both were divorced due to our spouses having an affair.....just shy of our 2 year relationship this man was in a game room where he was chatting with a woman...this woman then started to instant message with him......he did not tell me about her when it happend he told me when I told him that a guy friend called me someone if also knew...I knew nothing of this woman he met in the game room......he says I should have trust in him.....I say when in a relationship you need to be an open book and not keep things from the other....
2006-07-02 10:17:31 · 4 answers · asked by M m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have mistrust in him....because he kept this from me.....and continued to chat with her....I know its my own fear.....the way I feel is that if I am in a relationship I treat it as somewhat a marriage....with honesty, caring, loving .....being an open book not keeping things from one another.....maybe I am just to old fashion in my thinking along with much fear....
2006-07-02 10:22:01 · update #1
I VERY WELL UNDERSTAND YOUR FEARS AND DISTRUST OF HIM. HE GAVE YOU REASON TO FEEL THIS WAY. MY FIANCE IS IN NY AND I AM IN NJ. WHEN WE FIRST STARTED SEEING EACHOTHER I WAS VERY INSECURE, BUT AS I CAME TO KNOW HIM AND DEVELOP OPENESS AND COMMUNICATION , ALL OF THAT INSECURITY VANISHED. WE HAVE A VERY OPEN RELATIONSHIP; YOUR FEELINGS ARE RIGHT. I SAY IF A MAN OR WOMAN IS DOING RIGHT, THEN THEY HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE. SUSPECTING SOMEONE IS UP TO NO GOOD IS ONE THING, BUT SEEING IT WITH YOUR OWN EYES IS ANOTHER THING ENTIRELY. GO WITH YOUR GUT FEELING. IT SEEMS TO ME THINGS WERE NOT AS THEY SHOULD HAVE BEEN. GOOD LUCK.
2006-07-09 10:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. We now live together and have a beautiful daughter. Our relationship started out as a long distance relationship, for 2 years. If I wouldn't have trusted him, or visa versa, we never would have lasted.
You need to be able to trust him or its not worth the stress in your life.
2006-07-02 10:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by Diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know I dated and married a guy off the net. It didn't work. Every guy I date off the net is addicted to the computer and they have 5 girlfriends in every friggin chat room there is. What did you expect? Sorry take the rose colored glasses off.
2006-07-02 10:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, long distance relationships never work. Secondly, long distance relationships don't work.
2006-07-02 10:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Grody Jicama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋