My ex and I have been going through rough times. We have been on and off for about 6 months now. She cheated on me and we tried to work things out but we just argued a lot and fought. She wanted a break then she began hooking up with other guys then she came back to me and we tried it again and I was hurt by all this so it did not work out. I know I should have walked away then. We recently had a huge blow out where I said some things that nobody should say to anyone ever. I know this is wrong and feel horrible I let my anger get the best of me. I called and tried to apologize but she said she would never accept it and hated me. Yesterday I called and left her a message apologizing. I feel like she should be the one apologizing for all the crap she put me through but anyways. Today she calls me and tells me she got the message and then talks for like an hour just like we used to. I do not get this it hurts when she calls what should I do. I just want to get over it.
2006-07-02 12:05:20 · 13 answers · asked by yeeeehaw4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were together 2 years and I literally thought I would marry this girl.
2006-07-02 12:05:43 · update #1
yeah believe it or not im 23 and shes turning 25 so I dont know
2006-07-02 12:29:45 · update #2
First you have to decide in your mind that it's totally over. No going back. If you are still interested in her or kinda want to get back together in your mind, this won't work.
Second, you didn't refer to anything that would cause you guys to have to keep talking (i.e- kids or other ties). If you have no ties with her, stop talking to her on the phone so much and don't see her for a while. If she calls, be friendly but short. Don't listen to what she's doing with her life and don't tell her about yours for a while. It's really hard to remain friends when you are trying to get over someone.
If she starts complaining and saying you don't talk to her like you used to, tell her it's because you are trying really hard to move past all of this to better your relationship with her in the long run.
You guys need a definite break in communication if you really want move past what you've been through. It can't go on like this if you really want to get over her.
Good luck.
2006-07-02 12:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop talking to her, man. I've have been exactly where u are and you just have to walk away. Stop taking her calls, when she calls u from another number and gets u by surprise, say nothing and hang up. One of my ex gf's even walked up to me in a store and w/o a word I put my hand up and walked out. Some of my ex's I am good friends with, others, I haven't talked to in years and won't again. That's life. This girl is poison. The best remedy is to get her hooks out of you, take some time to yourself, then find someone else. The way she is treating you is not normal, it's way crappy and anyone can do much better. I'm sure she has some great things about her but she is DYSFUNCTIONAL and it will take her years and years to change if ever. You WILL look back after you've met other women and wish you would have distanced yourself from this one sooner.
2006-07-02 12:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's no good for you. Sounds young too . Most young girls don't really know what they want and hurt guys without really thinking about what they are doing. If she's not young then she's a be-hotch! cause she knows better. I'm going to think she's young on account that you seem young. You sound like most young men before that one young girl messed them up and turned them into dix forever ( or until they get lonely ) Look . This is how it is . It's going to hurt . There are girls out there that are good . Look on the inside of the person to know if they are right for you. As for this one , obsession is the only thing you have. Let it go . 2 years oh well. You'll get over it .
2006-07-02 12:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable that you blew up imagine everything that she has put you through i bet it wasnt easy going through all of that and in my opiinion she probrably deserved half of the things that you told her.... if someone loves someone they will do everything in their power not to cheat and to make the other perosn happy...
I think that if she did it once she would keep on doing it again and again and if she sees that you are always going to be there with open arms to accept her back then she really doesnt care and will go and cheat on you b/c she knows that you will always be there
You should take yourself into consideration and make her appreciate what she has... and talk to her and let her know that you are not always going to be there for her that yo u just might get tired and not want anything to do with her
2006-07-02 12:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by nikkig813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be rude or mean but you need to let her go. Cut her loose because she's holding you down and doing whatever she wants to because she knows you wont go nowhere. You are calling her apologizing because you feel guilty. You shouldn't feel guilty bout nothing you need to make her feel guilty. If you played spades before you should know if you and your partner don't play your hands right you lose the game. You have to know the game. She's playing with you like she's playing spades. If you step up and take charge what can she do. It's like your the BIG JOKER and she's the Deuce of Spades.
2006-07-02 12:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm telling you now, this relationship is not going to work. I was in one JUST like it. He continued to call and I finally just had to ignore everything, stop answering, stop giving him the responses that he wanted from me. And now, I'm doing alright. You both just seem to not be right for each other. Don't try to force something that isn't right, be fair to the both of you.
2006-07-02 12:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by JS820 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She calls because she's lonely and you're familiar. Tell her to stop calling you. Not because you guys can't or won't be friends, but because you need some space. Either she'll get the message or you'll have to stop answering the phone.
2006-07-02 12:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by tinydancer42001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety my past experience has been that ex's should stay ex's. i have tried to make it work with much the same as you stated above and truly it doesnt work out. even my exhusband is trying to get back in with me and it will never work... if you think you can make it work then go for it but if your gut is saying no then try to end it as friends... good luck...
2006-07-02 12:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by wildflower776usa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her u think it's best that u two never see or talk to each other and tell her why. Tell her what u just wrote.
2006-07-02 12:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by BabyGirl142 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are in a no win relationship, Drop it and move on.
2006-07-02 12:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋