Possibly because I let him? He told me he couldn't imagine life w/o me, etc.....now I realize it was all bs. My heart is broken, not completely, but it hurts. I hate him! I wish there was some way I could make him sorry. Has anyone been there & how did you deal? And guys, why do other guys treat girls like crap? Good girls at that?
2006-07-02 12:19:40 · 10 answers · asked by mistressmalice23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say it but anytime you are always there for a guy, on his terms and on his conditions, you are allowing yourself to be used and he WILL take you for granted.
People like to be with partners who are self-confident and independent. If you're willing to stop your life to be his everything, that demonstrates that you don't value yourself or the other things in it. In other words, if you're too easy, he doesn't see you as valuable.
It really is important for you to always have a life beyond the boyfriend (or husband). It should include other friends, hobbies and interests. He should have to MAKE THE EFFORT to fit into your schedule.
People like things that other people want and that are scarce. Hence why items in limited edition sell for more than things widely available. Your time and attention is no different. If it's scarce, he's going to bust his behind to get your attention.
A good relationship is one of equals; if you're totally submissive to him you are not his equal and will not get the respect an equal gets.
So next time ADD the boyfriend to your life, don't make him the center of it. Don't be surprised if this one caters more to you.
And yes, breakups hurt like hell. After all these years I still haven't figured out how to spare myself the pain. It's just that the risk of finding love is worth risking that pain when it doesn't work out.
Keep yourself busy and active and you'll think less about him. That's one more reason to KEEP your own life even when you're attached, because its your friends that are there to pick you up and keep your mind otherwise occupied.
Take care. You'll be better in a few weeks.
2006-07-02 12:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through this several years ago. I hated him. In the end, I got the last laugh. I wished for years and years that something would happen to make me feel better. It turned out great in the end because the last time I saw him was about 6 months ago. Now, I have a great husband, a beautiful daughter, a nice house, and a nice car. He had nothing. He is at the age to settle down, but I guess he has burnt too many bridges. One of my old friends and I were at the store and we bumped into him. He apologized and asked me if there was a chance for us. It felt so good to tell him "No". I had wanted to get revenge for years, but it was definantly worth the wait, because I know that hurt his ego, and with a lot of men, that hurts worse than anything. Be patient and eventually, he will be sorry for the way he treated you!! By then, it will be too late, because you will have moved on!
2006-07-02 12:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by mykennabear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you treated him good he's just a jerk or stupid. or both. some guy's have to keep up an macho imagine. but did you guy's have things in common . or did you and him acted like u did . i don't know yours or he's age group so there could be more like if you are in school or not. but the best way to make him sorry is to move on with your life . try live better than him. and just have fun p.s try to avoid a new relationship for awhile
2006-07-02 12:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by frog 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 15:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because a guy would never feel they do no matter how you treated him they will find some way to dump you and do you wrong. i think men are made to break hearts some don't peace themselves back together. it's ok to move on with your life but never forget this feeling to not let it happen again. i hate my ex too. toys are toys and good girls deserve to be treated like they treat them. they treat good girls like that because that's how they think everyone should be treated
2006-07-02 16:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by flirt_love_baseball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because (maybe) most guts are chimpanzees with a cell phone! There are 3 1/2 of us left who would find love, stop and worship our girl and ONLY her! My question is why are the good ones like ME passed over by sweet hearts like you and it seems "Bobby Bad Boy" is out there breaking your heart!
Wanna chat sometime??? Yes, this is a pitiful attempt to flirt!
Sid
2006-07-02 12:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He played you. That sucks, but men are like cheap deals. If it seems too good to be true, chances are it is. Don't be so quick to treat him like a king until you're sure he deserves the royal treatment.
2006-07-02 12:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by sweetluv_598 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't been hurt yet, so it doesn't know how bad it feels. What goes around comes around, he will get his don't worry about it, just move on, this guy is not mature enough for someone like you yet.
2006-07-02 12:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, welcome to the wonderful world of love and dating...best cure for it is to look for someone else with more class and better character...also, relationships aren't forever, and people can be really dishonest...women, too...
2006-07-02 12:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause men are bastards and totally over rated
2006-07-02 12:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋