But some parts of life come with more bad than they are worth, more negative than we can handle. So remove those parts, find other things you do value and are worth it. You will be a much healthier person in the long run. AND that is what matters, your health and happiness.

You can't turn back time, but you can learn from the past and make it better. Good luck!!

Answer 2

Depression is real all right- and it can have devestating effects. As you know.

I won't promise you'll be the same person you were before: Experiences cause changes. But- you can be a BETTER person, because you will know things you didn't before.

For one thing- Stop worrying much about the long-term. Consider it, yes. But don't let it consume you: It will burn much of your energy and time, and cause more stress, which will lead to more depression.

Are there things you want to accomplish? If so, start setting little goals so you can work toward them. Don't try to do everything at once.

I won't suggest you go into a party scene: I never could see the point of that myself. But you may consider trying to go out with your friends now and then. One of the last things you really need is to be alone.

Perhaps you can try talking with the doctor who is helping you right now for more advice. Good luck!

Answer 3

I suffered from a serious breakdown just over 2 years ago, and ended up in hospital with psychotic depression, generalised anxiety disorder, panic disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder and social phobia. Am I the same now as I was before? No, it does change you, but do I feel much much better? Hell yes!

Give it time, talk to people, look at what friends you had before who deserted you, and consider the possibility that they weren't really such good friends if they could do that to you in your time of need. Any that stuck by you are your true friends. Build on what you have, and if you feel like you have nothing, then the only way is up!

Don't feel depressed by what you feel you had before and don't have now, it will take you a while, but one day you will be ok with what you have now. Hopefully one day soon, you will be able to go back to college and finish getting an education, but don't stress over it, as this will make you feel worse!

Answer 4

Yes, you will be better again; you will feel happy again; you will enjoy your family and friends; you will love again.

I don't know what happened, only you do. Maybe all that striving for "perfection" was too much for you (because, frankly, one person's perfection is another person's garbage, and so there really is no true perfection). Maybe the loss of your relationship was a terrible shock for you and sent you in a tailspin. Maybe something happened that made you feel like a failure or a loser and you're afraid that's your lot in life (it isn't). Maybe you've been going along doing what you thought you were expected to do and it wasn't really what you wanted to do. Maybe you have fantasy expectations, like everything should always go well for you and always go your way, and when things didn't go your way you didn't have the internal wherewithal to cope with it. Maybe you have a true chemical imbalance. So, now what? Well, your friends are still your friends -- they just didn't understand (nor should they have been expected to understand) what was happening to you, so they distanced themselves. So, I'd suggest you try to reconnect with one or two, tell them how sorry you are for your behavior, that you were having a terrible time in life, and that you'd like to start over. Even if they say no, this is still an important part of the healing process for you, i.e., trying to make amends. I'd also suggest you do some volunteer work, like at a YMCA. Strangely, one of the best roads to healing is to help others, because it takes the focus off of you and makes you focus elsewhere. Sometimes a little time-off from our own problems actually helps us to resolve them. Also, with time, you will realize nearly everyone else, except little children maybe, are coping with all the problems and stresses you are dealing with; no one escapes these problems. For some things there is no resolution, you just sort of have to shelve it and move on. Finally, go to a gym, get active, force yourself to do this. In addition to the benefits to your mind and body, you'll meet people you're likely to like and have fun with. Good luck.

Answer 5

You will definatley eventually be back to how you were before and my guess is a little better. For something to cause you to have a break down there was obviously something wrong whether you were aware of it or not. I am seeing a psychologist for clinical depression and he is helping me so much, I decided not to take meds which was hard but thats what i wanted to do. My doctor has so much encouragement for me every week and that helps a lot. The worst thing about depression is we all want it to just go away now and go back to normal and it feels like it is never going to happen but with time I truly believe I will be myself again as will you. I can notice little things now that I used to do or say and that keeps me going. Good luck to you and remember with time it will get a lot better

Answer 6

No, you won't be the same person ... but you could be better.

I've been through bad times as well. With the help of family and friends, I have recovered, grown, and changed my life. I think that I am now more sensetive to the pain of others, and willing to help more.

You must remember that this world is not perfect. You will have hardship in your life. The best way to get through it is with the help of others; the best way to get help then is to give help now.

Be a friend, contribute to the world around you. You will also feel better about yourself. If you work to make the world better, you will feel better about your place in it.

Balance work, study, social, and sleep time. And keep a little time just for yourself, to relax and do nothing if you like.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

Oh, depression is definitely real. If you feel like what's the point then you've got it. You made a good first step by trying medication. It takes a few weeks to kick in which feels like forever. Right now you need just one or two friends or even a stranger who will listen and accept you the way you are feeling. Try taking something apart and putting it back together to distract yourself. God bless you.

Answer 8

I do not believe you will be the same person,growing and changing is part of life. Friends come and go through your life,but the truest of true will just be a call away. You need to keep steady with your meds, and if those are not working for you there are others to try. Your medical doctor should set you up with a councler and phycotheropist that you are comfortable with.

Answer 9

You will probably never be "the same" as you were before. No one is the same after catastropic change. Loss of loved ones, loss of a home, after a rape, or whatever ... These things change us for life. Whether you let it change you for the good or for the bad is only up to you. You can grow and learn from this, or you can hide yourself away for the rest of your life, afraid of everyone, afraid of love. It will definitely take time. Stay on the meds, keep seeing your doctors. Listen to what they tell you. Sometimes it may seem stupid, or trivial, but it is for a reason. Pride yourself on even the smallest accomplishment. "I raised my head up today and smiled at a perfect stranger." "Go me." Keep a diary of your accomplishments and heartaches. Acknowledge your feelings, even the negative ones. Stress and anger can be good for you as long as you don't supress it. Good luck...

Answer 10

well maybe you have bipolar or something if for no reasone you became depressed. try talk therapy it should help. or maybe your life was just too perfect and your board of that now. kinnda like rose on titanic. she had everything a girl could want or need but was trapped and felt as if she seen her whole life already. so maybe you need to do something different. theres lots of reasones that your brain chemicals could have gotten out of wack. i think maybe your leaving out an important detail you dont want to talk about. why you might be depressed. I am everyday.