ok so im 15 my whole life i have been believing in God i never done drugs, smoked, or drank alcohol, im still a virgin, i hae a 3.8 GPA and my dad some how thinks that i should stay home during my teenage years and not hangout at the mall with my friends and he doesnt let me sleepover! what the hec ok i deserve at least something all i do is sit at home and cry cuz he doesnt let me go out to the mall or movies with my friends. he has been watching tooo much movies, hes like: "why u want to go the night club or soemthin?'' im like did u raise me to go to the damn nightclub? like honestly i dont know what to do! =[ hes like: "what are u gonna do at the mall?"
2006-07-02 11:28:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should ask him how he expects you to develop your social skills. If he keeps you in all the time, you won't be able to. And that doesn't help you at all. I doubt he's deliberately trying to be cruel, he's probably just way too overprotective. Try explaining your concerns to him and how he'd be doing you more harm than good by not giving you at least a little freedom.
2006-07-02 11:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, count your blessings that ol dad wants to know what you are up too.
Second, at fifteen maybe a little more independence is okay. It provides opportunities to learn from your mistakes.
Try talking to your dad about time limits, which are different from curfews." I want to go to the mall and shop With my friends. we will be there about 3 hours" Start with the afternoons. There is something about night time activities that make parents nervous.
Then if you are allowed to go to the mall for those hours, be finished and waiting to be picked up when you say you will be ready. This way you establish that you can be trusted to do what you say.
You sound like a good kid, and your dad sounds like a good dad, you to should be able to work this out.
Best of luck.
2006-07-02 18:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luckily my parents trusted me until I gave them reason not to (which never happened). I wish more people's parents would be like that. I really feel for you.
What I would do (and I don't know that it's best for you, as I don't know you or your dad personally) would be to take a diplomatic approach and propose something to show him that you're trustworthy, similar to building credit. You get a little bit right away and you keep adding on if you handle it well. What does he think you're going to do when you're out on your own and you don't know the workings of the world?
If you need someone to talk to about it, I'm always around, and I'm sure there are plenty of other nice people on here that will, as well.
I wish you the best.
2006-07-02 18:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by scuazmooq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents still believe that their activities should be their childrens activities. If it is not something they did as a teen, they personally do not see the benefit of it.
Now, speaking as a parent, I do not see the reason to let my 15 year old hang out in a public place where there is not supervision, rules or morals by my standards. Find a new place to hang out, make a compromise, and your social life will improve.
2006-07-02 18:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you sound like you deserve a break. Im not sure why your Dad wouldnt want you to hangout. Maybe he feels insecure about letting you go. I think you should talk to him and ask him why you cant. I talk only leads to fights try emailing him a list of reasons and prove to him that you are responsible enough and deserve a break. Ask him to email back his views on why and maybe make a compromise so both of you get what you want. Hope he comes around! Feel better :)
2006-07-02 19:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fathers can be very protective of their daughters, I know I'm the father of 3 teenage young women myself. Traditionally, dads allow their young ladies to go out on their own at 16 years of age, when they feel that they can act and make responsible decisions. Just hang in there and don't let dad hold you back, and good job in school, by the way!
2006-07-02 18:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your dad to start off slow, like maybe a hour at the mall, sometimes it shows to show receipts to show that you were really at the mall. ask for a prepaid cell phone so that your dad can keep tabs on you until he starts to trust you more.
2006-07-02 19:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by sexyquonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sees what happens to too many girls, he cares about you.
It seems bad, but I couldn't go anywhere until I was 18, had a car and money.
2006-07-02 18:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by kayef57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad was the same way. He is afraid that hanging out w\friends could ruin you. He is just over protective.I am sorry. He just cares. (armygirl2675@yahoo)
2006-07-02 18:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Armygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to realize that he can trust you. . .do you have any relatives or friends whose parents can talk to him?
2006-07-02 18:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by Suzeebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋