2006-07-02 11:20:07 · 7 answers · asked by Bruce B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Most kids think that the things they want are "rights". However, we have made it very clear in our home that privileges are earned. If you pay the rent/mortage, pay the utilities, pay the food bill, pay for medical expenses, etc. etc. etc. then these are the true "rights" that they should expect. Everything else is a privilege which can be granted (for good behavior) or taken away (for bad behavior). You may choose to be nice and grant these privileges but you are in no way obligated to provide them. On the contrary, we as adults, must earn our privileges (vacations, cell phones, computers) right? What's to say that a child can't earn access to these things as well?
2006-07-02 12:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My son, who is 10, thinks that computers are a right...but they are a privilege. During the shool year he "earns" computer and electronic games time by doing his homework and making good grades. In the summer I relax the rules and allow him more time but intersperse it with readig and outdoor activities.
As for the cell phone - technically he has one - I travel a lot for work and it is easier for sitters if he has a phone so there are no long distance fees and I can call him whenever I want with no busy signals - BUT - he doesn't know the number of "his" cell phone so he can not give it out. It is simply a tool for me to contact him with. But he like to brag that he has own phone :)
2006-07-02 20:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by leyahn9999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all know using my computer is a privelege. They also have the right to own a cell phone after the age of 14 if they pay for it and I have the number. I actually bought my oldest daughter a cell phone but I wouldn't make that mistake again. Now she spends every penny she can get on phone cards.
2006-07-02 18:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three kids in my house aged 17, 15, and 8 and they know bothof these a re a privalge not a right. if they dont do as they are told or mess up ina some other way they know they will loose these privalages. its all down to parenting
2006-07-02 18:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by cursedterror 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents make it a privilege. -_-
but i can go on the computer as much as i want as long as i'm finish doing homework.
2006-07-02 18:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by taytay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not only a right in my home... it seems to be necessary for survival. I like to show them how to live in the wild !
2006-07-02 18:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by BeezKneez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't deserve them
2006-07-02 18:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by darkmagician_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋