my children are very good and well behaved, but like all kids, can be bad sometimes. when i was a kid, my sisters and brothers and i got snapped w/ my faters belt and we are all making very nice lives for ourselves. i do not believe in the belt, but is hand-spanking ok?? plzz answer me!
2006-07-02 13:31:37 · 26 answers · asked by soccer! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i was spanked as a small child, and i am currently a straight A student, so all of those who say spanking traumatizes kids, it dosent because im fine, my sisters are fine, my brothers are fine!
2006-07-03 13:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by horseluvr215 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely believe in spanking. In fact, I believe that if more parents felt like I do, we wouldn't have so many spoiled brats who completely control their parents.
That said, I don't think that every child needs to be spanked. Some actually respond to other forms of discipline better. However, there are times when a spanking is warranted.
I, personally, would only use my hands for spanking, but my mother spanked me with an old belt that she cut the buckle off of. I do not feel that I was abused as a child because of this. On the contrary, among most of the people whom I know, I have the most "normal", loving upbringing. I am still very close to my parents and live a very healthy life.
2006-07-03 22:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by brazilnut76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some children can be controlled by a slap on the bottom and a stern voice; some become more hostile by this same action. I have two children, one of each. My oldest was spanked but it didn't work for him. Taking away something worked better. My second child needed only a raised voice and a stern "no". Remember that every child is different. Do what works. Hitting a child is never a good idea though. It shows that it's ok to hit and may make some children mean.
2006-07-03 09:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Use a belt or a wooden spoon. Just because you use a belt, doesn't mean you have to spnak hard, does it. You should never use your personal hand, because those are the same hands that your child needs to know will hold them when they're sick or give them a hug when they need it. I spanked my older two with a belt. Doesn't mean I reached way back a pop the fool out of them with it. Oh yes, I did sting them....wanted to....so they knew I was serious. Now, when I mention my belt, they straighten up real quick, but it's been a long time since I had to do that.....well....actually, I did promise one the belt if she did something again...and she did.....oh...she started crying and everything.....but I barely even touched her with it. Warned her to count her blessings, that next time, I might not be so easy.....but, as a parent, if I promised them the belt.....I gotta hold up to it.....otherwise, they think they';ll be able to get away with anything. And, I think it's been over 4 years since I had to spnal either of them. But, they're sister is going on the miserable threes. Her time is coming.......unless her sisters warn her.
2006-07-02 20:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with giving a child a pat on the butt at times. Sometimes they are so overly stressed out or overly stimulated and utterly engrossed in the bad behavior they need a snap back into reality so they can focus. Don't get out of hand with the spanking of course. I was spanked as a child and I turned out just fine.
2006-07-02 20:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spanking is okay if you keep it to when only reallyyyy needed. My parents spanked all the time and growing up and until not long ago( im 25 yrs. old) I was a "hitting"kindof person I now have a daughter and I dont want her to be like that so I limit my spankings. but she does get them but only in extreme cases.
2006-07-02 20:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by Brandot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try "1-2-3 Magic" (by Thomas Phelan) for ideas on disciplining kids.
The worst thing about spanking as a form of discipline is that it humiliates a child. I know lots of people disagree, but I wouldn't do it.
2006-07-02 22:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by ABBMAMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look at it this way if we tell our children not to hit then why is it o.k. for us to hit them when we are mad? After all we are like 3 times their size. What does that teach? My mother spanked me too. And yes I turned out fine. However my mother-in-law spanked hers to and one of her daughters are just sorry in every way and form including being a mother. Positive enforcement works better than negative. Don't you like to be rewarded for a good job or just get punished when its not good? My children have a reward points program and it works. When they are good they get a point eating meals, going to bed, listening, get points and at the end of the week they are rewarded for their behavior. Hitting doesn't solve anything besides I don't want my girls to grow up thinking it is o.k. to be hit if somebody is angry. But, I can tell you love your children remember your actions today are their memories for tomorrow.
2006-07-02 20:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by middle child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child does need some soft of dicipline they will remember. If it hurts them (such as spanking) they'll remember, taking extra cookie=pain. Bad and no no. Get the point? Do what you must to get it across to them to behave, if not they'll step all over you like the rest of kids these days....angsty and no respect whatsoever
2006-07-02 20:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by Toxic_advil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is ok, but have you watched Super Nanny on ABC? If not, you should check that show out because she's got a really great discipline method that doesn't require any "violence". Good luck!
2006-07-03 05:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋