my mom died nearly a year ago how do i keep from wanting to join her?

Answer 1

since u want to join her,do it

Answer 2

My apologies on the loss of your mother. My mother passed away in 2001, she was only 54, I was 24. Not a day goes by that I don't mourn her. I was the only one there with her when she died at our home, and for years beat myself up that I wasn't able to save her. You must believe that you have much to live for. I had similar thoughts after I lost my mom. But I had a 3 year old daughter to take care of. If you still have trouble, see a therapist, a pastor, or talk to a close friend. You might even try finding a grief support group in your area. Just try to think about all the things you still have left to do on this earth, and how your mother would not want to see you give up so easily.

Answer 3

JetGirly is absolutely right. Would your mom want you to mourn her forever? Or do you think it's more likely she'd want you to go on with life but remember what a wonderful thing she was? (Assuming of course she was a wonderful thing!)

A year is actually about the average amount of time most people seriously mourn the loss of a close loved-one before being able to move on, so maybe you asking this question now is a sign that you are ready.

Remember, no-one is really gone until no-one remembers them any more.

Keep her in your heart, but now you need to think more about you.

This isn't much help, I know, but remember this happens to almost everybody eventually, and you losing your Mom must be better than if your Mom lost you...

best wishes

Answer 4

You probably cannot keep from wanting to join her as you may still be grieiving and suffering from depression as a result. You need to address that possibilty ans either get counselling to talk about your feelings and realise you can keep going on with her in spirit . You need to find value in your own exisitence so that it's not a waste. From the moment we are born we are aging with that comes wisdom followed by death what happens in between is up to us and whether we love ourselves enough to make our existence worth while. Yes you have lost your mother but not her memory, allow yourself permission to lead a wonderful life in memory of her and do anything to take your mind of what you do not have in order for you to see how purposeful your life can be with what you do have, which is you. Natural way to cure depression is healthy eating and exercise as well as keeping a personal journal of your thoughts and sharing your thoughts with a counsellor or a good friend. Grieving the loss of your mother is not easy and only time will help. look after yourself and remember what your mum taught you in order for you to keep living healthy happy lifestlye x o

Answer 5

hold your head up high girl.

Your mother was very proud of you and would want you to live a long healthy life so that the valuable lessons she taught you will be passed on for many generations.

It is difficult when a person loses someone special and even though it does not get easier overnight time heals all wounds.

Seek a counselor to help you through your initial grief. If you choose a pastor, priest, or minister would be more than willing to listen and help you. And if you pray to God through Jesus Christ it helps to lesson the sorrow.

Answer 6

So sorry you are grieving for your mom. It is going to take a long time to feel like you are going to be OK after that, so please be patient with yourself and give yourself the time to go through the grieving process, as long as it takes. Do you think your mom would have wanted you to live and find happiness again someday, or to put an end to your life? How would she have encouraged you? If you want to honor her, even though you may feel so alone, don't give in to those feelings but hang in there.

Answer 7

Seek out a grievence councelor and/or support group. You need company and to know you're not alone, but you have to be strong and move on. Be thankful for the time you had with her and know your pain is shared by many.

My sister-in-law died about 8mos ago and I know her daughters are still hurting a lot. It doesn't help that their dad, my brother, is taking them away from everything they've ever known...their friends, the rest of their family...
But they also know that those of us still here love them and will support them no matter what.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry, I know how you feel . I lost my husband in 2003 and felt that way for a good long time, but then I got to thinking, God has a purpose for me ,so when my tasks are done here on earth, I will join him someday. And I know he wouldn't want me to do anything else. As I'm sure your Mom wouldn't either. God Bless and hang in there.

Answer 9

You can feel close to her here on earth by wearing some of her clothing or jewelry, visiting her favorite places and doing some things that she used to do. If you feel like crying go ahead and let it out. It may take longer than you thought it would to adjust to her absence. It doesn't seem possible now but you will be able to comfort someone else because you know how it feels.

Answer 10

I don't suggest trying to join her. Instead, knowing the truth about the state of death might be a good place to start. I recommend the following link: http://www.amazingfacts.org/media/radio/question_archive.asp?tName=Death
Please scroll down to the FAQ list for wonderful Bible answers.^^

Answer 11

You need to go see a mental health professional. If you seriously consider suicide, you need to call 1-800-SUICIDE. You don't have to feel like this, they can fix it and you can live a long, happy life. Just remember: your mom is in a better place, and you're going to see her again someday. But I'm sure she'd like you to live a long life before you see her again.