Would you continue a relationship with a wonderful person if they told you they had genital herpes?

Question

Lets say this person has been great in every other aspect of their character and behavior. You really enjoy this person's company and were considering seeing them exclusively.

Answer 1

If I loved them and saw a future with them, then yes I would seriously consider staying with them despite their std.

Answer 2

Hello,

May I ask if you already have taken a herpes blood test? If you really like that person, that would be a good idea. Most people with herpes don't know it (90% of them) and many who know don't want to disclose it, so when you find somebody honest enough to share the truth with you that says a lot about personal values.
If you think this is something too scary for you, then you should first know for fact if you have it or not.
I have genital herpes and realized it while in a relationship. He didn't leave me and we're very happy. I've learned to suppress herpes and he's never had any symptoms. Now it's your choice and your choice only. Nobody here can make that decision for you.
Personally I think herpes is not a big deal if it is controlled and if you can remain symptoms free. I have been able to achieve that so herpes has very little impact on my life.

Cheers,

Nathalie
http://www.herpes-wise.com

Answer 3

Whoever said pastoral needs to know the word he wants is platonic. If the wonderful person told you upfront (before any intimacy) she had genital herpes, that's very honest and couldn't have been easy for her. There are medications to control outbreaks; Thank her for telling you, ask if she's on medication to control outbreaks, and then continue to enjoy your relationship with this wonderful person. I know a girl who was a virgin and her first partner whom she loved dearly gave her herpes; she was hysterical when she found out (he didn't tell her) and she didn't think anyone would want her. She is now happily married (not to him) for over 8 years and has a child with her husband (who has not contracted herpes). Statistics cite that one in every six people has some form of herpes; if someone has cold sores (inside or outside of the mouth), that is a type of herpes as well.

Answer 4

If the feelings were very strong and we had a great relationship,then yes, I would continue a relationship. There are ways to protect yourself from getting it so I wouldn't see a problem with carrying on a good relationship. You shouldn't let physical things get in the way of your feelings for someone. I'm sure the person didn't ask to get herpes!

Answer 5

I used to ascertain a lady that had herpes. She advised me earlier we ever were given jointly. She used to take meds to regulate it, she under no circumstances had a plague each and every of the time we were jointly, and if she even concept she will be getting a plague she does no longer be intimate with me. She were until eventually now married for 7 years and her husband under no circumstances had any complications. We used condoms in the initiating yet ended up driving bareback in a lengthy time period, I had no complications then and characteristic no complications now years later. She has on condition that remarried or perhaps as i visit't say for certain i'd wager her and her husband vacation bareback and don't be stressful about it. As a guy you gotta comprehend, once you've herpes its a curse of sexual lack of life, all that a lot extra complicated to stumble on a needed different, for a lady only a minor inconvenience, there'll consistently someone wanting to be such as her.

Answer 6

not without doing a whole bunch of research into the subject. i know the everyday stuff about it but not enough to make a decision like that so i would first educate myself about my risk, i mean everyone seems great in the beginning but what if you end up infected and it doesn't work out with him?? that would truly s u c k!!! very few people ever got involved in a relationship and said oh he's an awful person i'm just doing it anyway. so after educating myself i would base my decision on what i learned. and whatever i decided i wouldn't feel bad about, he got himself into this.

Answer 7

if you really like the person. they cared for you enough to tell you. now you should educate yourself on the condition because there are ways to avoid the spread of the herpes. also look at cookie and magic Johnson he has aids and she stayed with him or the sickness that can spread aids the name escapes me right now he does not have full blown but he is a carrier (HIV)

Answer 8

Truly I think it depends on the age of u and that somebody because teens are different from adults. When u is a teen u think things can last forever but nothing last forever and I would be close friends but not sexual friend cause u don't know if u will be with that somebody forever and if y'all friends than stay friends but not for that one reason.

Answer 9

If they were honest to you about that then I wouldn't say its really something that bad. They could have kept it from you and even given it to you. Do protect yourself. Read up or ask a doctor what the best form of protection is. I believe its one in four that has it, so its not that uncommon.

Answer 10

Yes, but only if I really liked that person. You shouldn't let physical problems get in the way of your feelings.