i don't want to go out anymore. hes a sweet guy i just don't feel anything between us anymore but i think HE does feel something. i dont want to hurt him yet i don't want to still go out with him so HOW do i manage this?
2006-07-02 11:31:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he does feel something, then breaking up is going to hurt no matter what you do. That's not your fault, but you can minimize the pain just by telling him the truth as soon as you can. The sooner you break up, the sooner he can start getting over you and finding someone else -- and the sooner you can find someone better suited to you, too.
Hearing the truth will hurt his feelings, but in the long run, it will hurt less than any other approach. And if he knows the truth, it might help him out in later relationships. Also, if you like the guy (in a normal sense) then you can still be his friend, if you're clear that you don't want anything more.
Sorry that there's no easy answer, but in time things will be better for him. It's nice of you to want to protect his feelings.
2006-07-02 11:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you don't want to go out anymore thats really all you can do ( it's too bad it has to be that way..but love hurts) You should tell him you can still be friends and hang out but not as grilfriend and boyfriend. Thats the way you do it without making it seem so horrible and he wont feel as bad about the hole thing. It's probably best for the both of you. Please take my advice.
2006-07-02 18:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by deadly_nightshade5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him Say Im sorry but i just dont feel any chemistry between us and i think we should breakup and see other people for a while and say I dont want to hurt your feelings and well do you understand? and ask him if he feel's the same way.
2006-07-02 18:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by princetongirl449 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hon, but you're not going to get out of it without hurting him. Its just a fact of life. Just tell him you need to move on and can't be with him anymore, DONT try to be "nice" and not tell him the truth, or go back with him if he begs or something.
2006-07-02 18:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by oioithatscrazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may be hard, but you have to let him go. If you dont, you'll wind up hurting him even more by pretending to like him longer. It will be hard, but tell him that you think you'd have more of a conection on a friends basis than as a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Good luck.
2006-07-02 18:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by french_toast_sticks01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together. You just have to do it the sooner the better. Before he really falls for you. The longer you wait the more it will hurt him. Just tell him the truth and just be nice about it as good as you can.
2006-07-02 18:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by Neilman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain how you feel and be honest with him. You can't stay in a relationship you aren't happy in. But make sure it is definitely want you want though, because if you break up with him and regret it afterwards it could end up being a huge mistake.
2006-07-02 18:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice about it. Don't don't don't tell him you want to stay friends, but make obvious attempts in that respect. Try to just be there for him after you break it off, and try to be gentle. Don't do it in front of anyone else, and also try to give him some warning it's coming through your mannerisms.
2006-07-02 18:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by Glenn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just tell him that you need a little somethin more than what he has to offer you can never go through a breakup without hurtin the other persons feelings but if they don't feel anything than it would be alot easier
2006-07-02 18:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by deleted. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes gonna be hurt anyway i've been through the same thing me and my ex dated for a year and 2 months and we took a break for 3 months and i told him i wasent gonna wait forever for us to get back together he was hurt but your b/f will get over it it will take a while but do it slowly
2006-07-02 18:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋