ok so basically my dad acts so old fashion, he is way over-protective and that makes me sad everynight i cry! i cant stand it i wanna hang out with my friends! i have never done anything wrong, i am a good girl. sometimes i just feel like running away from these problems i just dont know please help =[
2006-07-02 12:31:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and dont tell me that he cares about me cuz i know that but i need freedom im not planning to sit at home the rest of my teenage years.
2006-07-02 12:40:33 · update #1
Ask your Dad...where did he meet your Mom. What were they doing when they met?
Then, ask your Mom...the same questions.
Are there any variations? Men SEE the same things differently, and THINK differently...as do women.
Try giving your Dad a list...of options, a choice of
"ALTERNATIVE ACTIVITIES" he would approve of...or dis-approve of. Either way,...you'll KNOW more about what your Dad
is concerned about.
What alternatives does your Mom "feel comfortable" with?
Compare notes...with each other, and keep "fine-tuning" your list
until there's a ROOM FULL OF ALTERNATIVES...that everyone in the house can FEEL COMFORTABLE living with.
2006-07-02 12:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by curious1inUS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's really not so bad being overly protected. When you're older you'll understand especially, when u have your own kids. I am the oldest of seven and the incident that made me appreciate being overly protected was when my mom refused to let me date someone that was 18; I was 16. Strange thing is, my sister who is 2 years younger than I, dated whomever she wanted. When I asked my mom why she treated us differently? She stated that my sister had more experience with the streets than I did. My sister was the rebel in the family. I saw what she put my mom through. If my sister couldn't be found my mom worried. Before I stepped out of the house I was sure to tell my mom where I was going. This is something my sister never did, nor did any of my other siblings. In many ways I earned more trust and freedom. Once your dad realizes that u do respect his wishes, he'll know for sure that u respect yourself with or without his presence.Try giving in, let your father be the parent and you'll see. I think you'll have more freedom than you'll know what to do with.
2006-07-02 20:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run away, problems will follow you.
Dads can sure be a pain sometimes, but they love their kids so much, that it would kill them inside if something were to happen to them. Try to understand, because sometimes parents don't realize how capable their kids are.
If your friends are hanging out later than you are, or have no curfew, perhaps their parents just aren't as caring for them as your dad is for you.
My daughter has the same problem with us, but her friends have absolutely no limits, and as a parent, I feel so sorry for them because I see the sadness that their parents don't care as much.
I hope I don't sound too much like a frumpy parent, but maybe if you have another point of view it can help you to understand where your dad is coming from.
2006-07-02 19:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are over protective because they care about you. Y ou need to sit down and talk this out with your dad and see if there is away theat the 2 of you can work out an agreement.
2006-07-02 19:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by deepbushhunter69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look running away wont solve anything, you just need to sit down with your dad and talk about it, if you ran away it would just make everything worse, i do know what you mean, but dont run away just talk with him and see if you two can work something out...and go from there... good luck!!=)
2006-07-02 19:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by Chelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm pretty sure you've been told he's only protecting you well we're right, and running away is only being a coward and being a disgrace to your parents. he wiped your *ss when you couldn't, he cleaned you, fed you in the middle of the night, dealt with you. the least you can do is suck it up. you say you're a good girl, then honor his ways, it is only a few years maybe months where he will begin to trust you. "suck it up, stick it in, grind it out."
2006-07-02 19:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a chat with him. I can see why he is overprotective. He is just worried about you getting into trouble. I mean I thought my daughter was the smartest kid in the world and I trusted her but yet she ended up getting pregnant in her senior year of highschool.
2006-07-02 19:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He worries about you & that is a good thing, but i know you need your time too, so you should talk to him serious about this & your mom. So your mom & dad together can solve this conflict.
2006-07-02 19:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say dad i'm a big girl now and i want a little room to breath i'm not a baby anymore.
2006-07-02 20:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by dark9girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop and think how many teenagers don't have a father, and how many have father's that don't give a damn about there kids.
2006-07-02 19:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by kayef57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋