How do you talk to your childs Dr. about problems your child might have?

Question

I would like to talk to my daughters dr, to have him consider some problems that my daughter looks like she could ( or could not ) have but I dont want to sound like those parents who want their kid to be sick. 2 in particular are sleep apnea and Autism ( spectrum ). She shows a few of the early signs of autism, and I know about sleep apnea and what it does because my dad has it, and I swear my girl has it. How would i bring this up....the Dr is also really old and really old school.

Answer 1

Just talk to him. If he is a Doctor worthy of his diploma, he will listen and take you seriously. If he doesn't, find another doctor. Mother's intuition is a powerful thing and if you don't have a doctor who takes that into consideration or who you don't feel comfortable talking to...find another. Your child is the most important thing and you need to listen to your gut. So get over your fears of talking to the doctor and just do it. Hopefully, you are wrong, but if you aren't ..you will thank yourself later.

Answer 2

The first thing to remember is this is your child. Nobody knows your child better then you. If you think there is a problem then as the dr. Don't worry about what the doc might think of you. All that matters is your being a good parent by putting your child first. Never let yourself be worried about asking the doc something. And don't let the doc bully you if you think there may be a problem don't back down. Have the doc run the test that will let you know for sure if there is a problem. And if it turnes out there is no problem then at least you know and will be able to sleep better. But word of caution don't go overbourd on the testing you don't want to put your child through a bunch of painfull tests so always ask yourself "am I sure there is a problem" if you answer yes then by all means talk to the doc and have the test done.

Answer 3

If you are worried about your daughter's health, just out and ask the pediatrician. Alot of docs will poo-poo mothers who ask alot of questions, and if your doc does this, find another doctor. Doctors should never downplay any concerns a parent may have - it is their job to take care of your children, and since you are the primary care giver, you will be the one person who can tell him what is going on with your child.

Both of these illnesses are things that can be treated much more effectively when they are caught early. So, be courageous, ask for help from the doc, and if he is unwilling to listen, find a doc who will. You can go to the American Academy of Pediatrics and do a search for a pediatrician, or you can ask for referrals from other parents in your area.

Good Luck to both you and your daughter.

Answer 4

I felt the same way when my 5 year old wasn't even talking at 3. I politely asked my doctor if there were any tests or something we could do to help him out. I know your hesitant to ask the dr. b/c they think they know your child better then you do. Depending on your daughters age the dr. will run tests on her to see for the autismb/c there are many different types. Good luck with the dr.

Answer 5

Well as a parent you have the right to have concerns. Especially in areas that you know about.
I once had my doctor tell me to quit apologizing for bringing my daughter in. That was his job and he was there to do it.
Sit your doctor down and explain to him what you think the issues are and why you think them. Then have him determine if she needs further testing etc.
A parent bringing concerns to doctors do not appear to have Munchhausen by proxy or be hypochondriacs. It is only those parents that are constantly doing it. Or making their children sick. Or not taking their doctors word etc.
A parent with a legitimate concern should never hesitate!!!

Good luck!

Answer 6

Explain things to your doctor, because you are worried. Don't say she has this or I think she has this.Tell him the signs she is showing and the concerns you have. Make a list of questions and her symptoms that concern you and ask to discuss them. If you don't feel comfortable enought to talk to him or if he blows you off, find a new doctor. Your peditrician is the one person you should feel comfortable talking to about your childs health. I ask my peditrician EVERYTHING, and I know he is the right doctor for me and my child because I can ask him anything. A good peditrician should be more than willing to discuss your concerns and explain things to you.

Answer 7

I would just talk to him/her about the symptoms the child is having, I'm sure there isn't anything the Dr hasn't heard before, and if you don't like the opinion he/she gives you don't hesitate to get another Dr's opinion. It's in best interest for you and the child to get it looked into. Good luck!

Answer 8

By all means talk to your doctor about your concerns. Observe your daughter for 3 or more days and keep a list of your observances. Then take it to the physician and tell him you have concerns. Be honest, don't exaggerate and don't generalize. Be specific in your answers and in your questions.
Good luck and Blessings to you and your family.

Answer 9

I think that if you are afraid to talk to the Doctor then you need to find a new doctor. you shouldn't worry about trying to sound like a parent that wants your child to be sick. Just tell your doctor the symptoms and tell him you are worried about it. most doctors understand that parents look into everything.

Answer 10

Write down the symptoms your child is having, and share them with the doctor. Don't tell him "my child has autism", but rather tell him the symptoms.

If you consider him "old school" and don't think he would be responsive, get another doctor.