I had a date last night first time with a new lady and she was literally all over me from first picking her up - believe me I love sex and I love assertive sexual woman - but it felt way too fast - I mean - hey a bit of intelligent conversation should go before foreplay yes or at least a bit of foreplay humor?? !! after managing to slow her down a little it turned out one of her friends had seen me dance and thought that i was "very big" in the sense of "big down south" and she was trying to find out!!! Now i am far from a prude and could see the humor in this and of course it shines my ego slightly but "strangely I also felt just a touch offended - of course I like (love) sexy women but would not treat them like meat - great sex needs intelligent fun foreplay
I dropped her off home and yes I resisted the invitations -
do you think I should have felt complimented or offended? do you agree with me that intelligent foreplay is a key thing or is itjust shake your booty?
2006-07-02 11:59:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should have felt complimented in the sense that you are a very attractive man and she felt so compelled to assert herself to you but on the other hand, I think you should also be offended. Offended in the sense that she could not look beyond your exterior to appreciate the fact that you are an incredibly intelligent man and she should have shown you more respect than to "be all over you" before finding this out about you. Not all that glimmers is gold and if it's not real gold, it will tarnish fast. But what lies beneath is a crucial foundation to a relationship. We are always initially attracted to someone's appearance but what essentially is going to keep us coming back for more is the depth of our intelligence and personality. I have never seen a picture of you, only ur avatar which I must say is rather attractive but I have read your answers to questions. You are a very keen, intelligent man who deserves to be respected for more than just a piece of meat. Kudos for you for doing the right thing and not taking her up on her offer, you are a true gentleman!
2006-07-02 13:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by ooolala 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. That was like a guy only going out with a lady because his friends told him that she would do things sexually that noone else will. I wouldn't appreciate a guy treating me that way. Good for you. It is nice to see that some men still have morals. If I wasn't already married, I'd ask for your email address. Happily married after 4 years. I hope that you can find that special lady and be happy too!!!
2006-07-02 19:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right!...intelligent foreplay is necessary. You should feel flattered for sure...but it seems that all she wants is sex and you just have to decide if thats all she wants. Don't be offended, if anything she should feel bad, but give her another chance, maybe she was just a little too excited!
2006-07-02 19:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, you just got treated the way women have been maligned for what seems like an eternity.BigFella you are so right about feeling like a 'meat'man and offended.no one wants to take the time to get to know the total attractiveness of one another. there are real women around,that when the time is right, would evolve into her man's every dream.
2006-07-05 23:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by 360degrees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have it exactly right. Sex can be pretty good if it's left to the physical side alone, but it is so easy to top that kind of sex if you have even the slightest mental connection.
Big equipment is fine, but it would never do it for me unless attached to someone I responded to on a mental level.
2006-07-02 19:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by soma_0806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be offended because she was treating tou like a peice of meat. Also, it could have ruin your reputation because if you weren't into it she could have told her friends and told thier friends and ever would have known in no time.
2006-07-02 19:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jo-Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything intelligent is more important than casual sex if she did this to you how many other guys were treated the same way she is a slut to the max
2006-07-02 19:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by wildirishrose19522000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. You were just there for what she wanted. It wasn't about you. Try dating someone who wants to find out about who you are.
2006-07-02 19:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should have been embarrased to act in such a manner
2006-07-02 19:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by anissia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋