My bestfriend of about 3 years just recently told me that my boyfriend of 2 years tried making out with her. She swears that she pulled away, but my boyfriend tells me that she just went along with it and kept kissing him. I don't know who to believe and i don't know if i should keep my boyfriend or not
2006-07-02 12:48:56 · 40 answers · asked by Allison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if u believe your boyfriend and he is trust worthy then stay with him. Make him buy you a lot of stuff to make up for it and follow his every move for a little while until you believe he won't cheat again.
2006-07-02 12:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by tabatha1333 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK relationships are about TRUST. Be it a friend or a lover, if you can't trust them, then you have no need for them. I have always had a zero tolerance for cheating because I think that is the biggest insult you can do to a person is to cheat on them. It breaks the trust.
This is twice that they have screwed around on you, take the initiative and drop the relationship, it is of no use to you. Find someone else that you can trust and for about these people. If your boyfriend truly loved you, he would never cheat on you, especially with your best friend. If your "best friend" was really your friend, they she'd never touch this jerk wit a ten foot pole. You must use your head on this one and get out.
2006-07-02 12:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by Janitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he jumped her, I'd say she probably put herself in that position. These things just don't happen by accident. There are a few possible solutions,
1. Dump him - then she will likely start dating him behind your back and make you out to be a fool
2. Get rid of her - he won't be allowed to see her but that don't mean he won't try something else later on.
3. Get rid of both of them - have a little pride in yourself and move on to better people.
4. Forgive them both and wait till she gets pregnant before you wake up to your senses.
I would suggest number 3 myself. Next time make sure you don't put your boyfriend into situations where this could happen again.
2006-07-02 13:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Poncho Rio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he "tired" with your best friend, he obviously doesn't care about you and if you find out. Chances are that, that is not the first or last time he is going to do it, or has already done it. I don't want to tell you to leave him, but that is something I would do. Don't let him make a fool out of you. As for your friend I would keep an extremely close eye on her, and watch her around the next guy in your life.
2006-07-02 13:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by Julia C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best advice i can give you is dump his cheating ***.
either way it shows intent to cheat which means that given another chance he is likely to go all the way with some other girl.
if you dont get rid of him now or atleast say you need to call off the relationship for a while and maybe for good until you figure out if he can be trusted not to cheat on you.
Personaly speaking there are plenty of us guys out there who will treat you right and who will not cheat on you. so get rid and get q better guy.
now as for your friend its difficult who do you trust more out of the two? if she pulled away then fine she is as good a friend as you can have. as for your guy well clearly he has said that your friend responded to his kiss, my guess he did it to see if you would get jealous but even so tats no excuse for even attempting to kiss your friend.
he can promise all he likes but if he has done it once he is more prone to do it over and over again.
2006-07-02 12:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken9090 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if she would have told you if she had kissed him back. I mean who's that dumb? She told you because she's a friend and she cares about you. He's just telling you this because he's pissed that she rejected and snitched on him. Futhermore, he knows that he has nothing to lose by trying to make her out to be the bad guy too because he knows that you'll take him back. You need to call his bluff, in other words, dump the jerk already...keep the friend.
2006-07-02 12:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by sweetluv_598 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, a guy cheating - kick his a*s to the curb, he doesn't deserve you. But with your best friend? She needs to be slapped or cussed out or something. "BestFriends" would never ever do that to each other - I don't care how fine he is! She is NOT a friend.
Good Luck...
2006-07-02 12:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by mistressmalice23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get adult real fast, show him the door and say "Don't let it smack you on the a s s on your way out, sucka!" And you simply ignore that so-called "best friend" because you don't need friends like her. Or you can go on being a silly little girl and hang on thinking he'll change (he won't). It's entirely up to you.
2006-07-02 13:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your self is what he did going to make your realationship akward or will it still be the same and if your still not sure then ask yourself did he feel or act guilty after it all or did he just try to get you to take him back? besides if he loved you or wanted a real realationship he wouldn't have cheated on you and tried to make out with your friend of 3 YEARS!!!!! ( does this make sense?)
2006-07-02 12:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by flame806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay with him, you've accepted it and let him know it's ok. No one is worth the heart-ache. I hope you leave both of them out of your life. This will be best for you...any way you look at it. It will hurt more later if you stay...and though you might forgive, you'll never forget. Never.
2006-07-02 12:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋