We're a church going Christian couple but my wife likes to get a little kinky sometimes. You know...she likes to dress up in costumes and so forth, handcuffs and that sort of thing. She also likes the backdoor thing if you know what I mean.
Is any of this sinful? I don't see anything in the Bible about it. I haven't talked to my pastor about it. Maybe I should.
2006-07-02 12:15:58 · 49 answers · asked by idspudnik 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You're a married couple so why would you think any of this is a sin? Marriage is supposed to bring pleasure and intimacy to the couple. Hopefully this is what this is doing for you and your wife.
When you harm others by words or deeds, then you might be talking about sin.
As so well said by Andre Gide: "Sin is whatever obscures the soul".
If this behavior makes you feel unclean and sad, don't do it. Otherwise, enjoy your married life and thank God we can have all this pleasure from our bodies that He created.
2006-07-02 12:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Technically, the "backdoor" thing is, since it can not lead to creation of a new life. Most churches see sexual activity as the means to which the miracle fo new life can be achieved. Anything that does not fulfill this is a sin, such as masturbation or homosexual acts. The key then would be how you should go about repenting, and if this sin is such that your church would really have major issue with it. I would talk to your pastor about it, though my wife doesn't like the "backdoor" thing. That's exit only as far as she is concerned and I can readily agree.
2006-07-02 12:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by But why is the rum always gone? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both comfortable with kinky behavior, and the main goal of your intimate times together is to promote intimacy, then do what you like. Although, I would say the "back door" thing is really unsafe and unsanitary. It's a door that swings one way, and trying to push the hinges the other way could permanently damage her and she might regret having to wear a bag or adult diapers later in life. If something harms the body, you should refrain from it. The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and we are to honor it by being good stewards of it. The Bible says plenty about honoring the things that God has given to us as gifts. I would say that your wife's body is a pretty valuable gift. Cherish it even if she doesn't.
2006-07-02 12:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Christian, but I believe sodomy is considered a sin in Christianity. As far as the other stuff, I've never heard of anything in particular about it. If you don't know, you probably should ask your pastor rather than Yahoo Answers to reconcile your actions with your beliefs.
Best wishes.
2006-07-02 12:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by K M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I may give you an answer that is merely personal gesticulation- as well as this answer coming from someone who does not believe in God but does know the general teachings of the Bible, I would declare that no, your sexual relations are not a sin. I would think that the primary goal of the Bible is to teach morals, GENERALLY speaking. And thus, AS LONG AS no one is getting hurt, the way of which you culminate your love is not important.
2006-07-02 12:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by chrisser665 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't know what a backdoor thing is. This must be a trick question. As long as her fun and games are with you only I don't see any sin in it.
2006-07-02 12:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Pepsi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible doesn't specifically address those particular things.
The Bible does say this though:
Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)
"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."
I'd say pray and ask God first. I wouldn't say anything to your pastor or anyone else unless you feel convicted about it, but if you do, talk to your wife before the pastor or anyone else.
2006-07-02 12:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe sexual relations with your wife is a sin. Enjoy and keep up the church going. The Bible does says you shall not have sex while in her Menstrual cicle. Everything else is game.
2006-07-02 12:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful as your pastor might want to join you. It is your own private life and you and your wife should enjoy every minute of it cause when you get old you will look back and say why did I even question it.
2006-07-02 12:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by ₦âħí»€G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The back door thing is... as it is a misuse of the body.. God fried a couple cities for that ... as for the other...keep the shades pulled... and do not hurt each other.... it dont matter how you go through the door as long as you use the right one. The missionary position aint the only one.
2006-07-02 12:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by IdahoMike 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋